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Personally I was having a few difficulties "performing" though I think I have gotten to the root of it,

I discovered I was gluten (wheat) intolerant four months ago, and now four months gluten free, I am noticing an increase in my energy levels which is boosting things (now all I have to do is avoid the dreaded virus)😬

Anyway I am just curious and lends itself to the question

Ladies- Would you dump a guy- assuming he is satisfactory otherwise but is useless at sex- gets too tired /cannot sustain an erection,

Guys- If you knew your sex drive was gone, would you try to hang in there or would you run and forget about relationships altogether-

"if you cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen" so to speak. 

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If I had an established relationship with him, including satisfactory sex, prior to the issue starting, I would most likely stay with him.

If it was a new relationship and the sex was always a "flop", then there's a good chance I would choose to not pursue things further.

But I believe I have a higher sex drive than most women, and sex is important to me in bonding.  There are probably plenty of women who wouldn't find it to be a big problem.  

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I had a bf who just wouldn't even try to have sex because of Ed (with me -- he'd try to have it with little drunk blond girls).  I didn't know what his problem was, so it was very traumatic.  I just didn't understand why he wouldn't go away or else sleep with me.  It was awful.  But at least you know this guy can't.  I mean, if you're really sexual, then he's not right for you.  There may be some reason.  You should at least talk to him first and see if he needs to quit porn or has always been this way or what.  

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4 hours ago, Foxhall said:

Ladies- Would you dump a guy- assuming he is satisfactory otherwise but is useless at sex- gets too tired /cannot sustain an erection

Yes. Sorry. 😞 Not if it was a long term type relationship thing. I’d stay for a minute and try to fix it. But after a one night flop, I’d be too embarrassed to even see him again. Because I might blame myself and take it as an insult. Now if he was confident that it was a one time occurrence and could successfully come back and give it to me really good, I would be all for second chances.  
 

Op, you seem to be saying that this was a past event and that you’ve worked through it. Gluten though? Gluten is the culprit? I don’t know ... 

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Probably not. Or at least not for the reason(s) one would assume.
 

But a lot of times, provided the guy doesn’t have very serious health issues, I believe that is about compatibility, not gluten. His mind might be saying she’s attractive and things should be working but deep down on an innate level something is off with their compatibility. That is just my controversial opinion on how I’d feel it if happened with someone I was with. 

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6 hours ago, Foxhall said:

Would you dump a guy- assuming he is satisfactory otherwise but is useless at sex

Probably yes, but....

6 hours ago, Foxhall said:

gets too tired /cannot sustain an erection

This isn't really relevant to being "useless at sex" in my opinion. I'm sure it varies depending on the person, but to me "useless at sex" means that he doesn't care about the clitoris, wants to skip foreplay, thinks that a woman taking 10 min of clitoral stimulation to cum is "too long", or is incompatible with my kinks. Some (ahem) "down-time" would probably not be a major issue in my book. ;)

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The answer would depend on my personal circumstances.  

At present, menopause has done a number on my sex drive.  If was to find myself single again, I wouldn't date because guys would want sex.  But if I found a great guy who didn't need sex, then I'd surely stick around.   He'd be a companion rather than a lover.

But if it was back when I was 25 with a sky high libido, then no, I wouldn't continue.   

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ok thanks for your replies,enjoyed reading them,

Yes I have a had a bit of trouble with this over the years, it has probably hindered me in having relationships or lasting relationships,

there was another girl I got on well with who said we could have a relationship, but that Id have to be prepared to accept her having sex on the side with other guys because I would "not be able for her sexually"

present girlfriend is fair enough with me about the issue, she thinks it is merely a mental thing and that we will get there,

Yes I think the gluten was a factor, I had no medical issues really but for a good few years seemed to be overly tired at times for no reason, it seems the gluten was the reason.

Im 40 now, Ive never taken medication such as viagra, still think am too young for that,

 think have turned a corner on it but that will never be great at it either,

will see how it goes!

 

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I'm sure you have, but if not, talk to your doctor about it.  There might be something else causing issues that you haven't thought of. 

As far as being too young for Viagra, I if you aren't too young for the problem then you probably aren't too young for a possible solution.  

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It turned out my boyfriend's Ed was due to molestation. I don't think you're too young for Viagra. It would be worth a shot. 

 

Now I had one guy that I knee when young and then saw him again 25 years later. He didn't have ED, but he just didn't last very long at all. He had had a immune condition in his whole childhood wherein he wasn't even expected to survive so I think it may have been due to something related to that. When I saw him 25 years later he did take a Viagra, but he still didn't last any longer than he did when he was young. So I'm assuming it just made it possible for him to get started. 

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OP: totally get some Viagra or Cialis. That's what it is for. Hell, I don't have a problem getting hard and even I have a stash that I raid when I want to have a sex fest. If you're in the US - the new online subscription services are the way to go. Pretty reasonable. 

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I'd try to work together to fix the issues, and involve doctors if handed. If nothing helped, I works end the relationship. I wouldn't place all of the blame on him unless he could control it, and just refuses to change. 

There are too many options out there, I'm not find to stick with my

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