VIOLET EDEN Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and a half, serious for about 9 months (I'm excluding holidays that occurred right after we started dating and the period we were kinda casual). With the coronavirus and the students going back home and leaving college, I am in Indiana and he is in D.C. Obviously we aren't going to travel to meet up with one another. And we cant openly talk, since my parents would not be happy if they found I had a bf, so I keep it hidden. I am just unsure how to navigate a long distance relationship (including the stay at home and summer, we wont see each other for another 5 months minimum). This is first relationship, and we've been meh at contacting over holidays(but they are like a week, or winter holidays so its okay). But this time it will be longer, and ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 21, 2020 Share Posted March 21, 2020 On 3/18/2020 at 9:34 PM, VIOLET EDEN said: we cant openly talk, since my parents would not be happy if they found I had a bf, so I keep it hidden. If you're mature enough to go to college, I think you're old enough to have a boyfriend. Hiding it seems stupid. But let's pretend that you want to keep it private as this relationship is in the early stages and thus fragile, you can still talk on the phone or via tablet/pc with whomever. Am I wrong? Quote we've been meh at contacting over holidays(but they are like a week, or winter holidays so its okay). But this time it will be longer, and ideas? First of all, is he home with his family? Does he have his own bedroom, or sharing the room with a sibling? As you said, one thing is being apart for a week, one thing is being apart for 5 months... I wonder why you didn't discuss this before you both left college. Talking in person would have been so much better. Anyway, the first thing you need to do is understand if he still wants you to be his girlfriend and if he wants to be exclusive with you. Once you know about that, you decide what to do. If he says yes, then you can agree on things like how often you can talk to each other, what to use (Whatsapp, Skype, etc.). You could arrange some fun stuff, like watching a movie together, or do a quiz together, etc. If he says no, game over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author VIOLET EDEN Posted March 30, 2020 Author Share Posted March 30, 2020 Yeah well we suck at communication (i know i know), we've been exclusive and together for over a year and a half, you would think we wouldn't have this problem. But i think we're getting better, I talk to him after parents sleep Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 30, 2020 Share Posted March 30, 2020 Um, why can't a woman your age have a boyfriend? What's up with that? If push came to shove, would you pick your parents over him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author VIOLET EDEN Posted April 1, 2020 Author Share Posted April 1, 2020 Indian parents - not keen on boyfriends, and in answer to preraph's question, that is something I dont have an answer to. Still in college, so realistically this might not last. And while I would love for it to last, picking between both, f***, that has been haunting me from time to time. But for now, I'd like to go with the flow. Link to post Share on other sites
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