What happen?

[Theyoungin]

Me and this chick I met last January have been texting on and off since we last saw each other last March. I'll always try to link with her and she'll take a couple days to respond or something and I'll get kind of angry and pushy and I noticed shell never reply. But I could go months with out texting her and when I do she would always respond quickly and then she'll eventually become cold. Shell only respond quickly when I have ghosted after she's gone cold on me.

This time around, I texted her after months like I always do and she responded quickly again. But this time I didn't try to get her to go out of town like I always do, I had a lot of Vape Pens I was trying to sell and hit her up and told her if she wanted one to hit me up. She texted right back and said " Mhm you know I don't smoke those like that's " And I want to go out of town"...that through me off..so I asked her when and she says "soon". 3 days after I texted her to get a day and she texts right back " Monday, No Wednesday "...Wednesday comes and guess what? I hear nothing from her..so I don't react and waited a week to hit her up , I texted her " When you going to fall in line "..she texts right back " We can take a trip tomorrow"..she texts back 1hr later and says " You want to go tonight?"..I told her to hit me up when she headed my , I'm on the south side of town. I really didn't expect to hear from her .I fell asleep and woke around 4am and see she called me at 11:30pm and left a text saying "wyd". I texted her back but no response. I texted her and told her quit playing and let me know something. No response. I called her , she didn't answer. I told her if she don't text back I'm pulling up, no response. The next morning I texted her "Yo", no response. So I let a week pass by without texting her.


Side note: It's been a year since we have seen each other.

I texted her around 10 am after a week and say " Pack some clothes" " I'm pulling up today, were going out of town"
She wasn't replying back in a timely manner ( being the fact I have a block of texts she didn't reply to from last week) I didn't know if she was going to reply or not..so I decided to pull up to her crib. Fast forward..im 5 min away from her crib and she finally texts back " where are we going"...in my mind I'm like "damn" ( I thought she was going to reply back)..so I just say f*ck it I'm over here now..so I texted her and told her I'm going to pull up In a min...

5 min later I'm in front of her crib, I text her and tell her to come outside....she never replies..( she probably didn't know I was going to pull up ) I honestly think she was just going to let me sit there. So I got out the car and knocked on the door...she opens it within minutes and looks at me then her vibe changed quick and shes looking at me with a horrible look, disgusted look, looking me up and down in a defensive way..that instantly killed my confidence a little!! On the spot no lie. Her whole vibe was "defensive " looking around as if if she didn't know what I was up to. I told her to come out here , she says " What's up?"(What you want)(it's like she had her defenses up), which pissed me off in the inside cause we was just texting about what we was trying to do..smh... she's looking at me with alot of "Disdain and contempt"...I say " What you busy? I need to come back??"..she says with an attitude " Yes when I text you" (I knew then I shouldn't have pulled up the way i did) and at the same time she's looking me up and down in an unattractive/Disgusting way..

Her whole vibe was "Indifferent" and it was like I'm a "Stranger" , I asked her how long that was going to take...she never said anything..she was totally ignoring me..like I wasn't even there..as if I looked "Pathetic"...she wasn't doing it in a rude way more in a nice way , cordial way as if she was trying to escape the Awkwardness . As I'm talking to her she was picking her up her kid, I told her I'll wait for her hit me up and if she don't then f*ck it and she said "Okay" as if she didn't really care , and she already had her hand on the door before I was done talking. Im walking off and I can see her out the corner of my eyes standing in the door looking me up and down as if she didn't know who TF I was lol...imagine a stranger knocking on your door.....that's how the whole vibe was...It took all of that for me to realize that the last time we saw each other was last March..so it's been a year..she even gained a little weight. I should have called her and texted her a bit more before jumping the gun.

I remember months ago when she didn't text back and told her I was going to pull up she texted me back saying " See we not about to do this..you have to do better"

What was her problem??? Why did she switch up ???

[smackie9]

She's been bread crumbing you for a year...Why even bother?

