don't know why my ex is behaving like this

[CherryAcid]

My partner recently broke up with me via a WhatsApp message, telling me that she would like to call the relationship off due to a reaction I had to something she sent me. She refused to talk to me about it. This was two days after me asking her if everything between us was alright to which she replied, "We are great, if there is anything wrong i will let you know."

Since, she has told people she broke it off because we were fighting all that week (we weren’t, it was a tough week, we both suffer depression, but we most certainly weren’t fighting); and that i was hardly talking to her even though i was, even if it was awkward. So there are three reasons for the break up.

She has been speaking to people telling them the reason she broke up via a text message was because all the signs were there, that i saw it coming. I didn’t, not at all. She is also telling people that she never told me that “We’re great,” insisting that all the signs of an impending break up were there and i just didn’t see them.

Anyway, i was on the verge of asking her to give us another try, but since hearing of her denial of things that she said, i’m not sure. Perhaps this speaks to her character? I don’t know. What i do know is that it hurt me deeply, and now it’s hurting even more to know that she’s denying things she ACTUALLY TOLD ME!!  Which makes me think, what love did she really have for me? What respect? If she can lie to make me look stupid / the villain / the victim?

I suppose i just want to hear some thoughts and advice. Thank you.

[d0nnivain]

Let her go.  Anybody who breaks up over an app is heartless, cruel & to be avoided.  I'm not talking 2-3 dates.  You were in a relationship & have friends in common.  She is just awful for picking that method. A good person would have spoken to you face to face out of respect & compassion.  

Now you also know she's lying, two-faced & trying to make herself look good.  Why would you be with such a person? 

As for what she's saying to others, you need to take the high road.  When you hear of these stories, you roll your eyes & cryptically reply "that's an interesting version of what happened.  She & I know the truth.  Whatever, it's in the past.  We are broken up."   Then you smile & change the subject.  Quality people will respect your dignity.  The gossips may try to pry but they you will have identified more people who need to be dropped from your life.  

[mark clemson]

Yeah, clearly she doesn't know how to break up in a mature and reasonable fashion. The positive side (to the extent there is one) is that she has shown some real down sides to her personality, so you can see there would be no point trying to get her back or similar. Who wants to ever deal with this type of thing.

[K.K.]

9 hours ago, CherryAcid said:

My partner recently broke up with me via a WhatsApp message, telling me that she would like to call the relationship off due to a reaction I had to something she sent me.

What did she send you though?

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She refused to talk to me about it.

What did she send you? What was your reaction? 

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This was two days after me asking her if everything between us was alright to which she replied, "We are great, if there is anything wrong i will let you know."

Well, have you ever been involved with somebody and it’s getting kind of strained and then they make a seemingly innocent comment... but to you, it just puts the last nail in the coffin because you’re just too freaked out or disappointed by whatever they said that all you want to do is get as far away from them as possible? 

Maybe that’s the case here? 

It wasn’t nice of her spreading lies about you though that’s just ruthless. 

Edited March 9, 2020 by K.K.
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