K.K. Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 ”I really do need to start a thread to see what MEN desire or look for in a woman” @simpycurious Here ya go. 🙂 I waited and waited but it never came and several people were asking for it, so I took the liberty. Hope that’s ok. Your thread all the way though. Take care of it. 😉 K.K. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 (edited) Could it be that women don't care too much for the answer? Edited March 27, 2020 by basil67 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author K.K. Posted March 27, 2020 Author Share Posted March 27, 2020 7 minutes ago, basil67 said: Could it be that women don't care too much for the answer? Hey. I wonder how what women think men want would differ from their answers? 😛 Like I’m cynical and kind of an ass, so I would say they want: big boobs an accommodating attitude no brain a ‘mommy’ to take care of them someone to cook and do their laundry and sit there and look pretty the rest of the time. 😁 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Envy123 Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 I actually want someone who is: ambitious in their career/business calm and level-headed but not a doormat not insisting on getting takeout every night someone I feel comfortable with and I don't have to walk on eggshells all the time around her 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author K.K. Posted March 27, 2020 Author Share Posted March 27, 2020 I know! - a walking vagina with really long legs, so their strides would be quicker on the way out the door. 😁 Do you know how many times today that I’ve read this phrase: ” A man has to pretend that he cares for a woman, so that he can get the sex. If she’s lucky, he then may somewhat develop feelings.” Ok twice. I’ve read it twice. But still ... 😮 Ok, ok I know for a fact that there are men out there that thankfully do fall genuinely in love and want something way more substantial from their mate. But the ones that view women in the above quote- jeeze. 😕 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 2 hours ago, K.K. said: Hey. I wonder how what women think men want would differ from their answers? 😛 Like I’m cynical and kind of an ass, so I would say they want: big boobs an accommodating attitude no brain a ‘mommy’ to take care of them someone to cook and do their laundry and sit there and look pretty the rest of the time. 😁 The guys who can’t find a girlfriend or just want casual sex will answer with this. The guys who want a relationship (and have the skill set to get a relationship) will ask for something more substantial. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 I'll play. So here's my list, as drawn from experience of what works for me. I desire a woman who makes me feel an electric buzz in the air of attraction, excitement and sexual tension. I desire a woman who I can't help but smile at them, when I see there eyes. I desire a woman who can't help but smile at me, when they see my eyes. I desire a woman who I find aesthetically pleasing at their age. While also having that hard to define, special something (prettiness, character, wit, movement, brains etc) that grabs me. I desire a woman who has a really pretty face and pert breasts go a long way as well. I desire a woman who is really good at kissing and is highly sexual, good at sex, likes having a lot of sex and is up for and into all of or most of my sexual proclivities. I desire a woman who is comfortable with herself, accepts herself, likes herself and is happy to be herself, where ever that take her. I desire a woman who is genuine and authentic, tells it like it is, doesn't feel the need to tip-toe around people. I desire a woman who is a pleasure to talk to and is lots of fun to be around as well. I desire a woman who is highly intelligent, capable, practice and is also highly accomplished at whatever things they pursue. I desire a woman who appreciates visual arts, live theatre and shares a similar taste in music as well. I desire a woman who has a love for literature and a passion for history as well. I desire a woman who is willing and keen to take all of her clothes off to pose for me, so I can draw her and make splendid watercolour paintings of her. Plus who is also willing to pose nude for my photography as well. I desire a woman, who isn't a wowser or a prude. I desire a woman who isn't convinced that gods exist and doesn't care for religion or any other spiritually or woo. I desire a woman who wants me, but doesn't need me and wants me to want her, but does not want me to need her as well. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 What I am enjoying with my woman K She can read my little quirks very quick-such as when I am feeling uncomfortable but without having to say anything to indicate I am uncomfortable, she is good at putting me at ease, Also so far anyway that she accepts me being a little unconventional - that I get bored very quickly in a standard 9 to 6 job and so on, and that I would like to do something completely different- be a writer or something, she is being quite supportive of that- sending me articles about how to be a writer and so on, in the honeymoon phase anyway- shall we say that is the first year of dating- a man appreciates it when they know the woman they like is prepared to make time for them. Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 (edited) Seems like this comes up over and over again. I'll play one mo' time .... First to mention because it's a go/no-go filter, though NOT the highest priority and NOT enough on its own, is physical appeal. To ME that means a 'healthy' low weigh with a low waist to hips ratio and no hanging fat. Also a pretty 'enough' face - I know it when I see it but I think I'm rather typical of men. Even at my age (66), there are plenty of women who easily pass this filter. Those who do almost always have included exercise as part of their lifestyle for years, more often than not yoga. Christie Brinkley, granted a celebrity whose JOB it is to 'look good', is about a week older than me. I have dated several women who, even for purely physical reasons, I would not 'kick out of bed to make room' for Christie ... or for a warm blanket. She wants to be with me, is committed and loyal, and has strong moral values (of course I reciprocate). She's 'smart' enough to keep me intellectually engaged (of course I reciprocate). She has her own fun things to do and is happy to share in my fun (of course I reciprocate). She shares the mundane workload (of course I reciprocate). Edited March 27, 2020 by nospam99 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 loyalty and empathy Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 Personally, I need an intelligent woman. (preferably one with a college degree) You can only have sex for so long, at some point you are going to have to talk and I'd like her to be able to hold up her end of the conversation. Many years ago, I was dating this woman with a PHD. We got into a discussion and were on opposite ends of a situation/dilemma. Using basic logic she proved me wrong, I actually thought that was quite sexy. I admitted she was correct and my logic trail was flawed. For some reason, that brought us closer... she was also quite fun in bed. I don't think I'm as hung up on looks as with most guys... I've dated women 4' 10" to 6' 1" from 98 lbs. to 305 lbs. and every size in between. If we have fun and she enhances my life, I'm good. If she complains and causes me angst, she's gone. Of course good sex is a must. If she uses it as a weapon or attempts to manipulate me by withholding sex, I'm going to quickly "next" her. