Can't say I feel like dating until the Covid-19 subsides....

[Ellener]

My match.com profile isn't visible since I was seeing someone, but I think I'll wait now.

Are other people still going out on dates? I do have an anxiety disorder! could just be my neuroses kicking in...

[nospam99]

I posted about this in a Dating topic. I'm not going to group events. Being a guy, OLD women (that I'd be willing to date) rarely contact me. So I'm of the gender that has to cast the fishing lines. I've always been highly selective, moreso now than when there was no covid-19. Two dates in the last year, both prior to the covid-19 scare, neither woman wanting to continue.

I've been a subscriber on match.com since Nov '17. However with their recent change to the User Interface that removed almost all of the viewable information about what other people are 'looking for', it's now impossible for me to filter women who will date a man of my age, height, location, body type, religion, and nine other less critical characteristics. So at the moment I am planning to not renew my subscription.

[Erik30]

I don't have any profiles up right now. I was planning to try Tinder again, but I  also think I'll wait. Everything "social" in my country is closed anyway, so I couldn't even go for drinks on a first date. 

Maybe I'll date when things are a bit back to "normal," and all the bars and restaurants are open again. I don't really feel comfortable being outside, I can't even go the gym because that's also closed.

I might create a profile in a week or two, if the situation doesn't get any worse. I'll probably won't go out to meet anyone, but I'm fine with just getting some matches and having conversations with girls 

[SumGuy]

Not going out and certainly would not date.  
Only way to get the reproduction number down is strong social distancing.  

It really is about overloading the system, the fatality rate is in low single digit % with treatment.   But 20% get severe symptoms that require respirators etc., i.e. hospitalization.   
Overwhelm the system and that single digit fatality rate goes to double digits as there is not enough hospital beds, in Italy it was 7% as of yesterday.  
As you can spread it when you are asymptomatic, your civic duty is to stay home.  

[Miss Spider]

I’m not on dating apps/sites and haven’t been for a few weeks now. But that’s for other reasons. I will totally still go on dates if I meet someone I liked. 

Edited March 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[simpycurious]

26 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I’m not on dating apps/sites and haven’t been for a few weeks now. But that’s for other reasons. I will totally still go on dates if I meet someone I liked. 

I agree.  I am not going to live in a bubble.  Take certain precautions sure but abandon all the things that I love to do and places that I enjoy going.

 

[Miss Spider]

16 minutes ago, simpycurious said:

I agree.  I am not going to live in a bubble.  Take certain precautions sure but abandon all the things that I love to do and places that I enjoy going.

 

Yes same. Not going to go busy places where people are packed like sardines,, but I’m not going to freak out and become a shut in and  I’d totally go to the ocean with you, simpy ! 

Edited March 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[simpycurious]

1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said:

Yes same. Not going to go busy places where people are packed like sardines but I’ll totally go to the ocean with you, simpy 

You are always welcome Ms Cookie.  There's  a steady breeze, crystal white sand, bright sunshine, and a blue ocean.  And RECREATIONAL
SPACE to roam about.  

[Ellener]

5 hours ago, SumGuy said:

your civic duty is to stay home.  

I haven't been staying home but avoiding crowds and trying to only socialise outdoors for weeks.

The woman I share a house with went to one of the few large events this weekend though, and doesn't seem to take it as seriously as I do about the 6 feet rule and hygiene...I cleaned the house top to bottom whilst she was gone and made it easier to manage if we do get sick. The first positive test in the town she was partying occured last night, so I expect there will be criticism of local government for letting the event go ahead...everything else is postponed or cancelled.

[Erik30]

10 hours ago, SumGuy said:

As you can spread it when you are asymptomatic, your civic duty is to stay home.  

Yeah in some European countries you're now not even allowed to go outside. You can only go grocery shopping and then have to go straight back home. Police officers are patrolling the streets to make sure it stays empty. I don't know if it's going to be like that everywhere... 

[Erik30]

6 hours ago, Ellener said:

10 hours ago, SumGuy said:

your civic duty is to stay home.  

I haven't been staying home but avoiding crowds and trying to only socialise outdoors for weeks.

The woman I share a house with went to one of the few large events this weekend though, and doesn't seem to take it as seriously as I do about the 6 feet rule and hygiene...

That would make me so mad... it's because of people like that that the virus is spreading. It's weird how you still have these big events in some places, like people think it's not a big deal at all 

[Blind-Sided]

I'm not on OLD... but there is NO WAY I would "Date" someone that I didn't know right now.  I went out the other night, but the risk was still low where I'm at... and I knew the girl. (Friend of a friend)

Where I'm at now... schools have closed, restaurants have closed, and they called for all events over 50 to be closed.  I really thing the all of the OLD apps should also do the right thing, and shut down their services.

[elaine567]

8 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said:

I went out the other night, but the risk was still low where I'm at... and I knew the girl. (Friend of a friend)

As if that makes any difference...

