lawgirl79 Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 (edited) So I did a boudoir photo shoot and I know it was beneficial to me. I loved the experience and the photos look absolutely amazing. I am waiting on the album to arrive and plan on giving it to my husband for our Anniversary. I heard that the men don't really benefit from the photos. That most men think they are nice but could care less about it. So I wanted to get a man's take on them. If your wife or significant other gave you boudoir photos would you like it? What is your stance on them? Edited February 28, 2020 by lawgirl79 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 7 minutes ago, lawgirl79 said: If your wife or significant other gave you boudoir photos would you like it? What is your stance on them? seriously? I would laugh and then put them somewhere where they couldn't be found 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lawgirl79 Posted February 28, 2020 Author Share Posted February 28, 2020 Is it because your significant other is not attractive to you? Just wondering why you would laugh and put them where they could not be found? Not trying to pry to much. I like the details 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 Personally I think it's off the chain cool. Yes I would like my wife to give me some more. Her last photo shoot was last summer and the boudoir shoot had to be postponed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anotherfool Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 I would be glad that she felt enough about me to think of doing that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 1 minute ago, lawgirl79 said: Is it because your significant other is not attractive to you? Just wondering why you would laugh and put them where they could not be found? Not trying to pry to much. I like the details Ya what she said ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lawgirl79 Posted February 28, 2020 Author Share Posted February 28, 2020 I understand from a perspective why you would not want them if you are not attracted to your significant other. I guess my post should have been more towards the men that are attracted to their significant other. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 30 minutes ago, lawgirl79 said: I guess my post should have been more towards the men that are attracted to their significant other. I find my long term girlfriend attractive, but I think I would ask her why she spent money on a photo album when her car needs a new battery. At the end of the day, I can see her completely naked pretty much anytime I want. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 Don't know. Think I would have mixed feelings on that. While I like the idea... the reality is... 1) Why was the money spent on something I can't show anyone... and I get to see in real life. 2) I would be upset with my SO allowing someone to photograph her nude or even semi-nude. Because now... those photos are in possession of someone else. I guess I would kind of be upset depending on the situation. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 I'm not a man, but they feel kind of kitschy to me. But if you did it and had a great time, that's all that really matters! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 (edited) A bit hard to say. My wife simply isn't the type to do that (give me a boudoir photo shoot album as a gift). As pointed out I see her naked and/or in cute undies frequently (e.g. when she dresses after a shower). I suppose in my case, honestly, I'd see it as something she did for herself (ie, an ego boost) and then made a gift out of the photos to me. However, I'd show appreciation anyhow so as not to tick her off or make her feel unappreciated or have her think I don't find her sexy or similar. So, for me, a case where 100% honestly probably wouldn't be the best policy in a marriage. Something like doing a bit of a "fashion show" for me in lingerie or similar (particularly right before sex) is something I'd actually appreciate more. However every guy's a little bit different, so don't think all men think like I do on this. Edited February 28, 2020 by mark clemson Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 I know I'd feel really weird about that. I've taken pictures and videos OF MYSELF for exes - but it was things they specifically requested. The idea of paying someone to take racy pictures of me is just... I mean, I don't mean to make it sound like I extend this judgment to others who do such things - but for ME, I would feel really... err... self-aggrandizing? Like... I could never let myself get so stuck on myself that I feel the urge to pay someone to professionally immortalize my sexuality in carefully posed photographs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 2 hours ago, lawgirl79 said: So I did a boudoir photo shoot and I know it was beneficial to me. I loved the experience and the photos look absolutely amazing. I am waiting on the album to arrive and plan on giving it to my husband for our Anniversary. I heard that the men don't really benefit from the photos. That most men think they are nice but could care less about it. So I wanted to get a man's take on them. If your wife or significant other gave you boudoir photos would you like it? What is your stance on them? What? I had a girlfriend give me those for a Valentines Day present, loved them. She was wise on the jealousy issue, or maybe a bit shy herself, as she had a female friend take them and she developed them herself (she did photography as a hobby)...which kind of tells you how long ago that was. