Daniel21w Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 Hello , I have a problem considering my confusion towards a girl. I met a girl last year , unfortunately she rejected me instantly.After 6 months she initiated contact and we got really close , that was the first confusion, I was not really ready for a relationship, but we kept talking over FaceTime for long periods she touched me really often and was super flirtatious. Unfortunately I was stupid and did not make a move ( kiss and so on...) , that continued for a few weeks , after I tried to ask her out she just wanted to hang out in groups and wasn’t really interested in going out with me. But she did invite me to her birthday in December ( I was the only guy with some other two guys who had already girlfriends ) . But after that we didn’t contact each other for 3 months , she called me last week , we talked for some hours , she did send me also really cute birthday wishes . After one week I asked her out and she said she will tell me when she will have free time , wo we went on a walk today , and I asked her : „what pushed you to call me again after such a long time“ ? And she said : „ Oh , I was just bored“ , „was that the only reason ?“ , „yes“. But she is teasing me all the time and kept the basic signs of being interested. I would have tried to kiss her but , after she said that, I was sort of unmotivated, I also wanted to ask her out again , but I didn’t.... additionally, we didn’t kiss , hug or anything, we just said „Hi“ and „bye“ So do you think I should move or don’t contact her again ? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 Well you already asked her out and I guess now she's said I'll let you know later, or was your walk some sort of date? you still haven't been out on a proper date so I don't see any reason to kiss her. Ask her to something specific and don't leave it open-ended. ask her if she'll go see such-and-such movie with you on Saturday. If she makes excuses she's not interested that way but just as a friend..to me it sounds like the window of opportunity fizzled a long time ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Daniel21w said: Hello , I have a problem considering my confusion towards a girl. I met a girl last year , unfortunately she rejected me instantly. She was interested in another guy and she didn't want you to get in the way. Quote After 6 months she initiated contact and we got really close , The guy dumped her and she wanted an ego boost that's why she contacted you. She was feeling lonely and emotionally needy and she knew you cared for her. Quote that was the first confusion, I was not really ready for a relationship, but we kept talking over FaceTime for long periods she touched me really often and was super flirtatious. She loves attention. Back in college I had a young woman who would flirt with me, show me her panties, she'd tell me how good she is with her hands and no, I'm not talking about crochet here, endlessly and wouldn't stop touching my shoulders, arms, legs and back, for no reason, but if I made a move she'd tell me she had a boyfriend and would shut me down real quick 🤣 Women like that live for attention from other men. Maybe her boyfriend ignores her. Maybe her dad left her when she was a little girl. Who knows. Quote Unfortunately I was stupid and did not make a move ( kiss and so on...) , that continued for a few weeks Bro, many many, many women will throw themselves at you if they are really into you. She isn't into you. She just enjoys knowing she can always call upon you to make her feel better every time her self-esteem goes down. Quote , after I tried to ask her out she just wanted to hang out in groups and wasn’t really interested in going out with me. Because she doesn't want to be alone with you. She's afraid you might try to make a move on her. Quote But she did invite me to her birthday in December ( I was the only guy with some other two guys who had already girlfriends ) She wants a birthday gift. Quote . But after that we didn’t contact each other for 3 months , she called me last week , we talked for some hours , she did send me also really cute birthday wishes . After one week I asked her out and she said she will tell me when she will have free time , wo we went on a walk today , and I asked her : „what pushed you to call me again after such a long time“ ? And she said : „ Oh , I was just bored“ , „was that the only reason ?“ , „yes“. But she is teasing me all the time and kept the basic signs of being interested. I would have tried to kiss her but , after she said that, I was sort of unmotivated, I also wanted to ask her out again , but I didn’t.... additionally, we didn’t kiss , hug or anything, we just said „Hi“ and „bye“ So do you think I should move or don’t contact her again ? When I was a young man there was this woman I wanted to sleep with. She knew I wanted to sleep with her. She'd flirt with me all the time. She'd let me grab her rear-end, she'd show me her panties and so forth, but she never let me smash. One day she stopped talking to me and I never bothered to try to contact her. One day out of the blue she starts calling me on the phone but I just ignored it. She keeps doing it. Turns out she wanted a relationship with me. I just ignored her and went on with my life. Some people are just mentally ill and not worth your time. That woman is not worth your time. She just wants you to keep her entertained until the guy she really wants come along into her life. Edited March 27, 2020 by Azincourt Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daniel21w Posted March 27, 2020 Author Share Posted March 27, 2020 3 minutes ago, Azincourt said: She was interested in another guy and she didn't want you to get in the way. The guy dumped her and she wanted an ego boost that's why she contacted you. She was feeling lonely and emotionally needy and she knew you cared for her. She loves attention. Back in college I had a young woman who would flirt with me endlessly and wouldn't stop touching me for no reason, but if I made a move she'd tell me she had a boyfriend 🤣 Women like that live for attention from other men. Maybe her boyfriend ignores her. Maybe her dad left her when she was a little girl. Who knows. Bro, many many, many women will throw themselves at you if they are really into you. She isn't into you. She just enjoys knowing she can always call upon you to make her feel better every time her self-esteem goes down. Because she doesn't want to be alone with you. She's afraid you might try to make a move on her. She wants a birthday gift. When I was a young man there was this woman I wanted to sleep with. She knew I wanted to sleep with her. She'd flirt with me all the time. She'd let me grab her rear-end, she'd show me her panties and so forth, but she never let me smash. One day she stopped talking to me and I never bothered to try to contact her. One day out of the blue she starts calling me on the phone but I just ignored it. She keeps doing it. Turns out she wanted a relationship with me. I just ignored her and went on with my life. Some people are just mentally ill and not worth your time. That woman is not worth your time. She just wants you to keep her entertained until the guy she really wants come along into her life. I dont know if that matters, but she came up with ideas to hang out with me , she really wanted to. Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 14 minutes ago, Daniel21w said: I dont know if that matters, but she came up with ideas to hang out with me , she really wanted to. Doesn't mean anything. Women enjoy hanging out with their friends and with the men who are interested in them. Make a move on her, if she is lackluster about it, move on and forget about this woman. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted March 28, 2020 Share Posted March 28, 2020 This is all guess work Daniel. I don't know what her motives are but I do know when someone likes you they don't act like this. I think she's telling you the truth when she said she talks with you when she's bored. Don't push too hard or you will just remain confused. You outlined your two choices. You ask her out and if she says no the it's time to scrub her off the social media. Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted March 28, 2020 Share Posted March 28, 2020 Yup, she was being honest when she said she was bored - she just uses you for entertainment between boyfriends. Stop playing with her and find a real girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
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