[Blind-Sided]

You are right.  I could have it right now, and could have given it to her.

[Ellener]

2 hours ago, Blind-Sided said:

You are right.  I could have it right now, and could have given it to her.

Whilst there are no certainties it's definitely about risk minimisation and harm reduction.

People who ignore the advice to avoid crowds or shake hands etc are quite likely to continue on regardless and be irresponsible when they develop a fever or cough.

I've even heard people saying just as with climate change even when it started causing global flood problems 'it's all a hoax'. 

We flooded horribly after Hurricane Harvey here in the world's foremost 'sinking city' and a handful of people still said 'it's a hoax'- there's a small subset of people who deal with things by going into denial and anger I guess. But the people who survive stay calm and try to ascertain facts and follow sensible guidelines.

4 hours ago, Erik30 said:

That would make me so mad... it's because of people like that that the virus is spreading. It's weird how you still have these big events in some places, like people think it's not a big deal at all 

She had in a visiting neighbour last night who stated boldly 'this is a Chinese virus' so I left, we shouldn't be having visitors in my opinion now, especially ones who don't 'believe' in the pandemic...but I'm surprising myself how calm I am even in the face of alarming stupidity.

Edited March 16, 2020 by Ellener
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[Azincourt]

17 hours ago, Ellener said:

My match.com profile isn't visible since I was seeing someone, but I think I'll wait now.

Are other people still going out on dates? I do have an anxiety disorder! could just be my neuroses kicking in...

Yeah, I can't really blame you. I've been stocking food, medical provisions, soap, toilet paper( 🙃) water, and other essentials and what not for years, because hey, you never know what can happen so I don't need to get out of the house. And I haven't. As soon as China was upfront with what was going on, I locked the door, turned the phone off and now I'm just waiting for the virus to go away or for them to come up with a vaccine for it.  I can manage to stay in-doors for a few years with what I have saved up, but they'll probably get it fixed within the next few months, or even less.

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Yeah in some European countries you're now not even allowed to go outside. You can only go grocery shopping and then have to go straight back home. Police officers are patrolling the streets to make sure it stays empty. I don't know if it's going to be like that everywhere... 

Italy is on a nation-wide lockdown. People aren't even allowed to get out of the house to chill in public parks. All of the Country is a red zone. They can only leave their buildings to buy food, water, and medical products. Spain has the borders closed, and there are a few more European Countries that are going to lock their Countries from what I've been following.

Edited March 16, 2020 by Azincourt

[d0nnivain]

With bars, restaurants, parks & other places of public accommodation being shut down, where would you go on a date anyway?  

[Erik30]

1 hour ago, Ellener said:

She had in a visiting neighbour last night who stated boldly 'this is a Chinese virus' so I left, we shouldn't be having visitors in my opinion now, especially ones who don't 'believe' in the pandemic...but I'm surprising myself how calm I am even in the face of alarming stupidity.

That's insane... I don't blame you at all for leaving. It must be awful having a roommate who is basically putting you at risk in your own home 

[Azincourt]

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With bars, restaurants, parks & other places of public accommodation being shut down, where would you go on a date anyway?  

True, it's not like they're going to hang out together in one of their houses when they barely know each other.

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That's insane... I don't blame you at all for leaving. It must be awful having a roommate who is basically putting you at risk in your own home 

 

A friend called me today to tell me about this old lady in the coffee shop. She gets there and what does she do? She  asks the waiter if it's okay for her to be there since she was infected with the virus.

Yes. Instead of being home to keep other people safe.

So many people are so selfish.

[Ellener]

3 hours ago, Erik30 said:

That's insane... I don't blame you at all for leaving. It must be awful having a roommate who is basically putting you at risk in your own home 

She's sick in another way, unfortunately.

I am starting to see because of my own ( well-managed ) mental illness I am being way too tolerant of other people's problems...when all this is sorted I'll find my own place. Until then I'll just make the best of it and be as kind as I can, and calm as I can.

[Miss Spider]

So all restaurants and bars are closed around me for the next couple weeks. ... So basically all people can do now is Netflix and chill if they want to date... Ew. COVID-19 isn’t going to be the worst virus going around....

Edited March 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[RecentChange]

17 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

So all restaurants and bars are closed around me for the next couple weeks. ... So basically all people can do now is Netflix and chill if they want to date... Ew. COVID-19 isn’t going to be the worst virus going around....

Yeah I saw a funny post from a friend of mine.

Basically said if you have teenagers, make sure that birth control is readily available to them - otherwise we are going to see a new wave of grandparents!

[simpycurious]

17 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

So all restaurants and bars are closed around me for the next couple weeks. ... So basically all people can do now is Netflix and chill if they want to date... Ew. COVID-19 isn’t going to be the worst virus going around....

Remember the beach, Ms Cookie.  The weather is amazing.  Just sayin

So many businesses are closing especially one's that hospitality driven.  I feel especially bad for those employees who will suffer 

financially.