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 54 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: Of course good sex is a must. Hehe I don't even know why talk about this matter since it's known that sex is No 1 issue for men. It's their main course, everything else they can manage without. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 3 hours ago, 5x5 said: I desire a woman who wants me, but doesn't need me.... and wants me to want her, but does not want me to need her as well. wtf does this mean?? please extrapolate Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 A woman that's trustworthy. Honest. Loyal. Not just a best friend but MY best friend. Someone who will support me morally and emotionally. Someone that will look at me the same love and affection the way I'd look at her. I'm sure I could go on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 29 minutes ago, alphamale said: wtf does this mean?? please extrapolate I think it means that he wants someone who doesn't need him nor wants him to need her. That they are their own people who don't need each other to be happy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 58 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: since it's known that sex is No 1 issue for men. It's their main course... Without sex, a woman is just a friend... I have enough friends. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said: Without sex, a woman is just a friend... I have enough friends. Then why did you add all these attributes? 😛 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 2 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: Then why did you add all these attributes? 😛 I don't need a female friend... Of course, sex is number 1, we are in agreement on that point. I need her to be a sexual partner, but I also require an intelligent woman who can carry on a logical conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 There are many things I could look for/enjoy. However, I think a realistic list for me is: ** Pretty "enough" Sweet personality Sexy and/or very sexual, preferably both (but I'll settle for "good in bed") Smart Good or at least decent conversationalist Genuinely likes me/is into me, but also can give me space Doesn't expect me to support her fully financially It's not an extremely tall order IMO. Of course people change over time, so someone who is all of these things at, say, 25 may no longer be all or even most at 35. So then one has to decide what one can live with as far as misalignment goes (if one wishes to continue a LTR). Some folks might stay the same in all key depts, but I honestly don't think that's a realistic expectation over decades. ** rather subjective in my case 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 21 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: Of course, sex is number 1, So everything else is just a bonus. Right? Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 14 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: So everything else is just a bonus. Right? I don't really understand your statement/question... When two people are in a relationship, they get enjoyment from interacting with one another, both sexual and otherwise. When we are not "Sheltering in Place", my girlfriend enjoy eating meals together, traveling, playing Scrabble, talking, sharing thoughts on books we both read, light hiking, etc. Are you defining that as a "bonus"?? Sorry I'm a bit confused. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 2 hours ago, SummerDreams said: I think it means that he wants someone who doesn't need him nor wants him to need her. That they are their own people who don't need each other to be happy. i would want a partner who both wants me and needs me Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 (edited) My boyfriend and I had this conversation recently. He said the must-haves for him are: Chemistry / attraction to her beauty and sexuality Intelligence / intellectual connection / great conversation on any and all topics A self-sufficient partner who doesn't need to lean on him as a financial caretaker, unless we're lucky enough to have kids - he said it's not so much about the money, but he doesn't respect women who are lazy, have no ambition and competence, would have no interest in a girlfriend like that and be embarrassed to introduce her to anyone. Edited March 27, 2020 by Ruby Slippers Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said: I don't really understand your statement/question... When two people are in a relationship, they get enjoyment from interacting with one another, both sexual and otherwise. When we are not "Sheltering in Place", my girlfriend enjoy eating meals together, traveling, playing Scrabble, talking, sharing thoughts on books we both read, light hiking, etc. Are you defining that as a "bonus"?? Sorry I'm a bit confused. When you say that something is No 1, you either mean that everything else is not necessary (so it's a bonus) OR that No1 is that essential that without it there is no need for anything else. In other words, if you find a woman who has all your numbers 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 etc but she lacks in number 1, would you not continue with her? Or will the rest of the numbers combined be enough for you to give it a chance? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 23 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: When you say that something is No 1, you either mean that everything else is not necessary Then I misunderstood your definition of Number 1... Yes, sex is a must in a relationship (for me), but she also needs to be intelligent (as referenced in my prior post) and she needs to bring joy to my life (not causing me angst or hardship). Although, I am a simple man with simple needs, I do require all 3 of those components to continue dating (being in a relationship) with a woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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