Metsgal Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 When I was in high school, I would tell my closest friends that I would like to move to Los Angeles, or any part of Cali. Both of these 2 friends were in total disgust and told me that it was such a "bad idea" that there are "gangs, drugs, drive by shooters" and one even told me, "only if you are rich, you'll be able to live in a nice area." Okay, I'm like..what the heck? What they said are true, there are those things in Cali, but who wouldn't want to live in a the coast, tepid weather, ocean, actually things to see, instead of living in boring Kansas?!? I know a lot of people who move to LA, my former hairdresser moved there for her modeling gig, and her job as a hairdresser-she of course would have more opportunities there and she's doing just fine, she has friends who live out there so that helps. Then I told another friend that I would love to live in Florida , she was like, "why the hell you want to live there?" Its humid and its tourist attraction state..Just negative attitudes about my would be plans. Were they jealous because they know for a fact they will never get out of the state of Kansas , live on a farm and milk cows?!? I see nothing wrong with what my goals were at the time. Were they envious? Since, then, I never bother to tell ANYONE not even a friend about my plans. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 Stick to your goals. That's just their opinion. And some people are just critical of anything for little to no reason. You've got to do whatever makes you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 Come to the desert... On average 300 days of sunshine every year!! Arizona... its a dry heat!! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 (edited) Metsgirl, with all due respect, you're in your forties and getting all heated about a conversation which happened when you were in high school. Do you realise how self destructive it is to walk around with silly teenage girl voices in your head? Not sure how much later the conversation was regarding Florida, but it's not worth getting upset over. I actually doubt they were envious. More likely they just didn't see the attraction but lacked the tact (young people are particularly prone to this) to keep their opinions to themselves. Forget the voices from your past and live the live you want. Edited March 4, 2020 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 Have you moved yet? If not, why not? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 Some people just don't like change & are negative nellies about everything. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted March 5, 2020 Share Posted March 5, 2020 That was high school. Teenage girls being teenage girls who know nothing about the world at large. Why does this still bother you 20+ years later? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Metsgal Posted March 10, 2020 Author Share Posted March 10, 2020 I never thought about it "teenage girls being teenage girls." Since I considered those my friends, they should have been supportive at least. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 10, 2020 Share Posted March 10, 2020 If you put the word *should* in front of human behaviour, I can guarantee you will always be disappointed in others. The bigger question of why you carry this with you some 20 years on is the one you'd be worth exploring. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted March 10, 2020 Share Posted March 10, 2020 (edited) 42 minutes ago, Metsgal said: Since I considered those my friends, they should have been supportive at least. Have you ever considered that they WERE being supportive...as best as they could at that long-ago time...given their own limited views, understanding and ideas at the time??? Why cannot YOU, even after all this time, be supportive of them...and that they were only offering you the best that they had at the time? basil67's question is valid. Why is this still 'a bee in your bonnet', as the saying goes? YOU need to figure-out your own answer to that question. It is not on your high-school friends. Edited March 10, 2020 by Ronni_W Clarification 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted March 10, 2020 Share Posted March 10, 2020 7 hours ago, Metsgal said: I never thought about it "teenage girls being teenage girls." Since I considered those my friends, they should have been supportive at least. Are they still your friends? If not, then why does it matter now? Link to post Share on other sites
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