Antonia3112 Posted March 6, 2020 Share Posted March 6, 2020 okay so I have been on my own for 3 years. i decided to try online dating. i started talking to this guy he told me he has 2 kids and has been single for 2 years and lives close to me literally up the road. after a month of chatting we decided to meet up. he kept standing me up for about a week. then he eventually turned up. he came into my house. we didnt have sexual intercourse the first time but we did the second time. he would call up unexpectedly (he said his mobile was broke) last thursday 27.02.20 was when I last saw him. he called up at night and I was just out of hospital that day. I felt something was off when he left. so I messaged his sister via facebook. turns out he lied about his name but his last name he told me the truth about (how I was able to find his sister) he lied about how many kids he has. (he has 4 and NOT 2 like he claimed) and he is still with the children's mum. so he got his fone back (apparently) on 5.3.20. I send him a message saying 'I need to see you its important' he said 'you got in touch with my sister! all he said was he was sorry and that I was a one night stand (he called up on more than one occasion) I have pictures of him and his kids. can someone help me or advise me on what to do? thank you Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 6, 2020 Share Posted March 6, 2020 Chalk it up as a bad experience, learn from it and move on. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted March 6, 2020 Share Posted March 6, 2020 Try to learn something about a partner before jumping in the sack with them or you'll get a repeat. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_star Posted March 6, 2020 Share Posted March 6, 2020 Sorry it was a bad experience. I dont like when people lie about basic things. It sounds like OLD is an escape for him and he is not serious about finding a long term partner on there at least not right now. He was most likely looking for female company, something that would be low investment to get what he wants out of it (sex likely). Before jumping into dating you should ask yourself what YOU want out of it..what your values and boundaries are. If you don't know and are willing to just "go with the flow" you will end up being in situations where you are subjected to this kind of treatment because you did not filter them out early enough. Not blaming you, but if you don't know what you want, and you are just taking whatever you get...then some of those experiences are not going to be great. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 7, 2020 Share Posted March 7, 2020 10 hours ago, Antonia3112 said: can someone help me or advise me on what to do? Delete the pictures of him and his kids and move on knowing you dodged a liar who denies his own children. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedOlive Posted March 10, 2020 Share Posted March 10, 2020 Ouch. Sorry you went through this. Make sure to get yourself tested for STI’s, too, if you haven’t already. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beendaredonedat Posted March 10, 2020 Share Posted March 10, 2020 (edited) Quote can someone help me or advise me on what to do The fact that you even need to ask that question tells me that you are far too naive to be trying to find a partner on line. I suggest you work on your confidence with the help of a therapist if need be and stay away from dating until you're confident enough to abstain from having sex with a virtual stranger. The fact that he stood you up should have had you blocking and deleting him instead of what you did. Sorry this happened to you but there is nothing you should do except take this as a lesson learned and to work on your self worth so you truly believe that you deserve someone who would never stand you up, and that anyone that would do that doesn't deserve to ever meet you in the future. Edited March 10, 2020 by Beendaredonedat 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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