MeadowFlower Posted March 23, 2020 Share Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) Does anyone ever feel that they are a terrible person? Or know that they are and have a not good heart? Do you naturally have a good heart and are you a kind person? I'm a terrible etc person. Edited March 23, 2020 by MeadowFlower Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 23, 2020 Share Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) What makes you terrible? I don't feel at all like I'm terrible. I have a bit of guilt at the moment because I've finally changed lawn guys, but it really wasn't my fault. I gave him plenty of chances to learn to answer his phone and also call before popping by. I just feel bad because he was good for a long time and helped me some ways, and my little dog likes him, but he doesn't care enough to learn to use his flip phone apparently and just wants to go by someone's house whenever. I needed him for two months this year and couldn't reach him, so I found someone else. I am someone who has done a lot of reckless living when young, but i have no regrets over that. All along, my basic philosophy was if you wouldn't want people to know about it, don't do it. Edited March 23, 2020 by preraph 1 Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted March 23, 2020 Share Posted March 23, 2020 I don't think I'm a terrible person per say, but sometimes I do or say hurtful or stupid things, most of the time I'm not aware of it, sometimes I am. Nobody's perfect, in the same way terrible people are actually quite rare. (Love Ruth Wilson as an actress btw - that's her as your avatar, right?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeadowFlower Posted March 24, 2020 Author Share Posted March 24, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, littleblackheart said: Nobody's perfect, in the same way terrible people are actually quite rare. (Love Ruth Wilson as an actress btw - that's her as your avatar, right?) It must be easier if you are a 'good' person. Yep, that's her. I have watched her version of Jane Eyre. Have you? Edited March 24, 2020 by MeadowFlower Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeadowFlower Posted March 24, 2020 Author Share Posted March 24, 2020 13 hours ago, preraph said: What makes you terrible? Some things that make me terrible, I'm not going to declare all of them. I have a bad heart. I'm not sympathetic or kind hearted. I am selfish. And etc. Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 1 hour ago, MeadowFlower said: It must be easier if you are a 'good' person. Yep, that's her. I have watched her version of Jane Eyre. Have you? Yes! Best Jane Eyre I've ever seen. Is there a particular event in your life that makes you feel like a 'bad' person? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 Your Jane Eyre quote says that you have much soul and much heart. I doubt that you would have chosen such a quote if it didn't resonate. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 7 hours ago, MeadowFlower said: Some things that make me terrible, I'm not going to declare all of them. I have a bad heart. I'm not sympathetic or kind hearted. I am selfish. And etc. So if someone you love feels bad or gets hurt some way, you don't feel sorry for them? A lot of us are selfish myself included. If you find that you just can't feel sorry for other people in bad situations or even maybe animals, that would mean you're low on empathy. In the extreme, that would mean you could be a sociopath, but it could also mean you fall somewhere on the narcissist scale. How was your childhood? Did you have loving parents who took care of you? Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 No. Mine is too big at times when it shouldn't be and I just felt that I didn't have one at all for a few years because I simply chose to ignore it because it did nothing more than get me into trouble time and time again. And I had fallen so far down that I had become twisted because I didn't care anymore because there was just so much pain I held onto because I didn't expect anyone to understand and I didn't want sympathy or compassion from anyone anymore. It was almost too easy to not care. And I'll admit that I still feel that way from time to time but something has changed for the most part and I'm struggling to hold on but I've still made some headway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
primer Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 I have seen a lot of cruelty in this world so I try to be a good person. I try not to intentionally hurt anyone. It makes me feel bad when I see people hurting. Sometimes there is nothing I can do to make it better. Some people take advantage of me because of this. I haven't always been this way. It was after I saw crazy things happening first hand (betrayal, abuse, cold-heartedness) that I decided I was going to try NOT to be like that. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 ^ You have to have a rule in place to keep from bad people just taking advantage of you. Only help people who will help themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 On 3/24/2020 at 3:50 AM, MeadowFlower said: Some things that make me terrible, I'm not going to declare all of them. I have a bad heart. I'm not sympathetic or kind hearted. I am selfish. And etc. I don’t believe you. 🙂 You’re just bitter. And blaming everything on yourself and what you think men think of your physical qualities. So you hate them too. I think you should throw over that mean looking Jane whoever avatar and go back to the cute woman you had before. Because if that was you, you’re adorable. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 MethinksI'm a bit of both. Not terrible generally, but I think I may have the potential to be terrible at least in some ways. Under normal circumstances I try to help people when it seems to make sense to, so I'm good in that sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 Everyone has selfish tendencies. I have a good heart but i am not perfect. What makes you think your heart isn't good? Would you consider yourself blessed in life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeadowFlower Posted March 29, 2020 Author Share Posted March 29, 2020 On 3/27/2020 at 10:08 PM, K.K. said: I don’t believe you. 