IndigoNight Posted April 29, 2020 Share Posted April 29, 2020 We're doing great! It's been nice to finally catch up on our tv shows, and get things done around the house that we kept putting off. Mostly we've been enjoying just spending time together, and the intimacy that comes with it. 😁 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mallimari Posted April 29, 2020 Share Posted April 29, 2020 (edited) The hubs and I are pretty much driving each other crazy at this point, haha. On the positive, we've been making a lot of food from scratch. On the not so fun side, because we have elderly/higher-risk folks at home as well, I've been pretty fastidious about cleaning and reducing contamination as much as possible, but hubs is not such a stickler and it's creating a lot of friction. He's tasked me with cutting his hair this weekend, and I have 0 experience with that, so... we'll see what happens! 😆 Edited April 29, 2020 by Mallimari Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted April 30, 2020 Share Posted April 30, 2020 In terms of the relationship, the severity of the lockdown has put us under a bit of pressure, my girlfriend K is 140 km away and at the moment we are only "allowed" travel 2km from our homes, from what I gather it is likely to be mid August/ September before we have unrestricted travel again. the only feasible way around this is moving in together which K appears keen on, It is not possible for me to move full time though as I have to be close too and do things for my elderly Mother at least part of the week, therefore the dilemma is do we just sit it out for the next four months or do I try to talk my way through police checkpoints, we will wait and see I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
gamon Posted April 30, 2020 Share Posted April 30, 2020 On 4/28/2020 at 8:06 AM, lana-banana said: he will stay up til 2 AM or even later to help out his employees in Europe. (I tell him that when people in Europe start answering his emails, it's time to go to bed...he only sometimes listens.) Why are you telling him when he is to stop doing his job? Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 3, 2020 Share Posted May 3, 2020 (edited) On 4/30/2020 at 9:01 PM, Foxhall said: In terms of the relationship, the severity of the lockdown has put us under a bit of pressure, my girlfriend K is 140 km away and at the moment we are only "allowed" travel 2km from our homes, from what I gather it is likely to be mid August/ September before we have unrestricted travel again. the only feasible way around this is moving in together which K appears keen on, It is not possible for me to move full time though as I have to be close too and do things for my elderly Mother at least part of the week, therefore the dilemma is do we just sit it out for the next four months or do I try to talk my way through police checkpoints, we will wait and see I suppose. Aug Sep , that's a long time isn't it . l haven't minded things at all l can still do what l usually do here except haven't visited anyone or them me but l look at it as a small sacrifice to now , but Aug Sep , shyt , that'd be a different story . l'd be expecting us to start opening up way before then , this mth hopefully , some states are now and hoping mine will soon too but any nasty outbreaks and it'd shut down again. Could you or your gf do a mth stay at either, then it's only one trip there and back, that's what we did but we won't see each other again now until things open again, we did through through the night trips, not a soul anywhere . On the driving part of it going back was 6 hours each way , saw one cop , beside me getting petrol would you believe. 4am, l'm thinking hmm what's gonna happen here but he just said hello got he's petrol and left. Edited May 3, 2020 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted May 4, 2020 Share Posted May 4, 2020 I am now fantasizing about when my girlfriend will leave and go home to her apartment. Today, I ordered 18 rolls of toilet paper from an on-line source. I over-paid for them, but they are going to be an early birthday gift for my girlfriend and she can take them with her when she goes back to her apartment (as she only had 2 rolls of TP at her place, when the pandemic started). I am hoping she can go back home on June 1st, everyone cross your fingers!! Another bit of good news, girlfriend's $1,200 stimulus check came in... Now she can afford the rent increase on her apartment for another year. I made her move the funds to savings and she can transfer it back for rent, as needed. We are figuring the complex won't raise the rent over $100/month. YEA!! she can stay in that apartment for a while and shut up about moving in with me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sothereiwas Posted May 4, 2020 Share Posted May 4, 2020 My wife is in my office videoke singing "You got it all" to me now. I guess we're doing OK. OK now she's gone on to "Dreaming of You". Life is pretty good. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted May 4, 2020 Share Posted May 4, 2020 5 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: I am now fantasizing about when my girlfriend will leave and go home to her apartment.[/quote] I thought you were going to have her move out on May 1? 😬 5 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: Another bit of good news, girlfriend's $1,200 stimulus check came in... Now she can afford the rent increase on her apartment for another year. I made her move the funds to savings and she can transfer it back for rent, as needed. We are figuring the complex won't raise the rent over $100/month. YEA!! she can stay in that apartment for a while and shut up about moving in with me. Great news that the stimulus check will cover the rent change. But I have to be honest, I thought you were talking about a much bigger change than that. There is no reason why she shouldn't be able to find a way to earn an extra $100 per month. She can walk dogs, babysit, shop for Instacart or one of those companies, run errands for an elderly person in her neighborhood, deliver for Ubereats or one of those companies in her area, etc. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted May 4, 2020 Share Posted May 4, 2020 22 hours ago, chillii said: Aug Sep , that's a long time isn't it . l haven't minded things at all l can still do what l usually do here except haven't visited anyone or them me but l look at it as a small sacrifice to now , but Aug Sep , shyt , that'd be a different story . l'd be expecting us to start opening up way before then , this mth hopefully , some states are now and hoping mine will soon too but any nasty outbreaks and it'd shut down again. Could you or your gf do a mth stay at either, then it's only one trip there and back, that's what we did but we won't see each other again now until things open again, we did through through the night trips, not a soul anywhere . On the driving part of it going back was 6 hours each way , saw one cop , beside me getting petrol would you believe. 4am, l'm thinking hmm what's gonna happen here but he just said hello got he's petrol and left. they have announced an exit plan since- looking like July 20th now which does not seem so far away, May is going to be pretty restrictive here, Im thinking early June am going to try a trip- the restrictions are moving to 20km allowed then (thats still not very far!) She has a seven-year old child so its really me that has to make the move and perhaps we are not quite there yet in the relationship for moving in together. I have to care for my elderly mother also, we will see I suppose, our politicians here are very cautious compared to other countries so its possible travel restrictions could linger indefinitely, my gut feeling is I have to try and make a visit in June or the relationship will lose a lot of momentum. