LizBlue Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 Guy I know has a girlfriend, of sorts / fwb, and has shown signs of interest/attraction to me over the last 4-6 months sometimes very flipping obviously. I do like him but haven't gone out of my way to encourage him. What should I do? Should I just ask what's going on? If so how not to put my foot into my mouth. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted March 30, 2020 Share Posted March 30, 2020 well.... a FWB isn't a GF. Unfortunately, with the way the world is (COVID) it's not easy to just go out, and see each other. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 30, 2020 Share Posted March 30, 2020 Agree with Blind-Sided, a FWB is NOT a girlfriend. Has he actually asked you out or said something about hooking up? If his interest in you is "flipping obvious" then he should be following that up with an actual invitation of some kind. Otherwise, he's probably just enjoying flirting but not looking for it to go anywhere. If you really want to know, yes, just ask him what's up. There's a chance that will be awkward, but if you really feel the need to know then go for it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LizBlue Posted April 3, 2020 Author Share Posted April 3, 2020 (edited) He hasn't asked. I think he's been trying to figure out my own feelings recently. It's gotten rather obvious the last little bit with his behaviour. But I'm still trying to figure out if I "saw things" or his behaviour last week - prolonged eye contact not once but twice - was legit cause he cooled off his usual going-out-of-his-way/being-very-helpful (more than just decent) behaviour a bit. I'm half tempted to just say fk it all & ask him. Either outright or sort of "push" him into saying something. I've never been one for "playing games" if you would. Edited April 3, 2020 by LizBlue Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 If you know there's another woman in the picture, why would you pursue or allow anything with him? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 What's a 'gf of sorts'? Sounds like one wrung above FWB. Either way if it really is just a casual thing, 6 months of 'figuring things out' seems a bit long. He'd have made a move if he was keen and available. I'd ask him outright to get it over with, but prepare yourself for anything. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleLassie Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 (edited) 53 minutes ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: If you know there's another woman in the picture, why would you pursue or allow anything with him? 🤣 Reread what the poster said in the original post. She hasn't gone out of her way to encourage him. Comprende? Edited April 4, 2020 by LittleLassie Link to post Share on other sites
LittleLassie Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 42 minutes ago, Emilie Jolie said: What's a 'gf of sorts'? Sounds like one wrung above FWB. Either way if it really is just a casual thing, 6 months of 'figuring things out' seems a bit long. He'd have made a move if he was keen and available. I'd ask him outright to get it over with, but prepare yourself for anything. Not necessarily if the OP is doing nothing to encourage him. If he had a fwb/girlfriend/whatever already why risk it on someone unknown? He may have come to realize that he actually likes the OP & thus is "ramping up" his interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 For 6 months, though? Benefit of the doubt is that he's a slow mover, more likely scenario is that he's a flirt (or a douche). OP encouraging or not is irrelevant - she's obviously interested. I personally would not be waiting that long to test the waters. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 (edited) ------------------------------------------------------ Edited April 4, 2020 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 On 3/27/2020 at 6:00 AM, LizBlue said: Guy I know has a girlfriend, of sorts / fwb, and has shown signs of interest/attraction to me over the last 4-6 months sometimes very flipping obviously. 1 minute ago, stillafool said: If he has been eyeing you for 4-6 months and just has a FWB why hasn't he asked you out? It sounds more like this guy has a gf and is just flirting. A FWB is not a committed relationship so he is permitted to date others if he wants. Plus no one really knows about them, do they? Link to post Share on other sites
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