🙂 You’re just bitter. And blaming everything on yourself and what you think men think of your physical qualities. So you hate them too. I think you should throw over that mean looking Jane whoever avatar and go back to the cute woman you had before. Because if that was you, you’re adorable. Yep, nearly hate (most) men, there overall outlook in a certain area. Oh and that wasn't me. Are you kidding?? Lol, you ought to know I have an ugly face. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted March 29, 2020 Share Posted March 29, 2020 (edited) On 3/24/2020 at 3:50 AM, MeadowFlower said: Some things that make me terrible, I'm not going to declare all of them. I have a bad heart. I'm not sympathetic or kind hearted. I am selfish. And etc. Do you think you're a sociopathic person? Maybe your wired that way. The inability to feel empathy or guilt. Have you gotten professional help in trying to help change the way you feel and behave? If it were me I'd start with a change in your Avatar. She doesn't look kind or sympathetic. Do you want to change? Sounds like a miserable way to go thru life. Edited March 29, 2020 by Piddy Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeadowFlower Posted March 29, 2020 Author Share Posted March 29, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Piddy said: Do you think you're a sociopathic person? Maybe your wired that way. The inability to feel empathy or guilt. Have you gotten professional help in trying to help change the way you feel and behave? I'm not sure, possibly. There's a difference between the way someone feels and the way they behave. Like someone could try and behave well, but inside they don't feel any of the good things they are doing or saying. Then does that make them dishonest and not real.. Oh and people leave my Jane eyre avatar alone lol Edited March 29, 2020 by MeadowFlower 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 29, 2020 Share Posted March 29, 2020 We all have developed certain social skills, but if you find you're having to fake everything and really have no empathy for other people at all, you may be somewhat sociopathic. They say one of every 100 people is. They're not all serial killers. They often make successful CEO's and others just pretend to be what others think is acceptable just to get along. Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted March 29, 2020 Share Posted March 29, 2020 1 minute ago, MeadowFlower said: I'm not sure, possibly. There's a difference between the way someone feels and the way they behave. Like someone could try and behave well, but inside they don't feel any of the good things they are doing or saying. Then does that make them dishonest and not real.. Oh and people leave my Jane eyre avatar alone lol Why don't you go to see a professional and find out? Well, if I felt like I didn't care about someone in need of my empathy. I'd fake it. OK, leave your mean faced Avatar up. Do you feel guilty of your behavior. Or feel nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 29, 2020 Share Posted March 29, 2020 I love Jane Eyre! Have you read "Rebecca" by Daphne DuMaurier? Another great Gothic book. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted March 29, 2020 Share Posted March 29, 2020 (edited) 52 minutes ago, MeadowFlower said: Yep, nearly hate (most) men, there overall outlook in a certain area. Oh and that wasn't me. Are you kidding?? Lol, you ought to know I have an ugly face. You have an ugly face? I'll have to see that to believe that. My guess is you are just bitter! If you don't feel attractive then I can understand your hatred towards men because men do tend to be more pleasant to attractive women. As hard as if is, you need to focus on the type of person you want to be and what would make you happy without a man. It's very difficult to do that! I am not saying it will be easy but you need to value yourself first before you can look for a man to value you. I read some posts and it's only normal that you want to be in a relationship. Ultimately that's what we all want. There's nothing wrong with that at all. Edited March 29, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeadowFlower Posted March 29, 2020 Author Share Posted March 29, 2020 25 minutes ago, preraph said: I love Jane Eyre! Have you read "Rebecca" by Daphne DuMaurier? Another great Gothic book. No I haven't. Is there a movie version? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 29, 2020 Share Posted March 29, 2020 There is. Get the old one. 1940. Link to post Share on other sites
skywriter Posted April 1, 2020 Share Posted April 1, 2020 On 3/23/2020 at 1:49 PM, MeadowFlower said: Does anyone ever feel that they are a terrible person? Or know that they are and have a not good heart? Do you naturally have a good heart and are you a kind person? I'm a terrible etc person. I've been told most of my life I'm too nice. I have a compassionate heart and choose to see the good in people. In fact I chose my based on the characters traits, cheerful but loving and trys to keep her family in tact. It really is who my soul is.LOl! I tend wonder just given the fact that you can say your a terrible person. Indicates there is something within you that chooses not to be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 1, 2020 Share Posted April 1, 2020 I’m told I’m a nice person, a good person, have a good heart and a good soul, if someone’s sad around me I talk to them and end up crying myself. In other words, I’m a narcissist’s dream girl. As a result I don’t let many people in. I have just a few people in my life that I’ve chosen to keep in my life, my closest friends. It’s quality not quantity that matters most to me, and I seek that heart-to-heart connection. If I’m not feeling it the door gets slammed shut. Ain’t nobody got time for that! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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