understress789 Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 (edited) My daughter has been giving me a hard time about staying home with the current virus. I don't live in a state where there is a shelter order. She's mad I'm at work briefly even though most employees are working from home and I'm taking all precautions and she's mad at me and my boyfriend vising on the weekend to see me. She said she's not going to talk to me if I continue to do this. I didn't tell her my bf visited last weekend and she said my adult son told her he did but my adult son swears he didn't, so I think she's just testing. But when she confronted me, I told her he only visited for a day and she went ballistic. I'm not stupid but I do have to stop at work for work to do at home (I'm a partner in a law firm) and we technically can stay open but only a few of us come in. I need to go the foodstore and it's lonely staying home alone 24/7. She said if I get sick and have to go to the hospital and there aren't enough respirators, I will die. Am i wrong? Edited March 24, 2020 by understress789 Link to post Share on other sites
Beendaredonedat Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 In my opinion, yes. Now your daughter not talking to you is just cutting off her nose to spite her face but she's worried about you and she's threatening in what I suspect is a last resort to get you to do what you should be doing (IMO and hers) to keep yourself safe. If you can work from home then you should and only go out for groceries or medical appointments. You can supplement your loneliness through skype, facetime etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author understress789 Posted March 24, 2020 Author Share Posted March 24, 2020 but she has no issue when my adult son visits me - but she does with my bf. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 (edited) And there are not enough hospital beds or respirators, so your daughter is right. Here in Dallas, we have 4000 beds and our prediction if we don't do "shelter in place," based on other comparable cities who've had it longer than we have is 75,000 hospital beds needed! People are just dying from this if they don't get oxygen and care. It's foolish to take chances. I agree with you about you have to sometimes go to the store. Like here, you can do delivery, but they won't let you order TP to be delivered or pickup, either one ,so you STILL have to go to the store. I've spent the morning writing our politicians about that to make the stores at least list TP on their menu and bring it if they have it in stead of reserving it for people who come in, which is nuts. Your son is family, but if he doesn't live there, he shouldn't be coming over either. Everyone should be sheltering in place. Your BF can wait. Edited March 24, 2020 by preraph Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 4 hours ago, understress789 said: Am i wrong? I don't believe the risk of death from the Corona Virus is any greater then the flu unless you have a health condition, compromised immune system, or a history of bronchial disease. If the aforementioned is a condition you suffer from then you would be wise to not go looking for the virus or invite it in. It sounds like your daughter is stampeding with the herd. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 4 hours ago, understress789 said: My daughter has been giving me a hard time about staying home with the current virus. I don't live in a state where there is a shelter order. She's mad I'm at work briefly even though most employees are working from home and I'm taking all precautions and she's mad at me and my boyfriend vising on the weekend to see me. She said she's not going to talk to me if I continue to do this. I didn't tell her my bf visited last weekend and she said my adult son told her he did but my adult son swears he didn't, so I think she's just testing. But when she confronted me, I told her he only visited for a day and she went ballistic. I'm not stupid but I do have to stop at work for work to do at home (I'm a partner in a law firm) and we technically can stay open but only a few of us come in. I need to go the foodstore and it's lonely staying home alone 24/7. She said if I get sick and have to go to the hospital and there aren't enough respirators, I will die. Am i wrong? you're not quite addressing the core issue here. Because you can carry the virus for several days without symptoms, you will never know at what point you touch something, and the virus is transmitted TO you, before you then flit about your regular routine, with a reasonable chance that you transmit the virus to any of your colleagues and friends, and that boyfriend you seem to care so much about. IF your gas tank is on "E" on March 25... and your area ends up projecting a long quarantine... you "need" to get gas, and that involves the fair risk of coronavirus on the gas handle... You "need" an occasional trip to the grocery store (THIS time, with a LIST, carefully created for the long haul). But you don't need to be a conduit for a virus which could kill any of your friends. Were it merely your own life... ending without a respirator... you'd be more free and in-charge to do as you see fit. But you're just putting all of your friends, colleagues and family in needless additional danger. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 (edited) 3 minutes ago, schlumpy said: I don't believe the risk of death from the Corona Virus is any greater then the flu unless you have a health condition, compromised immune system, or a history of bronchial disease. If the aforementioned is a condition you suffer from then you would be wise to not go looking for the virus or invite it in. That isn't even a relevant factor. The core issue is her spreading the virus from place to place, to others who may die from the virus. Edited March 24, 2020 by SincereOnlineGuy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 ask her when she's gonna give you grand children? when she tells you it's none of your business...smile back with "ditto". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 How old are you? I read something today that quoted an Iraqi doctor who traveled to somewhere in Italy to help out. He said if you’re over 60 you won’t get a ventilator. So I sure hope it doesn’t go that way where you are if you’re over 60. Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 If you're under 65-ish and fairly healthy, I wouldn't worry about it. At least for now. If you're older or have one of the issues on the "list" such as pregnancy, diabetes or lung problems, then you ought to stay home. As far as having some kind of duty to avoid other people for THEIR sake, that isn't your problem it is theirs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Clavel Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 for the love of god, if not your own kin, stay home. omg. you know how many of us are not only at home but at home with no paycheck? how are you any different or better than the rest of the the three million out of work? oh, wait, you are better, you can work at home. go home. stay there. earn at home and then consider sending some of your income to charity. which i'm sure you already do. this is a no brainier. you can earn at home. stay home. i'm sorry to hear that you might be lonely or bored. that's on you. when you are alone it is your duty to be in good company. don't get me started on anyone "traveling" to visit anyone else unless they are bringing you oxygen or an iron lung. wth? Link to post Share on other sites
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