SumGuy Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 It’s bringing us closer together and also easier to plan what we do on dates, cooking together then... Also good with the kids, spend a lot of time together as they have more free time with virtual school, a good 2 hours of their school day was study hall and other BS. They also don’t need to get up as early. Our dog is loving it, more walks, more people, more cooking and bits of food falling to the floor. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 4 hours ago, Eternal Sunshine said: My relationship with the cat is strained. Cat meows non-stop and walks across my keyboard during conference calls. I think he is getting sick of me being always home - he is used to an empty house. He's just being a cat 😽 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 On 4/2/2020 at 3:31 PM, Happy Lemming said: for the love of God... just shut up for a while. I'm really tired of hearing her voice. oh dear ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Glad you are telling us not her... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 It’s great. It’s new. We never even kissed. If it lasts, good. If it doesn’t that could be good too. Right now we’re just building a friendship and that’s fine with me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 1 hour ago, amaysngrace said: It’s great. It’s new. We never even kissed. If it lasts, good. If it doesn’t that could be good too. Right now we’re just building a friendship and that’s fine with me. That's a good attitude. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 (edited) On 4/9/2020 at 7:25 AM, Woggle said: I must say I am glad it is just the two us and not us and a bunch of kids. Same here. Things are mostly same-ish for H and I, despite the minor annoyance of having to change our lifestyle (I miss eating out! lol). But some of my friends with kids are REALLY not doing well, especially those who had to make the transition from daycare/school to having them at home 24/7. One of them confided in me that her marriage is strained and may not survive. Edited April 11, 2020 by Elswyth Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 21 minutes ago, Elswyth said: One of them confided in me that her marriage is strained and may not survive. There was a divorce attorney on my evening news last night, saying that exact thing. He said his phone is ringing, constantly. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 19 hours ago, Ellener said: Glad you are telling us not her... This morning, I told gf, she is limited to five requests/questions/complaints today... use them wisely, as I'm not going to respond to anything after she uses up her allotment. General conversation is fine, but I'm not going to listen to her complain about items beyond my control. Right now, she is quietly watching HULU in another room, hope she stays there and leaves me alone, today. It's raining on and off and we are stuck in the house, all day. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 I've been told by several co-workers and friends that they envy me living alone right now! Most people aren't cut out to be together with their loved ones - spouses and/or kids - 24/7, especially when limited to spacing options. So those that are weathering it well should feel grateful (as it seems you do), and those that aren't just remember it's not forever! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted April 11, 2020 Author Share Posted April 11, 2020 This is why I was saying in that other thread that in order to have a truly happy marriage you need all the ingredients that go into one. Without that it will not survive a trying time like this. Times like this just expose the cracks that were already there and crack them even wider to the point that in many cases the structure can't stand. This is why it is bad to be the settle guy. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 14 minutes ago, FMW said: I've been told by several co-workers and friends that they envy me living alone right now! Most people aren't cut out to be together with their loved ones - spouses and/or kids - 24/7, especially when limited to spacing options. It can be tricky if you have limited space, but I'm actually really, really glad that H and I are living together at this time. It's a s***ty time in general IMO, but personally I would find it way s***tier if I was single and living alone. When I lived alone previously I didn't mind it, but that was because I could go out and get social interaction whenever. I hugely admire the people who are able to cope with this alone, without being able to touch/hug anyone. If there was anyone other than H in the house, I'd probably be throwing bananas at walls right about now, though! The right person really matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said: complain about items beyond my control. I think some people it's their safety valve, offloading, they don't always even realise how it affects others. Or that it's a bit pathetic to be whine-y in a serious situation. I'm sure a lot of relationships will crack through unacceptable behaviours and crossing boundaries through this lockdown situation. Others will be strengthened too. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 On 4/10/2020 at 1:46 PM, Eternal Sunshine said: My relationship with the cat is strained. Cat meows non-stop and walks across my keyboard during conference calls. I think he is getting sick of me being always home - he is used to an empty house. Cars just hate literacy, computers, books, newspapers Stop reading human an entertain me. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 On 4/10/2020 at 1:56 PM, Woggle said: Dogs are even more needy. Yes but dogs will take no for an answer. Mine play with him for half an hour and he’ll nap by me while work...he does have a nice bed to nap on. If I’m stressed he’ll bring me a toy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 As far as Chickapea is concerned, is PERFECT! One thing I will always be grateful for this virus for is a lot of our shelters are now empty. People are fostering and adopting for companionship. Hopefully most of them will stick. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 1 hour ago, SumGuy said: Yes but dogs will take no for an answer. Mine play with him for half an hour and he’ll nap by me while work...he does have a nice bed to nap on. If I’m stressed he’ll bring me a toy. Dogs are great to run with so pretty good exercise companions as well. Not as good as your trainer or coach yelling at you but still pretty good. Preraph, I did not know that about shelters but that is a bit of good news. I always believe in looking at the glass half full instead of half empty so there will some good things that come out of all this chaos. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted April 11, 2020 Author Share Posted April 11, 2020 With a cat you can just shut the door where you are. Our cat doesn't really get in the way of anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 (edited) Well, I bet the city's shelter is still full. But the SPCA is empty. Hopefully that means they'll go get some from the animal shelter. That's where has too many and has to kill them. So sad. There's nothing as nice as a dog. Not all dogs are completely needy. The one of mine who recently died was like another faithful old dog I had and stayed by my side always, which is painful when it gets to where they need to just rest when they're old and not doing well. It hurts to watch them. But now, this one the photo up there, she will go lay in bed alone sometimes while I'm working, but now she's sitting in her chair beside me napping. I used to have one pair who would entertain themselves for hours just laying facing each other acting like they were going to bite each other and getting bent out of shape. I called Loretta and Letitia my little eggsuckers. Such a pair. Eggsuckers. Edited April 11, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed link Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, simpycurious said: I always believe in looking at the glass half full instead of half empty It's the best way!!! Edited April 11, 2020 by Ellener wording Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 one thing I decided to have a go at was writing a short story- it is based on an obsessive friendship relationship between two 20ish year old guys, herself K (girlfriend)was my first reviewer, it appears she does not like the content at all, hmmn. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 (edited) But that's only one person , means nothing . You need a few different people to get some real feed back , the next one might love it. l've been gonna try starting a book of art , just of my sketches and paintings but maybe with some theme and topic rather than a jumble of all sorts, not right now don't have the time but one of these days haha. Edited April 11, 2020 by chillii 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 I have about 3 books of journal that are pretty interesting, but I have held off too long. Anyone who would want to read about that period will be dead soon, and some of them would be unhappy about it. I'd have to lie to keep from making someone mad or ruining a marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 10 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: There was a divorce attorney on my evening news last night, saying that exact thing. He said his phone is ringing, constantly. Surely not how longs it been there , here it's only been about 3 wks , not much of a marriage and very weak people if they can't even spend a mth or two together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted April 12, 2020 Author Share Posted April 12, 2020 44 minutes ago, chillii said: Surely not how longs it been there , here it's only been about 3 wks , not much of a marriage and very weak people if they can't even spend a mth or two together. It just shows how fragile many marriages actually were. Times like these bring the true nature in people for good or bad. Link to post Share on other sites
missingu Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 We are engaged been living together for 5 years. I am going crazy, not because of him, just about the whole situation. The only thing that's bad about him at the moment is his temper, if technology doesn't work or he's losing at a videogame he loses it and has a tantrum . Not at me, just in general and sometimes it wears me down. He's always had a bad temper but not at me if that makes sense.not so often either. I'm excited to marry him and I know this isn't normal. He also gets a bit of anxiety because when things are like this he overthinks more than normal. Still having sex. We are both still working thankfully. Miss our families and friends too. Link to post Share on other sites
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