Boxerhd Posted March 23, 2020 Share Posted March 23, 2020 Long story short she broke it off and came back. I realized she met someone else and it didn’t pan out. I didn’t beg or try to convince her it was a mistake and left her alone until she reached out. We spent time together she cried (first time I’ve seen her cry) and told me she made a mistake. We’ve spent the past few nights together. The issues that we had (which were brought on by her overreacting on purpose, I guess) didn’t come up once. I dove all in and I made no mistakes. The past few nights were perfect. I am not the type to check her phone or question her but in my head I have reservations. Before, she gave me reasons to doubt a long term partnership as she acted irrational and I say that literally. I treated her the best way I knew how. The moments that were intimate and personal kept me sticking around. Now, the irrational behavior doesn’t exist. It’s as if she realized I’m the man she wants. The past few days we spent together have been perfect and we’ve got along so well. I just can’t shake that feeling that I’ll get crushed again. I want her to prove to me that she means it but then again, I don’t want that as a dynamic in a relationship. I’m very conflicted. Anyone have this happen? Should I just drop this? I can’t tell which is harder to do. To walk away or to work my way out of my head and have a happy relationship for however long it lasts. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 23, 2020 Share Posted March 23, 2020 I would drop it, honestly. It sounds like the only reason she came back is because the new guy didn't want her. That isn't a solid basis for reconciliation at all, especially when you have only now spent a few nights together. It means she has really not taken the time to understand herself, and will likely leave again if she and her other guy make amends or she meets someone else who captures her interest. I know it feels good to have her "back" but I would not trust that person really loves you or that she came back for the right reasons. Sorry, man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Boxerhd Posted March 23, 2020 Author Share Posted March 23, 2020 I think she didn’t want the other guy. She’s dating for marriage and told me she loves me etc. I just can’t shake that feeling that I’m gonna get screwed again although everything is better than before. I shouldn’t feel this way and I don’t want her to know because that seems needy and insecure. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 23, 2020 Share Posted March 23, 2020 Once someone cheats and you overlook it and take them back, it's highly likely it will happen again in the right circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Boxerhd Posted March 23, 2020 Author Share Posted March 23, 2020 Define cheating. I think that she always had the freedom to talk to other people. I don’t think anything physical happened since it took us almost two months to get to that point after we started. I also asked and she said no. She admitted to having one foot out but now is claiming she wants me. I actually left her alone for the most part and she was the one that reached out. Link to post Share on other sites
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