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted May 4, 2020 Share Posted May 4, 2020 6 minutes ago, clia said: I thought you were going to have her move out on May 1? 😬 Our State Governor extended the "Stay at Home/Shelter in place" order to at least May 15th. Again, she lives in a "micro" studio apartment, so it would be quite difficult for her "hunker down" there. As for earning more money, yes I agree... You'd think she could figure out something to do to earn a few dollars a month, but she has found nothing. She doesn't really have that "get it done" instinct that most of us have. As far as delivering Ubereats or something similar, her old Dodge is hanging on by a "wing and a prayer"; using it as a delivery vehicle would result in a quick death. During the pandemic, her Dodge has been in my garage. There are now all manner of fluids on the floor, which was pristine clean before the Dodge was parked there. It has some leaks!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted May 5, 2020 Share Posted May 5, 2020 We're doing OK here, both getting a little tired and lazy due to the monotony of the limited daily routine, but hanging in there. No disagreements or nitpicking lately, as I think we both realize that doesn't help matters. The sweetest part of life these days is our affection and cuddles and all that good stuff. He really excels in the cuddling department. Link to post Share on other sites
lana-banana Posted May 5, 2020 Share Posted May 5, 2020 My plans for a really elaborate romantic weekend hit a bit of a snag since my period came right on Friday night, but we still had a very romantic and special time even without the sex, and we pushed the fanciest part of it to this coming Saturday. Overall it's been a helpful change to occasionally treat each other more like boyfriend and girlfriend than husband and wife. I'm also really glad that we got our kittens now, and not in January when we were first trying to adopt. These little guys sleep a ton, but when they're awake they need so much attention I'm not sure how we would've managed under ordinary circumstances. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted May 6, 2020 Share Posted May 6, 2020 We don't live together but have been able to see each other every weekend for long walks, etc. We're both working from home and taking care of kids like always, so especially during the "stay home" period it's not happening to additionally see each other during the week like we often did pre-virus. We have been talking about moving in together when the kids are out of our respective houses attending college or similar, assuming the future holds that for our kids (and the two of us continue to want to be together). I'm thrilled to be talking about that and know that he would be interested in that with me, and that he sees a long term relationship with me as desirable. But, on the other hand, I worry it would drastically change our relationship from its current state of tenderness and attentiveness and dating each other, and lots of affection, cuddling, long kisses, and lovemaking to something much less satisfying. So even though I often long for more time together, in reality I have concerns around how we would do being together 100 percent of the time. I sleep better on my own at home (though when we went away for a week together I slept fine). I don't know, maybe the grass is always greener. Even though I've had a number of relationships and was in an 18 year long one with my ex-H, none of them have been as good as this one is. I want to be with him forever and I don't want familiarity to change the romantic parts, even though intellectually I know it's inevitable that it will happen the longer we are together. Link to post Share on other sites
sothereiwas Posted May 6, 2020 Share Posted May 6, 2020 Disaster! My wife didn't inform me we were running out of pancake mix! I guess we'll pull through, maybe with counselling. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 Wellllll, speaking of how relationships are going in all this , your all the first to know , well apart from my daughter anyway. Bloody great actually , we've decided to get married . Congrats chilli , thanks chilli. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 Ahhh, next yr some time that is not right now of course Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 Just finished up with Bordertown on Netflix. I'd give it a B+. Interesting view of life along the Russian-Finnish border. Something I had not considered before. Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 7 hours ago, chillii said: Wellllll, speaking of how relationships are going in all this , your all the first to know , well apart from my daughter anyway. Bloody great actually , we've decided to get married . Congrats chilli , thanks chilli. Congratulations chilli !!!! 😃 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 Thanks very much kk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted May 11, 2020 Share Posted May 11, 2020 I hope you have many happy years together chillii. I'm not a fan of marriage, but I am a fan of committing to someone you love 💕 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 18 hours ago, chillii said: Bloody great actually , we've decided to get married Congrats buddy👍 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 Thanks for that fox , probably should've kept my mouth shut here , of all places but eh , ah well who cares. Yeah l know what you mean though and having already been married once and the stats out there these days , yaknow , it has such the just a piece of paper vibe to it these days l know , which l hate because if l married again it certainly wouldn't be for just a piece of paper . l do miss being married though and have thought right girl l'd marry again - or live in sin, either way as long as we're in as a lifer , l'm older than you and really couldn't be effd with more bs otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 1 minute ago, chillii said: Thanks for that fox , probably should've kept my mouth shut here , of all places but eh , ah well who cares. Yeah l know what you mean though and having already been married once and the stats out there these days , yaknow , it has such the just a piece of paper vibe to it these days l know , which l hate because if l married again it certainly wouldn't be for just a piece of paper . l do miss being married though and have thought right girl l'd marry again - or live in sin, either way as long as we're in as a lifer , l'm older than you and really couldn't be effd with more bs otherwise. Sharing here is a good thing, and sharing your happy news is even better! Congrats Chillii! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 Sorry fox l left out FMW in the part with the not a marriage fan thing, too many eff's round here , gotta be a meaning in that somewhere eh. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 12, 2020 Share Posted May 12, 2020 3 hours ago, greymatter said: Sharing here is a good thing, and sharing your happy news is even better! Congrats Chillii! Thanks for that gm. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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