Author Will87 Posted May 16, 2020 Author Share Posted May 16, 2020 The plot thickens, i had a withheld number call me and didn’t answer it. Anyways had a voicemail left about an hour, she left a message saying “Hi xxx, this is xxx, I know i’m the last person that you want to speak to. Been trying to get hold of you can you call me back or text. Hope you’re okay”. What are your thoughts? A) If it was an emergency she could reach out to my sister or friends. B) I’m also good friends with her brother I think she is bread crumbing. all banking, house and belongings have already been sorted. There is nothing to talk about Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 16, 2020 Share Posted May 16, 2020 Breadcrumb. I’d ignore. No contact is up to you not her. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 16, 2020 Share Posted May 16, 2020 She’s a serial cheater (google it) which means it’ll never stop no matter who she’s with. You probably only know the “tip of the iceberg”. All she’ll ever be is pain and drama. Let that be someone else’s problem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 16, 2020 Share Posted May 16, 2020 1 hour ago, Will87 said: The plot thickens, i had a withheld number call me and didn’t answer it. Anyways had a voicemail left about an hour, she left a message saying “Hi xxx, this is xxx, I know i’m the last person that you want to speak to. Been trying to get hold of you can you call me back or text. Hope you’re okay”. What are your thoughts? Eh, she's probably having a rough patch with her new boyfriend and is hoping you'll stroke her ego and respond. This woman has shown you more than once now that she doesn't respect and is not in love with you. If I recall, you found out she'd cheated before this guy, too. I personally wouldn't respond, but if you feel compelled, tell her you don't want to talk to her anymore and to stop contacting you - for good. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted May 16, 2020 Share Posted May 16, 2020 I'm glad you are not eating the bread crumbs. They are only doing to leave you wanting more and more. Doesn't really matter why she did it, continue on your oath to indifference. It's awesome here. It's like ahaha sucker, you can't get to me now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
assertives Posted May 16, 2020 Share Posted May 16, 2020 (edited) Don't call her back. It will derail your healing progress and set you back to day one. There's nothing left to talk about between you guys, she shouldn't be the one informing you of anything urgent concerning you (anything urgent concerning her is not your problem) anyway. If you feel like it, perhaps you can also ask her brother to tell her to stop contacting you. Edited May 16, 2020 by assertives 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted May 17, 2020 Share Posted May 17, 2020 (edited) @Will87 On 5/16/2020 at 7:59 AM, Will87 said: The plot thickens, i had a withheld number call me and didn’t answer it. Anyways had a voicemail left about an hour, she left a message saying “Hi xxx, this is xxx, I know i’m the last person that you want to speak to. Been trying to get hold of you can you call me back or text. Hope you’re okay”. What are your thoughts? A) If it was an emergency she could reach out to my sister or friends. B) I’m also good friends with her brother I think she is bread crumbing. all banking, house and belongings have already been sorted. There is nothing to talk about The bolded statement is all you need to remember. Cheating in my books is tied with ghosting as the number 1 lowest thing you can do to someone. To have a forward moving, healthy relationship with someone, a necessary requirement is trust. We have to open up. Let them in. Let them get to know us. Refusing to open up, chokes the relationship and prevents it from growing and you will essentially protect yourself out of a relationship. In doing so, we leave our hearts vulnerable for destruction, but we hope and have faith that the other person will handle it with care and with respect. Therefore, both people have a degree of responsibility and accountability to the other. Cheating is irresponsible. Cheating can damage a person irreparably, affecting all future relationships. It puts that person on a path where they now have to go through a difficult process of learning to trust and open up to someone again..all because of one person's momentary carelessness and and recklessness. It destroys the trust you had towards that person and once the trust is gone, it'll be hard to ever have any kind of relationship again. She absolutely blew it. So you're damn right, there's nothing to talk about there. She can live with the consequences of what she did, via your absence, and find someone else. - Beach Edited May 17, 2020 by Beachead 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Will87 Posted May 18, 2020 Author Share Posted May 18, 2020 Her best mate reached out, Something to do with a refund. I said that I would send her the money if I get it, it’s not my problem. Just as I was typing the above i had a call from a withheld number, it was her! She said can we have an adult conversation without going through friends! I said I have nothing to talk to you about, that is the past, present and future. If I see you out I will be civil and that’s it, I said you’re a stranger to me now. Please do not contact me again, I didn’t want to hear anything else from her and said take care and bye. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 Good on you man. That took a lot of strength. I know it wasn't easy. Lets hope she leaves you be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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