Author June2017 Posted March 22, 2020 Author Share Posted March 22, 2020 Pls do respond guys Link to post Share on other sites
Author June2017 Posted March 22, 2020 Author Share Posted March 22, 2020 14 hours ago, lurker74 said: I would end it unless you take some joy with having sex with someone who hates you. You wouldn't be the first to enjoy that so don't feel too badly if you do. I mean the sex is good but I ve mentioned the ways we got together to ExpatinItaly. So if you could check that out, it would give more insight Link to post Share on other sites
assertives Posted March 22, 2020 Share Posted March 22, 2020 Good sex is not reason enough to stay in a relationship with someone you do not love. I have read your other topic and I frankly cannot for the life of me understand why you are still together with this girl. You clearly don't love her, and you are still love with your ex. You both have vastly different political views that affect who you are at your very core and you constantly think about whether you should break up with her. What your friends or family think about her is not the most important. What's important is what YOU think about her cos at the end of the day, it's YOUR life and YOU are the one who's going to spend YOUR life with her. All the other little details about the circumstances you met and got together DON'T MATTER at all. It's what you guys make out of the rest of your time together that matters. If you think you can see this girl in your future as a life partner, and you feel you are up to putting in the effort to iron out your differences and making it work, good. But if you don't, no point dragging this one out. One doesn't necessarily need to be in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted March 31, 2020 Share Posted March 31, 2020 I think that because you and your girlfriend have differing political views, the only way you can overcome this is to talk and both to listen to have a better understanding of each other. If it is not possible to come to an understanding which is somewhere in the middle and where you both feel enlightened and enriched by the new perspectives, then it is not going to work. If someone is rigid or closed-minded, you are both stuck. Rather than talk about particular political factions, it is best to agree on fundamental things like human rights, security, respect for freedom, etc., rather than the black-and-white ‘they are right and they are wrong’ view of things. There is no doubt that the Israeli/Palestine situation is fraught with difficulties and rights and wrongs, otherwise it would have been resolved by now. You should not have to pretend to be something you are not in order to be in a loving relationship. You fancied this girl and wanted her adoration (which is natural) but instead her deeds do not match her words. She does not sound understanding of your situation. It seems to me that it is not so much that she has political interests that is the problem so much as she cannot discuss your concerns with you and appreciate you as you are. Let her go with her friends to her rallies; take yourself out of this relationship which (arguably) is not worth the great sex and find someone altogether more caring towards you. Link to post Share on other sites
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