[alphamale]

^^this

[Daisydooks]

The whole vibe here is way off. I am missing the part where you felt she wanted you to actually come over when you did. None of her behaviour suggests she has much interest so her being shocked you dropped in is not horribly shocking. She has constantly put you on ignore and is feeding you breadcrumbs. I'm not sure what the deal is, but this girl isnt the one for you and has VERY LITTLE INTEREST

What is with the going out of town stuff? Why not just take her to coffee? Dinner? Why make an entire awkward day of it? Lol. This whole situation, and both of your attitudes about it is so very strange to me. You mentioned being ignored with a solid block of texts. What made you think showing up was the next best step to take? Lol. This girl is yanking you around and likes the random attention. She is not at all serious about anything. Move forward and find someone else. If it's taken a year to get to where you are today with her, cut he cord and block the girl. She isnt that into you, friend! 

Edited March 4, 2020 by Daisydooks

[Daisydooks]

1 hour ago, Theyoungin said:

Why did she switch up ???

She didnt. She has never been into you. You have been chasing someone with no interest in you who likes attention, periodically and on her time only. She didnt switch anything. You're reading her incorrectly 

[Theyoungin]

54 minutes ago, Daisydooks said:

She didnt. She has never been into you. You have been chasing someone with no interest in you who likes attention, periodically and on her time only. She didnt switch anything. You're reading her incorrectly 

She hasn't switched anything up.  Most women, if they really aren't interested, will start off being nice and polite., few will just come out and tell you she isn't interested.  Now if your next question is "Why are women like this?"  Well, I have no idea... but I do know most women hate confrontation, and many would rather not sit around and try to rationally explain why she isn't feeling it, because she can't... she doesn't know.  Chemistry is what it is.

 

Don't beat around the bush, offer up a time/place/activity and if she says 'yes' then doesn't flake and/or actually shows up, then you know you are in the game, otherwise you don't have a shot.

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You have to THINK....that night she asked me if I wanted to go out of town that night and I told her to hit me when shes about to head my , she CALLED ME that night around 11pm and left a text....it's clearly visible she was ready to GO!!!!!!! So you can't say it wasn't any interest or chemistry ..she was READY TO GO!! I just wasn't awake to respond !!...even the day I pulled up on her and told her to pack her s*** and we going out of town..she responded and wanted to know where we were going.....meaning she was WITH IT !!!!!!..again you can't say it's no chemistry....or interested from her.....its right in your face she it was there.......what I need answers to is why her vibe was like that when I pulled up.........it doesn't take a rocket science to see where I'm coming from....if she wasn't interested why did she call me that night to go out of town??????

[Theyoungin]

57 minutes ago, Daisydooks said:

She didnt. She has never been into you. You have been chasing someone with no interest in you who likes attention, periodically and on her time only. She didnt switch anything. You're reading her incorrectly 

You have to THINK....that night she asked me if I wanted to go out of town that night and I told her to hit me when shes about to head my , she CALLED ME that night around 11pm and left a text....it's clearly visible she was ready to GO!!!!!!! So you can't say it wasn't any interest or chemistry ..she was READY TO GO!! I just wasn't awake to respond !!...even the day I pulled up on her and told her to pack her s*** and we going out of town..she responded and wanted to know where we were going.....meaning she was WITH IT !!!!!!..again you can't say it's no chemistry....or interested from her.....its right in your face she it was there.......what I need answers to is why her vibe was like that when I pulled up.........it doesn't take a rocket science to see where I'm coming from....if she wasn't interested why did she call me that night to go out of town??????

[Yosemite]

I think she thought that she was texting someone else. It’s been over a year since she's seen you and when you knocked on her door she didn’t know who you were. She didn’t know that the guy that she’s been texting was the guy standing at her door. She’s not interested in you, and she barely has any interest in the guy that she thought that she was texting.

Have you ever heard the saying that there are a million fish in the sea? You need to chant that saying every day until you truly believe and understand it. Once you understand it, you won't waste a year texting back and forth with someone who isn't interested in you.

Is this the same girl from your other thread? If so, she’s clearly not interested. If not, you have a pattern of pursuing women for literally years...that's stalkerish behavior and you need to stop. Set a rule for yourself that you'll try to connect with a woman for no longer than 3 weeks. If she doesn’t meet you in person or go on a date with you before the three weeks are up, then you delete her number and erase her from your mind. Forget this girl and the girl from your original thread and look for a girl that likes you back.

