Author MistyHeart Posted March 30, 2020 Author Share Posted March 30, 2020 On 3/27/2020 at 4:10 AM, preraph said: It is astounding how some men can act like they're all in love with you and not mean a word of it. One of my exes seemed to fall for every woman he bedded and get all sentimental about them all, but in reality, he was just very fickle, a feckless toad. He may have even believed it himself at the time. But it couldn't have been deep love because it didn't stop him from hurting and disappointing most of them eventually. I can't shake the feeling of having abandoned and then replaced, it sucks really.. Anyway, ex reached out again asking if I'm doing well during this pandemic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 30, 2020 Share Posted March 30, 2020 He's just going to keep you upset. It's kind of a crappy time to have to be dealing with this. Because ideally what you need to do is be active and busy and social, and that's just not possible right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MistyHeart Posted March 30, 2020 Author Share Posted March 30, 2020 3 minutes ago, preraph said: He's just going to keep you upset. It's kind of a crappy time to have to be dealing with this. Because ideally what you need to do is be active and busy and social, and that's just not possible right now. I honestly don't know what more he want from me. How can he expect me to be his friends and talk to him like nothing happened? This sucks because I have to be quarantined and all I think about is him.. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 30, 2020 Share Posted March 30, 2020 Oh, he's just being selfish and probably is trying to alleviate his own guilt. He might even try to confide in you when he hits a rough patch and you'd be listening to that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MistyHeart Posted March 30, 2020 Author Share Posted March 30, 2020 1 hour ago, preraph said: Oh, he's just being selfish and probably is trying to alleviate his own guilt. He might even try to confide in you when he hits a rough patch and you'd be listening to that. After all i've done for him, I thought he'd at least have the decency to stop hurting me. I just want to stop hurting. So, I guess cutting him out of my life was the correct move.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted March 30, 2020 Share Posted March 30, 2020 My guess is that he didn't properly end your relationship before getting into this one, so he still has emotional processing to do. He may be contacting you to try to make himself feel better when he misses you or to not seem like a bad guy or when he feels confused, etc. But at the end of the day, it doesn't help your progress. He made his bed with the new girl, now he should lie in it. Let him fully feel your absence and the consequences of his choice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MistyHeart Posted March 30, 2020 Author Share Posted March 30, 2020 9 hours ago, healing light said: My guess is that he didn't properly end your relationship before getting into this one, so he still has emotional processing to do. He may be contacting you to try to make himself feel better when he misses you or to not seem like a bad guy or when he feels confused, etc. But at the end of the day, it doesn't help your progress. He made his bed with the new girl, now he should lie in it. Let him fully feel your absence and the consequences of his choice. Actually he had lose all of his feelings hence why he is ending it in such an abrupt manner. We didn't have a fight, or a talk, nothing. Just a sudden 3 minute break-up call and that's it. Recently from a text that a friend forwarded to me, he had found out that I have removed him from all of my social media. I think this is why he decided to reach out. He didn't reach out because he was genuinely worried about me, because if it was the case, he'd reach out when the pandemic started way earlier. A lot of friends, strangers online, and also my therapist are saying that my ex is showing a narcissistic tendencies. If it's true, the more I have to protect myself from him. Thank you for listening and offering me your advice. I really can't thank you enough! Link to post Share on other sites
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