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Hello everyone,

I just wanted a little advice. I started talking to a guy online about 1 and a half-2 weeks ago. Right before this corona virus made it impossible to meet. Once we started texting he initiated contact the first two days. Our convo ended each night. After those 2 days, I initiated contact by sharing a funny article that he would like. He responded very quickly and asked if I wanted to talk on the phone since we couldn’t meet yet. We talked on the phone for about an hour and a half. He said we would talk again tomorrow. I promised to send him a picture about something that we had discussed. I sent it the next afternoon and he responded right away. We had a convo and then it ended that night. The next day he texted me and we talked pretty much the whole day on and off. He had mentioned on the phone to let him know if I wanted to chat again. So once our convo was over for the day, I said let me know if you want to talk on the phone again sometime this week. He said sure and that he would talk to me tomorrow. The next day by nighttime I hadn’t heard from him so I sent a casual text. I wasn’t sure if he had wanted me to contact him b/c of the wording of his text. He responded right away again and then asked if I wanted to talk on the phone, we talked for like 3 and a half hours and he said that he would talk to me tomorrow. The next day, I didn’t hear from him so I sent him a text that didn’t require a reply. We had stayed up late talking so I just said something funny about that. He responded quickly and we had a convo. He seemed interested and asked questions. He even responded to things that didn’t require a reply. But our convo ended when we went to sleep. I sent the last text to say good night and reply to his good night text. I did not text him the next day and he did not initiate contact with me.

He does initiate conversations some days and when I do, he seems happy to hear from me. He is engaged in the convo, asks questions, and wants to talk on the phone. But I guess I’m worried about why he doesn’t start convos more often. It does seem like he is not too into texting. The convos on the phone are amazing – better than the texts. But I guess I just can’t tell if he’s interested and wanted to get another perspective. I don’t want to continue to waste my time or annoy him if he doesn’t want to talk to me. I’d really appreciate hearing everyone’s thoughts! Thank you….

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He's probably talking to other women. Stop being so invested is key. Your expectations are of someone who would have been on several dates. One day at a time, Always keep your options open.

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He might be talking to other women as well, since it sounds like it’s only been a day since you last spoke to him it’s very possible he will reach out to you in the next few days.  I don’t know that texting/talking everyday is a good idea prior to meeting anyway, kinda gives you a false sense of a relationship.

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Cookiesandough

Yea you’re way too invested...
What if you meet and you’re not attracted to him at all... or he has a weird smell... 

Just saying I spent 2 or so weeks talking to this guy until he moved to my city and honestly there was just nothing there in person. He was completely different. Kind of shy  and not as funny. Just different. 

Plus with the issue the way it is and if that is why you’re not meeting, you’re most going to wait at least a few more weeks...


 

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