How does it end?

[Broken86]

3 hours ago, mark clemson said:

It's called breadcrumbing. If you want to continue NC better stay firm, else you will get sucked back in (happens all the time).

You may need to block him if he keeps it up.

He tried texting for a few hours then tried to call once. I didn’t respond. And I’m hurting to my core. I think he gave up he hasn’t tried again for two hours

[Beca L]

9 hours ago, Broken86 said:

I’m freaking out. One week today. I made it one whole week and didn’t contact him. Hardest damn thing I’ve ever done in my life. It’s 9am on a Monday morning here and all of a sudden he texts me a photo. WHY???? What am I supposed to do here. I’m about to fall apart at work. 

Hi,

so sorry I only just saw your message. How are you? Hope you are ok. 

Did you reply to his texts? I think the best thing to do is ignore him for now, put some space between you and him. He isn't going to go away in a hurry but he needs to realise that he can't treat you like this. If he really wants a future with you then he will make the necessary steps to be with you. Don't accept anything less, otherwise he will do nothing and you will just remain his backup plan. Stay strong, we are all here for you. Congrats on making it to a whole week of NC. 

[Poppy's sister]

I am not sure how to advise as I am at two weeks mark and not a word from my AP. 

I hope you can main your dignity and nc.. Though I am desperately hoping my AP would reach out. 

But agree with everyone else.. You will just fall into same old push pull.. Breadcrumbs.. If these men finally decide we are absolutely what they want then they can come fight for us. 

I'd want more than a few txts and a photo.. I am going to want dozens of red roses, committed dates, and a lot of effort on his part

[Sinful]

On 3/4/2020 at 10:09 AM, Poppy's sister said:

Honestly not well... It just seems so unbelievable doesn't it... How they can just flip a switch.. 

That's the one thing that still gets me. It's like for years you're supposedly the most important person in the world to them and then the next day it's like you're not even a thought that crosses their mind. And then the other extreme of how they can so easily jump right into another relationship without batting an eye so to speak also baffles me. I may casually hookup with someone, but by no means could I emotionally jump into a new relationship so quickly.  

 

On 3/4/2020 at 11:17 AM, Poppy's sister said:

its his birthday today, i have sent an email 2 days ago , and a card today both saying i think we made a mess of the conversation and we both just are misunderstanding each other...and his present which i ordered weeks ago will be delivered to his office today..but its 16:15..and i have not had anything. It is making feel quite cross now...ok you want to be stubborn and not talk, fine , but you could at least say thankyou for the present . Which is something really unique and special..he races off shore yachts and i tracked down the photographer from a race he did several years ago and he found the most amazing picture of my AP's boat in full sail crashing through a wave...its stunning and i had it printed onto canvas. So its something really special.

wish i hadnt bothered now..wish id sent a new work shirt !

 

To me this breaks no contact. For me, no contact means NO contact. No emails, no texts, no calls, no sending packages, nothing. I know it hurts on special occasions not being able to contact that person but they have to feel your absence and feel what it's like for them not to have YOU in their life.

[crederer]

This happens in almost every affair. Look at the other threads. Once the excitement and thrill of it is over, it ends