preraph Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 Oh, Jah, That's my kind of fun! I wish I could still do those kind of hikes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 12 minutes ago, jah526 said: Went hiking and looked at petroglyphs today. Finished up to season 5 of Better Call Saul. Now watching season 2 of Big Little Lies. I really enjoy hiking as well JAH. I particularly enjoy it in the mountains of eastern NC. I am normally always going somewhere and involved in very active pursuits so not much idle time or watching TV time for me but I started watching a few shows on NetFlix out of shear boredom. I am starting to get "worn out" with some of shows. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 (edited) I was moving some stuff around in the garage and found a box labeled "Goodwill", it had some books in it. I completely forgot to drop that box off. My girlfriend now has four more books to read, she had just finished the last one from my personal stash. She loves to read and it calms her down. I was thinking about ordering some used books online, so she had something to read until the lock down is over and the library re-opens, but now I don't have to. Those four books should keep her busy through the end of the month. Procrastinating paid off... (this time) Edited April 13, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed commercial link 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: I was moving some stuff around in the garage and found a box labeled "Goodwill", it had some books in it. I completely forgot to drop that box off. My girlfriend now has four more books to read, she had just finished the last one from my personal stash. She loves to read and it calms her down. I was thinking about ordering some used books online, so she had something to read until the lock down is over and the library re-opens, but now I don't have to. Those four books should keep her busy through the end of the month. Procrastinating paid off... (this time) Does she read digital books or listen to audio books? Libby is a great app that connects to your local library with your library card and you can borrow books that way. Sometimes there is a waiting list because they only have so many licenses, but there are plenty of other books to choose from if you have to get on a list for your first choice. Edited April 13, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed quoted commercial link 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 2 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Does she read digital books or listen to audio books? No, she doesn't have an e-reader and neither do I. I don't think either of our phones can do digital books, neither. I'll ask her about audio books, but I doubt she'd like them. We both like tangible "old fashioned" paper books. She picked the "mystery" from the 4 in the box and can't put it down. ("The girl before" by JP Delaney) It appears to be making her happy, which is good. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said: We both like tangible "old fashioned" paper books. Yeah, if I'm gonna read a book I like paper books too. I read all day long on a computer screen for work so I don't consider it fun to keep reading for fun. I do listen to a lot of audio books though. It's easy to multi task while listening to a book. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 My little street library is still turning books around - it's great to see people still loving paperbacks. And as our libraries, goodwill stores and flea markets have closed, street libraries are one of the few sources of cheap books left. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 I basically read all day, nonfiction, in my work. My neck and shoulders are killing me right now from it. I used to love to read so much, but typing all the time has ruined it for me. I guess the plus side is I know something about just about any subject, but that can be frustrating too because people who don't know will read one blurb on social media and think they know all there is to know. It's discouraging. You can try to tell them facts, but they will just argue in the abstract. Doesn't slow them down a bit. I even have to avoid some threads on here because of that. If I disappear, it's usually because I'm not going to waste time arguing with someone who isn't well informed on a subject. I like paperbacks when I do read. I can't really do hardbacks. It hurts my arm. Sometimes I will do it just on my phone, though. It's not too bad, better than Kindle or those original readers. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 @preraph, I was a bookworm growing up and through college, but like you, I'm not that into paper books anymore because I spend so much time reading and writing on the computer for work. Audio books were perfect for commuting, but I haven't listened to any now that I'm at home almost all the time. Today is day 8 of my new job, and it's the first day I haven't had many video meetings scheduled, hallelujah! I feel like I can finally catch my breath and get some real work done. My guy and I had a disagreement this weekend - an episode of his selfishness and my disappointment and disconnection - and he left without much discussion, so it's just me now. This off and on pattern has been there the whole time, so it's not surprising, and by now I'm just going with the flow. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Oh, Ruby, sorry you're still having rough patches with your bf. Sounds like you have fun a lot of the time before it implodes. Because of the heavy nature of what I read and type through work, I like the most light inane fiction possible on the rare occasion I get started reading, which seems to be about once a year. Something like Janet Evanovich Plum series, but I've read all those except the latest. I never read stuff like that back when I was really reading. I read a lot of horror and true crime and then going further back, a lot of fiction of different types. Now there's ID channel and all that, so I only read true crime just keeping up with crime news and if my favorite profiler would write something (he's pretty old now, so probably not any more). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 19 hours ago, basil67 said: My little street library is still turning books around - it's great to see people still loving paperbacks. And as our libraries, goodwill stores and flea markets have closed, street libraries are one of the few sources of cheap books left. i just cannot seem to make myself read a book these days. Now swimming, golfing, running, hiking, I am perfectly fine with. I think the physical activities really override anything stationary for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Thanks, @preraph. I've only known him for 6 months, and this is the time to figure out if we're right for each other. The current situation adds a layer of intensity, but it's really the same question as ever - is this the man I want to go through life with or not? Right now I'm on the fence 🤷♀️ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Ruby Slippers: It seems a lot of issues for a young relationship, also sounds like you are not compatible on a few important aspects. The on & off is a good indication you should pass. