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Diamondsandrubys

I met a guy in a pub in February who I’d dated in the past. It hadn’t worked last time because I had recently come out of a long term relationship and he could sense I wasn’t ready to get in to anything. We dated for about six weeks in total around 18 months ago.  

After we bumped in to each other in Feb, I text saying it’d be good to go for coffee. We did, and over the course of the next month we went on another couple of dates - the dates were wonderful and mutual but if I hadn’t had suggested meeting, I don’t think they’d have happened. Although he texted daily and asked questions, I just sensed I was keener than him.

So obviously now corona virus has taken off...and...worst dating timing ever...the guy just happens to be a doctor in intensive care! 

I sent him a message last week saying that I didn’t expect anything but it would be nice to keep in touch. I said I understood his priorities were on on dating at the moment. He replied and agreed that it was going to be almost impossible for him to date but that he’d like to stay in touch. 

Since then we’ve spoken every few days briefly...a message or two, but I’m not sure what to do really. He’s obviously not in a position to date at the moment, but would like to stay in touch. I’ve got a lot of time to think about things at the moment which is no use. And how do I know that at the ‘end’ of this, whenever that may be, that he will even want to pick back up where we left off. 

I’m basically struggling to know how to feel - I don’t want to completely close the door because I really like him, but I’m not sure I can get too hopeful for potentially months on end and for nothing to come of it. 

He obviously and rightly so doesn’t have the time to spend on me at the moment, but how do I get to a point of feeling fine about it when the door is still open?

 

thanks 

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Its a tricky time for all couples not living together (or living together I imagine)

you may as well hold out for him, you'll hardly get much alternatives in this climate

dating is going to be pretty much on hold now for the next few months,

just have to entertain yourself in the meantime and resume the relationship in a few mths.

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All you can do is bide your time and just wait. It's going to take some time to get back into the swing of things for everybody when it simmers down. 

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