Betrayed&Stayed Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 17 hours ago, Robert2016 said: One of the most important things you'll ever do for your kids is 'who' you pick to be their mother. They don't have kids (which makes his decision to divorce a no-brainer) Link to post Share on other sites
colingrant Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 You post infrequently, so time that has elapsed in between, leaves you with many words. Don't worry about length. In fact the lengthier, the better in a sense in that you can dump all this stuff to strangers just for the sake of dumping it. I don't think you post enough, as after each one, I keep thinking, there's a lot more to this that's not being said, but he's probably overwhelmed, plus he has a job to tend to. Disregard wordiness, as your in the middle of a life altering period, and there aren't too many of those. Do what you need or want to do. It's possibly therapeutic, so go with the flow. Link to post Share on other sites
Difficultstuff Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 Sorry to hear about her parents, that must have been rough, and I can imagine has had some role in her current situation. I guess I was hoping there were some other friends she might be able to turn to, or at least other people you could share the burden with. But perhaps that'll become clearer in a few weeks. You seem really committed to your course of action, and obviously still deeply involved and emotionally taxed by all this, which is understandable. So I'll just offer the basic advice to make sure you take some time and space to yourself to slow down, begin to carve out your own, separated life (or at least think about it) and take care of your own needs as all this activity occurs in the next few weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 Hope you are doing well pindrop. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 How are you pindrop? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
scotchnstout Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 Always come back to check up on your posts, because this really hit me hard man, hope your on a path to healing, well as much as you can, cause this ish don't get better it gets more tolerable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Buffer Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 Brother how are you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Honest_Interest Posted June 2, 2020 Share Posted June 2, 2020 I dont know if your still checking in PinDrop but we're all wondering how you are travelling with all of this 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DrGroovy88 Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 Hi PinDrop...just thinking about you and hoping things are ok. I’m a couple years out and it still breaks my heart to think about - so checking in to see if you’re needing anything. Take care ❤️ Link to post Share on other sites
merrmeade Posted July 13, 2020 Share Posted July 13, 2020 (edited) I just discovered this thread most of which is several months old. The topic starter has not been back, only concerned citizens. At first, after reading, I just thought What a story! —handsome, successful doctor/researcher; wife on drugs; chance discovery of tawdry sex caught on security camera; porn star stock character replete with tattoos, 7-pack and supernatural cock; gorgeous PA with unrequited attraction to BS , wife’s lack of family/BS’s Decision to rescue and take her to Europe for treatment. Then there were the interest/credibility elements - wife’s meth-addled brain (least convincing factor btw), author’s extraordinary writing and assimilation of infidelity psychology. I thought we had a hoax. A good one, maybe even a really good, successful, writer who does his research, walking himself through the plot for authenticity. But then I realized anyone could’ve said the same thing about my story — post bone marrow transplant husband/WS, left alone in family cabin in the woods by BS living abroad, cheats with wife of BS’s quadriplegic brother, confined to nursing home following massive stroke, while ostensibly helping sister-in-law, kids and BS’s dad. Who could fault skepticism of that??? Beside it’s a trauma I wouldn’t disrespect for any reason. So I’ll believe and ask to know more. What happened in Europe, Pin? Is the wife still out, no chance of reconciliation? PA still in the picture? That said, here’s my two cents: THAT glimmer of “remorse“ was way too soon, not credible, not trustworthy. Remorse takes years—full on, self-effacing humility graced with palpable empathy, maintained by self-knowledge. Nothing less. Then maybe forgive and trust if you still care. Edited July 13, 2020 by merrmeade 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Tempocontour316 Posted October 10, 2020 Share Posted October 10, 2020 I hope you are doing ok. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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