Wife still wants to join the guard despite my objections

[w3adams]

Hi everyone, me and my wife have been married for less than a year and she wants to join the national guard. Now she has 2 children and we just had our first les than 3 months ago. And 3 weeks ago she decided she wants to join the guard. And when she bout it up to me i said no i thought it was crazy. since then she will not let it go she will bring it up all the time. and when she doesnt get her way she makes my life miserable and threatens to leave. i love her but ive never seen her act this. Ive tried to sit and talk with her ....it gets ugly...ive tried to get her to get some marriage counsiling (cause we couldnt sit there and talk about it rationaly) but she said i was the problem.....please help me i am at my wits end and now when she says she wnats to leave i want to just let her go cause she is maken this miserable.....but i cant stop thinking of the kids and her....this hurts somthin bad but im at my end

 

 

please help me with some advice

[whichwayisup]

Maybe you need to SHOW Her what she's gonna miss if she goes away. I can't believe she's willing to leave, especially with a baby so young.

 

Maybe let her go...She'll realize how wrong she is? I don't know. Have you talked to the rest of the family? Kids, inlaws etc? What do they say?

[w3adams]

Well the other kids are 2 and 5. Ive tried talkin to family they feel its crazy and dont know what to tell me and her family really isnt around to talk to. Ive gone as far as my pastor and he feels the same. Why should a mother of three young children who has been married under a year leave like this.

[whichwayisup]

Is it possible she met somebody and is going over there to see them? I'm sorry, I don't want to upset you, but really, it makes NO sense of why she wants to do this!

 

I wish you luck and I hope she changes her mind. Do what you can, but really, if she is that admant of going, nothing will stop her..Not even her kids. That's sad...

[Sheba]

Maybe she is just a selfish, juvenile, bitch that lacks the usual instinct to nurture her babies? I find it bizarre that parents - especially mothers - abandon their children, but it happens.

 

Perhaps those children will be better off if you raise them alone. You, and they, may have no choice in the matter. Maybe you will find a new partner who will be a loving and willing step parent. In any case, I wish you luck.

[Jeffrey]

These days, joining the Guard is a good way to get sent to Iraq.