Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 18, 2020 Author Share Posted March 18, 2020 (edited) 35 minutes ago, preraph said: Well it's not your looks. And maybe you are confident enough with women. I mean there are other reasons you can fail. I guess check all your hygiene. Just in case. If you are wearing the same clothes you had on first the last several years, update your clothing and don't just buy the same type stuff over and over. ask somebody at a department store to help you modernize. Your hair looks nice. You don't need to change that. you're self-conscious about your teeth and you're already talking about having them done so you may as well do that and get that off of your worry plate. If you have any personality quirks that anyone has mentioned that might be standing in your way you might let us know what they are. Also, on the romantic attachments you have had however brief, you might give us an idea of what you think were the reasons it ended, what you disagreed about, that sort of thing. I dont think i have bad breath or anything. I dont see women not wanting to kiss me or continue to kiss me. I dress farily casual, t shirt and jacket normally. Im quite fit so i try and wear a decent fitting tshirt without being stupid. I cant think of any quirks. The girl i had the most serious relationship with left me for someone else. The previous one did the same. I had a causual thing with a woman who was well up in her 40s last year she thought i was the best thing since sliced bread and fell in love with me and it ended badly and i had to block her. The large age gap and the fact she drunk too much was no use. Then there was another who was a single mum who wanted a casual thing. She was really nice but i can never see myself being dad to another persons kid tbh. She kinda fell for me too. If she had been childless things might have progressed. I was on 4 dates with one who ticked all the boxes. I felt we had amazing chemistry. She seemed pretty interested. She was sending me sexy pics between dates etc. I was meant to go to hers for date 5 and she had made it quite clear what she was going to do to me when i got there. The day before i went to travel to see her i messaged her to arrange times etc and i got told where to go. Your guess is as good as mine as to why she changed her mind Trust me ive wracked my brain trying to think what ive done wrong. I cant find an answer Edited March 18, 2020 by an0nym0us123 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 Maybe the one who didn't go on date 5 made promises she then felt funny about keeping! So then it was awkward. Anyway it doesn't sound like you have no luck. You just haven't found the right one yet. and yell as you get older and your dating pool gets older some of them will have kids. I understand why you wouldn't want to. But at some point you might have to date one with kids that are already older or something. Dating is always a numbers game and the more people you meet the better chance you got of meeting the right one. The more activities that you enjoy that you go do that involve women, the more likely you are to hit it off with one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 18, 2020 Author Share Posted March 18, 2020 Ive been through a string dates recently that came to nothing. One made an excuse to end the date then went home and blocked me. The last one was about 5 weeks ago and she was quite an average girl but we seemed to hit it off and were kissing at the end of the night. She got home and said it was really good to see me etc. 2 days past and i never heard a thing so i messaged her and got a few replies then she just stopped responding. With all the disappointments and now the virus ive deleted my apps so i would be on any dates for a while i guess. Ive met 30 odd now i think at some point ill just call it a day, no point banging your head on a wall. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sinful Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 7 minutes ago, an0nym0us123 said: Ive been through a string dates recently that came to nothing. One made an excuse to end the date then went home and blocked me. The last one was about 5 weeks ago and she was quite an average girl but we seemed to hit it off and were kissing at the end of the night. She got home and said it was really good to see me etc. 2 days past and i never heard a thing so i messaged her and got a few replies then she just stopped responding. With all the disappointments and now the virus ive deleted my apps so i would be on any dates for a while i guess. Ive met 30 odd now i think at some point ill just call it a day, no point banging your head on a wall. I'm assuming these dates you're referring to you met through OLD sites? Online dating, IMO, is a lot different from normal dating where you meet and have some sort of personal interaction with the person (or possibly know the person in some capacity) before hand. When you meet a girl personally and then ask her out, she's already had some interaction with you and obviously likes you enough to go out with you. When you meet a girl online the 1st personal encounter is usually on the date, so you each have no idea what the other is really like in person and that can make things even more difficult and awkward. Throw in lack of confidence, and negative energy and it's just a matter of time before the person decides they're not feeling you and then you get ghosted. Now if you're meeting these girls out in normal scenarios and you're still having problems then you may need to also look more at what specifically you're doing, action and convo wise that might be turning your dates off to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 18, 2020 Author Share Posted March 18, 2020 All the dates are from old. My ex gf i met in real life and she pursued me. Ive had women from back in the day chase me too. Seems to be nearly impossible to impress anyone in my dating range say 28 to 36 ish Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 It's easier to impress younger women. Go for that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 18, 2020 Author Share Posted March 18, 2020 When i was 20 to 23 i had numerous 18 to 20 year olds try it on. My ex was actually over 10 years younger. Tbh that was a mistake on my behalf but i only expected it would last a few weeks. Im too old to be dating 20 year olds now and tbh most seem pretty immature. 7or 8 years younger max 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 How about a 25 year old woman instead? Link to post Share on other sites
