Acacia98 Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 (edited) On 7/3/2020 at 3:01 PM, Uptown182 said: I still don’t feel like he ended it in a respectful way, sending some low effort text like that 3 months later. I guess it’s better than nothing though. When I read your first post, it sounded to me like he might genuinely be insecure about finances and in need of reassurance or, alternatively, he might be having second thoughts about the relationship and looking for a reason to justify breaking up with you. I guess it turned out to be the latter. Anyway, remember that other post where you said he wasn't dependable (despite his thinking he was)? I guess he's turned out to be somewhat flaky and potentially manipulative. Seems you were right. In future, if someone ghosts you, it's okay to unfriend them on social media. That's neither petty nor immature. It's setting new boundaries based on the change in status of your relationship. The way I see it, once someone decides they don't want you in their life and they don't even have the decency to tell you properly, you're not obligated to continue giving them access to posts that could reveal your innermost thoughts, your movements, and other private stuff in your life. Edited July 6, 2020 by Acacia98 1 Link to post Share on other sites
assertives Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 (edited) On 7/3/2020 at 6:42 PM, Uptown182 said: Update: He texted me in the early evening yesterday 3 months after his disappearing act, saying he just wanted me to know he was very sorry for the way he acted and that I’m one of the most amazing, honest and beautiful people he’s ever known. He then followed up with another text saying he’s not saying that to try to get back together with me, he just wants me to know that. If you do reply, I would say "I already know that I'm all of that, though the opinions of someone who lacked basic decency and respect for another person holds no weight for me... just wanted you to know that as well." Edited July 6, 2020 by assertives 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 On 7/3/2020 at 2:15 PM, Uptown182 said: Its funny that I’m hearing from him now when things are starting to reopen here. It is no coincidence... On 7/3/2020 at 11:42 AM, Uptown182 said: He then followed up with another text saying he’s not saying that to try to get back together with me, He would if he could, even if it was just for sex... Long dry spell... No other options on the horizon... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uptown182 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Share Posted July 6, 2020 15 hours ago, assertives said: If you do reply, I would say "I already know that I'm all of that, though the opinions of someone who lacked basic decency and respect for another person holds no weight for me... just wanted you to know that as well." I feel the best response is no response in this instance. I’m not normally a big fan of leaving texts unanswered but i think it’s appropriate in this situation. Besides his text didn’t really warrant a response anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 21 hours ago, Uptown182 said: I’m not normally a big fan of leaving texts unanswered but i think it’s appropriate in this situation. I agree with you. He didn't treat you well or show you basic courtesy when he disappeared; those were his true colours peeping through. It's not a situation I would re-visit at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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