Putting a wedding together by Saterday.

[blind love]

So Saturday my in-laws came to lunch.  Father in-law lets the cat out of the bag about having stage 3 cancer.  He came out and said that he wanted to walk his daughter down the aisle and wanted me to cook him a full on BBQ feast.  We did not have the heart to tell him we got married 2.5 years ago.  When we got together 19 years ago and did not get married due to financial issues.

Wife told me flat out to stop asking her about what she wants as long as I sing her down the aisle, sing at the dinner afterwords, and I make the same wedding cake as I made her when we eloped.  She told me she doesn't want to know any of the details and when I try to ask her a question about what she wants she cuts me off.

 

So after a bunch of calling our wedding date is Saturday.  I have most of everything worked out, but have some questions...

Are homemade jewelry boxes OK for bridal gifts?  If not what can I order last minute?

Do the groomsmen get gifts?  Is a bottle of homemade mead good and if not whats can I order last minute?

Wife's seeing eye dog...  Dose my wife take her seeing eye dog down the aisle with her dad or just let her lie down someplace?

What you sing to her down the aisle?  My top songs first...  Just The Way You Are (I have mixed feelings as she's blind).  Can't Help Falling In Love.  A Thousand Years.  I could also do a duet with our daughter...  More Than Words.  Time After Time.  Hallelujah.

Is homemade goats milk soap with custom labels OK for wedding gifts (I need to let them know by Tuesday at noon so they can print the labels)?  If not what to order?

[preraph]

It all sounds good to me. I guess it's up to your wife about the seeing eye dog. I would think she might want to have her. 

 

Now at the wedding, are the other guests going to already know you are already married and let that slip? Maybe you can simplify the whole thing and just renew your vows. 

 

I wouldn't worry about custom labels and all that kind of detail. Maybe just go to a fabric store or something and put a little skinny bow around each soap. 

 

Not sure what your customs are so I guess they vary from place to place. You might need to ask someone local about whether you even are supposed to gift everyone. Certainly a nice gesture. 

 

Sounds like your wife will like anything as long as you're singing!

[blind love]

The custom labels for the soap only adds $8.00 to the cost for 45.  We only sent indentations for 35 people.  The labels are a little more artsy and have our name and date on them.  I kinda want to make sure I get some of the little details as this is what others will talk about and this is what she will remember.

The only one that knows were married is the preacher.  Our kids don't even know were married.

I have no idea as to what the local customs are.

Money is not an issue.  I don't want to skimp out, but at the same time there are limits of what you can do in under a week.  When we first got together we did not get married because of health insurance issues.  She changed her last name to mine when she got pregnant.

[blind love]

Someone should of slapped me sooner.  I have put together plenty of BBQ's for 40 people over the years at our place, but having it somewhere else is just insanity with just a weeks notice is crazy.  Forget the part of having a wedding to go with it makes it worse.  To many details for one person to deal with in a week.

I asked my wife why I'm doing this at dinner tonight and all she could do was LOL at me...

[blind love]

We got married again.  Everything went well.  My father in law knows with everything going on it will be the last time he sees a lot of his family and said his good byes.

I will never though a party that's not held at my garage again.  This was nice because the church help with setup, tear down, and did the clean up when we left.  But the logistics and the stress was not worth it...