Edited March 4, 2020 by Yosemite

[Theyoungin]

7 minutes ago, Yosemite said:

I think she thought that she was texting someone else. It’s been over a year since she's seen you and when you knocked on her door she didn’t know who you were. She didn’t know that the guy that she’s been texting was the guy standing at her door. She’s not interested in you, and she barely has any interest in the guy that she thought that she was texting.

Have you ever heard the saying that there are a million fish in the sea? You need to chant that saying every day until you truly believe and understand it. Once you understand it, you won't waste a year texting back and forth with someone who isn't interested in you.

Is this the same girl from your other thread? If so, she’s clearly not interested. If not, you have a pattern of pursuing women for literally years...that's stalkerish behavior and you need to stop. Set a rule for yourself that you'll try to connect with a woman for no longer than 3 weeks. If she doesn’t meet you in person or go on a date with you before the three weeks are up, then you delete her number and erase her from your mind. Forget this girl and the girl from your original thread and look for a girl that likes you back.

I appreciate you for not being rude and I fully understand what your saying. I'm just confused at the fact that you can't say she wasn't INTERESTED...think...the night she asked me if I wanted to go out of town and I told her to hit me up when she's about to head to my side of town and she actually called and texted me later that night...but I was sleep and couldn't respond...think about that..clearly she was Interested if she was down to go out of town with me. Even the day I pulled up on her she texted back and asked where we was going ...just THINK....that's where my confusing comes in about this.

[K.K.]

It’s cute the way you say “just THINK” 

cause then I sit back and .. do. 😁
 

I told you weeks ago she was interested at one time. But she moved on now. There will come another chance. 
 

My question is why don’t you just give this same sort of thought to a new girl? One that wants you now? Instead of expending all of your energy on this girl? 

[preraph]

I don't know if you're the same guy, but I remember a very similar story from a year or something ago where you thought you could just wheel up to some woman's house who isn't interested in you.  Yeah.  No.  

 

She isn't interested.  She doesn't owe you anything. Leave her alone before she calls the police.

[Theyoungin]

2 minutes ago, K.K. said:

It’s cute the way you say “just THINK” 

cause then I sit back and .. do. 😁
 

I told you weeks ago she was interested at one time. But she moved on now. There will come another chance. 
 

My question is why don’t you just give this same sort of thought to a new girl? One that wants you now? Instead of expending all of your energy on this girl? 

 I feel you and appreciate you no being rude...but just think!!!! Right before I pulled up she asked " where were we going" it doesn't take rocket science to see she was INTERESTED !!! 

[Theyoungin]

3 minutes ago, preraph said:

I don't know if you're the same guy, but I remember a very similar story from a year or something ago where you thought you could just wheel up to some woman's house who isn't interested in you.  Yeah.  No.  

 

She isn't interested.  She doesn't owe you anything. Leave her alone before she calls the police.

THINK!!!!! She called me that night and was ready to go out of TOWN!!! so please don't say she want interested!!!! Even on the day before I pulled up she asked where we were going!!!!!! Please THINK!!!

[Yosemite]

21 minutes ago, Theyoungin said:

I appreciate you for not being rude and I fully understand what your saying. I'm just confused at the fact that you can't say she wasn't INTERESTED...think...the night she asked me if I wanted to go out of town and I told her to hit me up when she's about to head to my side of town and she actually called and texted me later that night...but I was sleep and couldn't respond...think about that..clearly she was Interested if she was down to go out of town with me. Even the day I pulled up on her she texted back and asked where we was going ...just THINK....that's where my confusing comes in about this.

The answer is in the first line of my post to you. She texted that because she thought that she was texting someone else. If she had known that it was you that she was texting, she never would’ve texted it because she’s not interested in you.

You didn’t answer my question, is this the same girl from your first thread? 

What do think about only trying to meet/date a girl for 3 weeks and if it doesn’t work out by then, you find another girl?

If you appreciate me not being rude to you, then why don’t you try not being rude to me? No one responding to you in this thread needs to be told to think. It’s extremely rude to say that to anyone especially someone who’s trying to offer you the advice that you asked for. 

[preraph]

She isn't interested.  You were pressuring her. She was caving to pressure.  You've been chasing her for a year, and she is NOT interested in you.   Maybe as a friend.  She's just trying to keep you from going off your nut with your bad temper.  If she was interested, something would have happened a long time ago.  But you've never shown her any courtesy.  You probably scare her.