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 Surprised about the money issue people bring up. How expensive is it? I'm thinking maybe a $100-$200, not at a level that would cause me to bat an eye. The romantic Valentines Day dinner had recently was much more than that (with the wine). Concerts, sporting events, more expensive as well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 6 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Surprised about the money issue people bring up. How expensive is it? I'm thinking maybe a $100-$200, not at a level that would cause me to bat an eye. The romantic Valentines Day dinner had recently was much more than that (with the wine). Concerts, sporting events, more expensive as well. I think perhaps it's a reflection of the low value some place on it. You really enjoyed the photos so worth the seemly small cost. But if you felt "eh" about having those sort of photos, you might have preferred that the money be spent on a shared experience like a dinner or concert. Some guys really like having pictures of their lady, and others do not care as much. Also actual printed photos are becoming more and more a thing of the past. Once printed, what does one do with these? Keep them in a drawer and pulled them out and reminisce? I have some racy photos - my husband took them. They are in poses etc that he likes, and he has them digitally to take a peek at whenever he feels like. Not sure how much Boudoir photos cost, but I know the professional head shots I have costs more than $200, and didn't require a studio nor the time I imagine a boudoir shoot would take. Course like most things - I am sure there is wide variance in cost and quality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 Whatever. What's not to like. My only concern would be what if he decided to post them on the internet. And I wouldn't recommend making actual very revealing photos, but just sexy ones with clothes on. Otherwise, he might be like, So what photographer saw you undressed? Those things have a tendency to end up on the internet. What if he shows his best friend or brother or something. And then they do it. I am thinking of a sexy photo of a criminal profiler whose blog I used to follow, taken when she was young. It's not nude, but it's sexy and she's in a sexy pose. Anyway, she had an internet stalker, who was a rival profiler wannabe, who stalked her around the internet trying to ruin her reputation by posting that photo. Don't know where he got it, but she later started posting it herself just to preempt the strike. I think it was a model shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 29 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Surprised about the money issue people bring up. How expensive is it? I'm thinking maybe a $100-$200, not at a level that would cause me to bat an eye. The romantic Valentines Day dinner had recently was much more than that (with the wine). Concerts, sporting events, more expensive as well. Keep in mind... there are people of all levels on this board. (can't even afford a nice car) Also... for me... before the exW left... there was things like braces for the kids, and mortgage payments. Not to mention... the batteries in my boat are going to be 8 years old this spring... and I'm going to need $300 for that. To me... that would be a sexy gift. Her dressed in a new bikini, holding 2 new batteries. LOL !!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 I reckon they can afford it. Her name is Lawgirl. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 28 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said: Her dressed in a new bikini, holding 2 new batteries. LOL !!!!! I'd prefer mine to be holding a "Home Depot" gift card! Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 I'd appreciate it. Most of my exes and some flings have given me revealing photos, because they know I like them. One of my flings works in CGI professionally. She took nudes of herself against a green background, then created overlays with some wallpaper backgrounds of the style I like. You really have to look closely to see her. She clearly put a lot of work into it and I think they're amazing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 (edited) It’s more for the artistic element and yes for your own confidence. I got them done for a bf in the past as a v day gift. He appreciated it but honestly I think he fapped more to the ‘amateur’ iPhone pics I sent him Edited February 29, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 I bet your husband is going to love them. I think it was a great idea Link to post Share on other sites
some_username1 Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, Kitty Tantrum said: I know I'd feel really weird about that. I've taken pictures and videos OF MYSELF for exes - but it was things they specifically requested. The idea of paying someone to take racy pictures of me is just... I mean, I don't mean to make it sound like I extend this judgment to others who do such things - but for ME, I would feel really... err... self-aggrandizing? Like... I could never let myself get so stuck on myself that I feel the urge to pay someone to professionally immortalize my sexuality in carefully posed photographs. Agreed. Seems very narcissistic to me. As an aside, any online dating photo that has a woman posing in a studio has me thinking “what’s the deal here? Why would anyone pay to have photos done only of themselves in a studio facing away from the camera/looking melancholy etc”. Instant left swipe. As something for the self I can buy into it, to remind someone they are still hot etc, but to disseminate those photos....even as someone’s husband I’d be thinking it was too self-obsessed and it wouldn’t strike the right note. But that.’s just me. Edited February 29, 2020 by some_username1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 I would place less than zero value on sexy pictures my partner let someone other than me take. And if the photographer was male I'd have to spend my birthday killing him and disposing of the body. Making me dig a hole and drag a corpse around when I just want to relax and eat ice cream cake = bad birthday present. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 I dunno….I think it can be kinda cool.... I was at an event once where a photographer had set up a studio to take period era sexy shots of women like they did for the guys in WWII...They had other themes as well...By the looks of the line he had of people waiting to get in there, it obviously had a lot of appeal... If they are tastefully done and have some artistic flair, why not? TFY 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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