Jates Posted March 17, 2020 Share Posted March 17, 2020 (edited) Quote So hi i am 20 years old, ive been dating this guy for two years now and we are in a ldr. He is in the military, and i only really see him once or twice a year. We have the same friend group of about 4 other friends. They are also my only friends, and we are very close. This particular friend we will call 'c' and i have gotten super close. we laugh together and eat all kinds of food together and play video games and its just generally a really good time whenever im with him. Hes goofy and we are super hilarious together. My boyfriend however.. we dont get along like that. Its gotten really boring between us hes a good guy and hes planned his future around me and i know its going to destroy him but, tonight was different. I hung out with 'C' tonight and we were especially touchy. We were laughing and talking together and he has been kissing me on the forhead in an endearing way, but today he kissed me closer and closer to my lips until we finally did. And i enjoyed it a lot. Hes been crushing on me and i have on him. I know our friends are gonna be pissed at us, but we confessed what we felt for each other. He wants to be with me and i want to be with him. He knows my situation and is willing to wait, but how do i go about doing this? I feel trapped and afraid but this guy and i just click. it felt natural and it was amazing. Ive been loyal to my boyfriend all this time... until now i suppose. any advice?? Edited March 17, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Clarify title Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted March 17, 2020 Share Posted March 17, 2020 Just tell your boyfriend that long distance no longer works for you. Don't mention this guy to him. He doesn't need to know about that yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jates Posted March 17, 2020 Author Share Posted March 17, 2020 4 hours ago, JTSW said: Just tell your boyfriend that long distance no longer works for you. Don't mention this guy to him. He doesn't need to know about that yet. See thing is hes going to find out anyway whether its from me or our other friends. I want to go the way thatll destroy him the least Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 On 3/17/2020 at 9:43 AM, Jates said: any advice?? Sexual attraction and getting along are not all that it takes to have a life project together... unless you just want to have fun. But then, if having fun is your goal, you just need some physical attraction. The other guy has projects with you, he's serious and probably wants a family with you. This other friend... who knows? You've been playing games with him, and hanging out, but what else? Do you know his life goals? His views? What does he think about children, disability, abortion, unemployment, tough times, resilience? Ask him the tough questions about these things, and see his take on them. Then you decide if he's really good for you. Or if you're throwing a potential good relationship down the toilet for a fling. Link to post Share on other sites
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