cindysbannanas Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 My boyfriend treats me is embarrassed of my past the people around him are provoking things. He lets me w@lk into situations that are challengingband just sits back and watches. Hes annoyed from me 80 % of the time but my ego aside he could show more resp3kt and give more of his energy because i get resentful when i jump at his every request. Its likevim hypnotised i cant stay away from the man. I taught him how to treat me and am wondering is it possiblevto gain a little control back after the standard is allready ?set Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 Hi Cindy, your post is difficult to understand and I'd just like to clarify. He treats you [like] he's embarrassed by your past? What is your past? What kinds of things does he do which make you feel like he's embarrassed? Who is provoking around him and what are "things?" What situations does he let you walk into and doesn't assist? Are they situations you chose to walk into? What help do you need? He is annoyed from you. Do you mean 'by' you? What things does he get annoyed over and how does he react when he's annoyed? Yes, it might be possible to change things. But first it's important to clarify what's happening and whether or not it's wise to continue with him at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 I'm sure he likes things just the way they are so if reset the relationship rules you may have to find someone else to play with and I think that's what you need. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 8 hours ago, cindysbannanas said: My boyfriend treats me is embarrassed of my past the people around him are provoking things. He lets me w@lk into situations that are challengingband just sits back and watches. Hes annoyed from me 80 % of the time but my ego aside he could show more resp3kt and give more of his energy because i get resentful when i jump at his every request. Its likevim hypnotised i cant stay away from the man. I taught him how to treat me and am wondering is it possiblevto gain a little control back after the standard is allready ?set The answer to that is NO. Once you allow people to treat you a certain way and don't stand up for yourself the abuse usually escalates. Your best bet is to leave him alone and learn to set boundaries for the future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 If someone that is willing to treat you like crap....that speaks volumes of the type of person he is...and for you to keep dating him says much about you. Grow a back bone, and not put up with it anymore. Time to start fresh with a respectful new partner. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 You need to probably get into therapy and find out why your self-esteem is this low that you would put yourself in this position. I seriously do not see you being able to turn the situation around with this person, but maybe you can get the tools to not let another one of him in close to you in the future. You're putting up with more crap than is healthy, and all that does is attract the bottom of the barrel quality of both guys and friends. So you need some help. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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