nunoxu Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 My girlfriend and I almost always argued every week and I hurt her feelings without knowing. I want to get back with her but she says she doesn’t want to until when she knows that I stopped doing this. But I don’t know how to prove to my girlfriend that I stopped being angry and have self control.
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Did you cause these arguments? Arguing every week sounds like a bad thing. Major changes can't happen quickly or in a vacuum. You may need time to learn more about yourself & effectuate real change. What exactly was making you so upset? You don't have to tell me or LS but you need to know
Redhead14 Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 2 hours ago, nunoxu said: But I don’t know how to prove to my girlfriend that I stopped being angry and have self control. Um, uh, no one changes overnight. No one. It would take quite a period of observation for her to feel comfortable about being with you again. And, frankly, if I were her, I wouldn't waste my time. There are lots of guys out there who do not have anger issues. You need to take some time for yourself to reflect on your anger and the cause and learn how to manage it and deal with the stressors that are causing this issue in a healthy way. It will take some time. If you are very young and, I suspect you are, go to a school counselor and explain what's been going on with you and they will direct you accordingly. 1 1
scooby-philly Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 OP, We need more information to help you. What was causing your anger? How did the anger manifest itself? What are some other important dynamics of the relationship - such as the length of time you've known each other, length of the relationship, are you living together, etc. stuff like that.
kendahke Posted March 4, 2020 Posted March 4, 2020 On 3/2/2020 at 5:06 AM, nunoxu said: My girlfriend and I almost always argued every week and I hurt her feelings without knowing. I want to get back with her but she says she doesn’t want to until when she knows that I stopped doing this. But I don’t know how to prove to my girlfriend that I stopped being angry and have self control. How much therapy have you undergone to work on this issue of anger/arguing/hurting people's feelings? And I'm talking how many months? Hot air is all your ex is hearing from you, with no proof that you've done anything like the work required to pull this out by its roots once and for all. Til then, nothing has changed and she knows it. You being lonely for an arguing partner doesn't change that.
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