Sinful Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 14 minutes ago, an0nym0us123 said: All the dates are from old. So my question is, why are you not willing or able to meet girls in real world environments as opposed to OLD sites? Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 3 hours ago, an0nym0us123 said: When i was 25 i could bench 305 pounds and deadlift almost 500 while under 12stone bodyweight. Im not as crazy any more. I just work out to stay in shape basically See. same ol again , you think a woman gives a fk how much you bench press or lift. Right through this thread you sound like your tryin to sell a damn car. Got it allllllll wrong my friend , that's your problem. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 19 hours ago, ZA Dater said: Its all you can really do, don't give up completely, if I were you I would take a break, lift the weight of dating off your shoulders for a while. People here wont ever admit it but frankly the text book theory never really works in reality. What's the text book theory? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 19, 2020 Author Share Posted March 19, 2020 17 hours ago, chillii said: See. same ol again , you think a woman gives a fk how much you bench press or lift. Right through this thread you sound like your tryin to sell a damn car. Got it allllllll wrong my friend , that's your problem. Ive never told a woman how much i can bench press so your point is irrelevant Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 19, 2020 Author Share Posted March 19, 2020 19 hours ago, Sinful said: So my question is, why are you not willing or able to meet girls in real world environments as opposed to OLD sites? Remote location mainly. Although i do go out i cant say i ever get any interest these days. Even though this past year i have felt confident enough to talk to girls at bars etc. In the past id just keep my head down Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 (edited) Just download tinder and meet women there. Or bumble. Bumble is pretty chill. The man can't initiate anything, he just waits and let's the woman do most of the initial work. Quote See. same ol again , you think a woman gives a fk how much you bench press or lift. Right through this thread you sound like your tryin to sell a damn car. Got it allllllll wrong my friend , that's your problem. Many women do. I once got talking to this woman, online. Back then she used to work as a nude model for an online internet magazine that caters to young men, so she's really into fitness. We trade pictures, she thinks I'm real cute - maybe she was drunk but we can't account for personal taste! - but she tells me that I'm too skinny, and that if I want to hook-up with her, I need to bulk up because she likes the Ryan Gosling look in The Place Beyond the Pines(how many hot women do not like muscular men? 🤣) so I spent a good amount of time bulking up and getting cut, which is something that I abhor because I genuinely feel that the bodybuilding industry is a scam, and then she actually asked me how much I bench press 🤣 In any case, it was all worth in the end. She also wanted me to get tattoos, but hey, a guy gotta draw a line even though he destroyed and rebuilt his body just for one woman 🤣 Edited March 19, 2020 by Azincourt Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 19, 2020 Author Share Posted March 19, 2020 Yeah most of the dates came from tinder, currently off it because of the coronavirus and because i got fed up. I may or may not rejoin in the future Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 3 minutes ago, an0nym0us123 said: Yeah most of the dates came from tinder, currently off it because of the coronavirus and because i got fed up. I may or may not rejoin in the future Yeah, tinder is probably the easiest way these days for a guy to meet women, it saves on the dinner dates that many women seem to be into, in ''real life,'' plus you already know if she's attracted to you or just fishing you out for some free meals, like it can easily happen if you just meet women outside of online apps. Quote A young New Yorker we'll call Minerva McGonagall* was tired of dipping into her savings to keep up with her Manhattan lifestyle. Quote McGonagall started eating out five nights a week using a rotation of different guys she met through the dating site. McGonagall kept things simple—no more than five dates with the same guy. Quote McGonagall went from easily spending $500 a month on dinners alone to having someone else dole out an average of $60-plus per night. She also stopped eating lunch and opted for a light breakfast to save even more. 🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 19, 2020 Author Share Posted March 19, 2020 Normally first dates were drinks, bowling or a walk somewhere. Most women didnt seem to want dinner as its pretty awkward for a first date and i agree. Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 Millennial or generation X women? Young millennial women seem to care about gender equality where it concerns dating, and pay for their share, from what I and most of my friends who are 18-35 report back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author an0nym0us123 Posted March 19, 2020 Author Share Posted March 19, 2020 The age range was around 26 to 37 i think. Most seemed happy to pay for second round of drinks etc. No issue there 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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