dennzo Posted March 3, 2020 Share Posted March 3, 2020 Hi all, this is my first post, thanks for taking the time to read this. So 6 years ago me and an ex broke up. She was the love of my life. We were only together for a year, but i've never felt a connection like that ever. We live on the east coast. After we broke up she met someone on the west coast and moved out there to be with him. We hung out one time a year after we broke up, we got lunch, and it was incredibly obvious that there was still a spark, but she was with her then bf. I've had a few relationships since then, but she's still on my mind from time to time. I'm single now, and on a whim I added her on instagram a few months ago. she added me back. And we slowly started chatting. She's single as well now. The talking was very normal at first. Then it started to get flirtatious, and it's progressed to texting all the time, telling eachother we can't stop thinking about the other person, how we need eachother in our arms, and it's gotten very sexual as well. She'll write and send me hearts and say she's thinking about me when she wakes up, it's really sweet and it feels like a fresh thing. I'm planning to go out there to see her on the west coast end of the month for the weekend. So here's the fears. I'm terrified. The pain i felt after that breakup was hard. I'm terrified of getting hurt again. And i'm also scared she's going to get cold feet and cancel the plans or meet someone before then and lose interest in me. I don't want to lose her again. Anybody have success getting back with an ex? Thanks for taking the time. D Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 3, 2020 Share Posted March 3, 2020 What if things go great, would you consider moving cross country?? Or would she move back to the East Coast?? A very wise Hindu gentleman once told me "Control the controllables" meaning if you can't control it, don't waste time and energy worrying about it. Can you control if she changes her mind before your visit?? NO Can you control if she will meet someone in the interim?? NO Can you control her interest level in you?? NO There is no need in worrying about any of these items as you don't control them. As far as getting back with an ex-girlfriend, I had one "Fairly" successful instance, where this woman that had dumped me, called me up and asked me to come back. We re-united and everything was going great. Unfortunately, she had some family issues come up that forced her to move away, but I agreed with her decision to go help her family. We said "good bye" a second time, but I understood and it was mutual. Other than that... NO!! Each time I got back together with an ex-girlfriend, the issues we had (in the past) came back up and fairly quickly. Re-uniting with an ex rarely goes well. Please don't get your hopes up too high. Side note - Good luck with that long flight!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 3, 2020 Share Posted March 3, 2020 Why did you break up, OP? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2020 Share Posted March 3, 2020 Just go. Even if it doesn't work out you will find peace knowing that you tried. You may get out there to find she's changed & she's not the person she was back then. You may no longer want her. You will never know until you go. It also make be an epic love story. You gotta go to find out. Overcome your fear & go! Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted March 10, 2020 Share Posted March 10, 2020 Why did you break up to begin with? Link to post Share on other sites
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