jst4today Posted March 12, 2020 Share Posted March 12, 2020 (edited) He lead me on after our breakup for months. A few weeks ago I texted him "I miss you"... No response. I then said "you're never going to feel the same about me again are you?" he replies with something along the lines of "ugh fine if you want it to be like this then no, as of right now, but like I said we can't predict the future... Don't just write me off forever though." Immediately after that response I stopped texting him and now I've FINALLY powered through almost a month of no contact. He hasn't reached out. Any thoughts on his mindset or what my next step should be? (besides focusing on myself--I'm definitely working on all that. I'm not obsessing over the situation however he still crosses my mind and I really do miss him.) Edited March 12, 2020 by jst4today Misspelled Link to post Share on other sites
Negotaurus Posted March 12, 2020 Share Posted March 12, 2020 They never "lead people on" when the people aren't enabling them to do just that. They don't have magical powers over anyone. It is what it is. And I know it hurts and sucks terribly. Give it time, pamper yourself, meet new people. Time heals, trust in it. You'll be perfectly okay again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jst4today Posted March 12, 2020 Author Share Posted March 12, 2020 Mislead* me Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2020 Share Posted March 12, 2020 You want reconciliation. You are begging & chasing him. He was polite. But right now in the short term -- at least over the next 1-2 years -- you need to fully disconnect from him. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 12, 2020 Share Posted March 12, 2020 So don't write him off for what? In case he decides he's got no one else to have sex with? I mean, clearly, he's done with you or he wouldn't be gone. You need to date other guys and forget about this one. Link to post Share on other sites
girlinNYC Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 No response is a response. I think the double text came across to him as needy and therefore situations like that men often avoid. From the first message he could deduce you missed him (and he’s on your mind). To receive a follow up text would come across to him as obsessive - even though you might not be obsessing, he doesn’t know that and all he can see is someone double texting. Let no contact be your course of action from here on out. Continue to work on yourself and your inner strength. That will pave the best foundation for any future relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 (edited) On 3/11/2020 at 11:59 PM, jst4today said: he replies with something along the lines of "ugh fine if you want it to be like this then no, as of right now, but like I said we can't predict the future... Don't just write me off forever though." Don't accept this. You are "plan B" and/or an emotional fallback. You get to wait while he goes out and sleeps with others and he knows if he blows it you'll be waiting and willing to take him back. Forget that, just hold your head up high and walk away for good. When he finally gets back around to you (IF that ever happens) you'll hopefully be able to tell him you've moved on to someone else you like a lot better and he blew his chance when he had it. Even if you can't say that, you shouldn't take him back - he'll never respect you. Edited March 13, 2020 by mark clemson clarity 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 Leave him be. Let him reach out to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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