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 12 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: this is the time to figure out if we're right for each other. Ruby, when a relationship has been so bumpy in the first 6 months, it's just not a good match. You know right now, deep down, this is not the guy for you. You should have been enjoying this relationship more than you have been for these months if there was really something there. This is not a case of running into a couple of bumps while overall things have been good. There have been numerous bumps. I get that now would not be a good time to be dealing with a break up, but a couple of weeks ago, you were all good with it being over and looking forward to focusing on your new job. Go "there" again 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Thanks, but it's not that simple. Once you reach a certain point and still haven't found the right romantic partner, you have to ask yourself if you're being too particular and consider that you might need to relax your high standards somewhat. I'm not afraid to deal with a breakup. I've been through that several times with him already. Given the pattern, I've become rather matter-of-fact about it. We've had many wonderful times together, and in spite of his flaws and mine, we both have shining qualities and for the most part get along very well. Otherwise it would be easy to let it go. I'm not asking for advice on what I should do, just giving updates. Respectfully, only I can know what's best for me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 @Ruby Slippers Its the pandemic... none of us are "right in the head" during this mess. My girlfriend and I were doing just fine until the pandemic, now there is so much anxiety that (what we say) and (how we act) isn't truly who we are. Don't make any final/final decisions until this pandemic thing is all over and life is back to normal. Just my two cents... Best of luck to you and your guy!! [Hoping for a "happy ever after" ending] 2 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said: Its the pandemic... none of us are "right in the head" I just got an email from my sister who has been married decades and she and her husband are arguing now she's working from home. It's a big test of any relationship/friendship to be in lockdown with someone, real life isn't Love in the Time of Cholera 😁 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 A lot of couples sweep their problems under the carpet, it's easy to do when both are working hours and busy with life in general, it's not so easy to continue sweeping these problems away when we spend all of our time together with nothing else to distract us. I think couples that are having problems now already had problems before the isolation. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Yes, suddenly being together 24/7 is an atypical situation for a couple just getting to know each other. But this was a choice; we accepted the risk. And to be fair, we butted heads before Coronavirus. We're both strong-willed and pretty stubborn. I'm kind of surprised by how well we were getting along, for the most part. I'm doing OK on my own. It's quiet and I'm finding a new routine for just me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 3 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I think couples that are having problems now already had problems before the isolation. I agree. Pressure reveals any cracks in the foundation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 4 hours ago, simpycurious said: i just cannot seem to make myself read a book these days. Now swimming, golfing, running, hiking, I am perfectly fine with. I think the physical activities really override anything stationary for me. Our pools were the first things to close and the river is cooling down for winter I dearly miss swimming 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: Thanks, @preraph. I've only known him for 6 months, and this is the time to figure out if we're right for each other. The current situation adds a layer of intensity, but it's really the same question as ever - is this the man I want to go through life with or not? Right now I'm on the fence 🤷♀️ Well, you've got it all in perspective and much more level headed than I ever was about such things! So you'll figure it out. I agree with others. This much togetherness is not good for most relationships. If you get through this and depending if the issues were at all related to it, then things would be easier. Edited April 15, 2020 by preraph 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 6 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: @preraph, My guy and I had a disagreement this weekend - an episode of his selfishness and my disappointment and disconnection - and he left without much discussion, so it's just me now. @Ruby Slippers Almost 20 years ago, I was dating a woman and we had an argument and I left in a huff (I was being stupid and should have just apologized) Sometimes men do stupid things and are stubborn about it. The next evening she called me up and told me to come over to her, as that is where I belonged... next to her. I can remember those exact words, "You belong next to me, so please come over" That was all she said, and I said "OK, I'm coming over, now" She was right, she didn't make me apologize, just gave me a big hug when I showed up and we didn't discuss the matter further. She made me dinner (served her home made tomato sauce over pasta... she was Italian) and we just continued. Sometimes two people just belong together. I hope you guys get back together... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 (edited) I'm on annual leave, booked ages ago. I'd felt the effect of the pandemic at work (a lot busier with very anxious people) but not the staying at home bored out of your skull effect. I seem to be posting on LS a lot (on the advice of a good friend) and getting into pointless online arguments (against the advice of said good friend), which is not particularly my style IRL. I've invested my free time today reading all about the factional mess in the UK Labour Party, and proceeded to give my SO a completely unsolicited impromptu lecture on how Corbyn got stitched up by his own party, on his return from work. He nodded politely a few times then strongly suggested I spent my time doing more upbeat stuff tomorrow. I've also just ordered a beginners knitting set as an impulse buy. I don't even know why. Edited April 15, 2020 by Emilie Jolie 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cold-brunette Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 (edited) Hey all, I am new here. I want to talk to people on the other side of the world. That is why I am here. Recently,I have watched lots of movies of the genre that I am fond of and I have been busy with artworks. I am looking forward to enjoying the site. Edited April 16, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Anonymity 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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