max3732 Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 Something about me I haven't come to terms with yet is that I'm embarrassed by my smile. Growing up I never had any issues until high school when I noticed my lips were so much bigger than everyone else's and I had this gap in my front teeth. After that I stopped showing my teeth when I smile and now I naturally just kind of curl my lips up to try and make them look smaller. People have told me that people find Angelina Jolie attractive, but I just don't like the look of it. Onetime I was at the grovery store and this little kind pointed and asked his mom why my lips were so big. No one else in my family has lips like mine and I'm sure I'm not adopted. A few years go I got my teeth straightened and I thought I'd feel better about smiling and it certainly helped but I'm still not happy about how I look. What else can I do? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 See a cosmetic surgeon. Or accept that none of us are perfect. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 Perhaps some ladies will like that, at any rate I would not overthink it, you had a similar post about your voice not sounding right on the phone, some people like to pass remarks, but look we all have our flaws be they physical or psychological. dont overthink things, just get out there do the best you can and learn from your mistakes. Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 Your smile is for people you want to give a smile to, or to express your joy or happiness. It's not for the ornamental viewing pleasure of people. Embrace your smile for what it does, for what it is, not for what it looks like. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 (edited) Mmm I don’t mean to sound cheesy, I’m being completely honest, that I have never seen a smile I didn’t find beautiful. It’s the meaning behind it 😁 If you do surgery to make your lips smaller , it most likely will still not look to your liking and might seem “off” just because it’s an imperfect science and your lips probably fit your face Most of us have things we wish we could change, things that other people would actually love about us and we’d be a lot happier if we just accepted Edited April 2, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 I would figure out what the underlying belief is behind your smile (do you feel ugly? are you afraid you're going to be rejected? no one will want to kiss you? you'll be forever alone? etc.) and then I would look up EFT (emotional freedom technique) on YouTube where there are lots of free videos and tap on it so that you can reduce your feelings of embarrassment. It will feel silly at first but I feel EFT has helped me more than traditional forms of therapy, so no harm trying it. If it's too weird for you, still identify the belief so that you can work on changing it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 2, 2020 Share Posted April 2, 2020 18 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Mmm I don’t mean to sound cheesy, I’m being completely honest, that I have never seen a smile I didn’t find beautiful. It’s the meaning behind it 😁 If you do surgery to make your lips smaller , it most likely will still not look to your liking and might seem “off” just because it’s an imperfect science and your lips probably fit your face Most of us have things we wish we could change, things that other people would actually love about us and we’d be a lot happier if we just accepted Golden advice from a golden person. Well said 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted April 3, 2020 Share Posted April 3, 2020 Growing up I had a family member constantly nitpick my looks. One of the criticisms was my lips were too big. They encouraged me to purse my lips more to look thinner. I was so self conscious. then I got to high school and my friends raves about my lips. I didn’t understand it and continued to “thin “ them out. then I started dating and, well all I’ll say is I no longer try to make them smaller 😆 stop picking yourself apart. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 3, 2020 Share Posted April 3, 2020 Big lips, there might be a few people who have something against them, but there's also a big group of people who like them. The most important thing is you took care of those teeth.. I don't believe you're having any trouble meeting women so I don't think you need to be worried about those lips. Link to post Share on other sites
lonelyplanetmoon Posted April 3, 2020 Share Posted April 3, 2020 Omg kissing a guy with big soft lips? Very sexy! Agree with the others smiling is an expression of happiness and laughter. Both these things when they radiate from within you will make it easier for other people to connect with you or feel comfortable with you. Very important things in life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 3, 2020 Share Posted April 3, 2020 4 hours ago, max3732 said: Something about me I haven't come to terms with yet is that I'm embarrassed by my smile. Growing up I never had any issues until high school when I noticed my lips were so much bigger than everyone else's and I had this gap in my front teeth. After that I stopped showing my teeth when I smile and now I naturally just kind of curl my lips up to try and make them look smaller. People have told me that people find Angelina Jolie attractive, but I just don't like the look of it. Onetime I was at the grovery store and this little kind pointed and asked his mom why my lips were so big. No one else in my family has lips like mine and I'm sure I'm not adopted. A few years go I got my teeth straightened and I thought I'd feel better about smiling and it certainly helped but I'm still not happy about how I look. What else can I do? First, NOBODY is perfect despite what you may think. When you have 10% body fat you want it to 8% when you have three stacks of abs on each side you want 4.....it never ends trust me been there done that.....what's important is that you are HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF and content....be self assured, confident and project that to others (not arrogant) and you will put off very positive vibes Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted April 3, 2020 Share Posted April 3, 2020 If you're not having trouble getting dates, don't stress about it. We are usually our own harshest critic. I guarantee you every girl you date, no matter how hot she is, will probably have something she's as equally self-conscious about. You'll be right, bro. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 On 4/2/2020 at 9:20 PM, simpycurious said: First, NOBODY is perfect despite what you may think. When you have 10% body fat you want it to 8% when you have three stacks of abs on each side you want 4.....it never ends trust me been there done that.....what's important is that you are HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF and content....be self assured, confident and project that to others (not arrogant) and you will put off very positive vibes you DO have to have some confidence and stop being so critical of yourself you (as well most everyone else) will never be TOTALLY satisfied with everything about themselves Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 19 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: If you're not having trouble getting dates, don't stress about it. We are usually our own harshest critic. I guarantee you every girl you date, no matter how hot she is, will probably have something she's as equally self-conscious about. You'll be right, bro. Agree. And if you're trying to hard to "curl your lips" so they look smaller it probably comes off as rather strange. Michael Strahan doesn't seem to have trouble finding women with his gap and big lips! Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 5 hours ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Agree. And if you're trying to hard to "curl your lips" so they look smaller it probably comes off as rather strange. Michael Strahan doesn't seem to have trouble finding women with his gap and big lips! Yes, true. I wonder if Max is any good at football? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 On 4/4/2020 at 6:14 PM, Trail Blazer said: Yes, true. I wonder if Max is any good at football? Actually Max is a dynamic WR. I am currently trying to convince him to sign with the Colts. Lucas Oil Field is a good place to play. Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted April 6, 2020 Author Share Posted April 6, 2020 On 4/4/2020 at 1:28 PM, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Agree. And if you're trying to hard to "curl your lips" so they look smaller it probably comes off as rather strange. Michael Strahan doesn't seem to have trouble finding women with his gap and big lips! I've been doing it for so long I do it without thinking about it now. I just remember coming home home day in high school and staring at a picture of me with my friends and seeing those big lips and wishing they were gone. So I looked at myself in the mirror and started trying to figure out how to make them look smaller and I've been smiling like that since. It just feels so weird to actually do a regular smile now. My parents always said I should do a regular smile and have said there's nothing to be embarrassed about. I don't know how they'd react if I started doing one showing teeth again. Do you think not showing my teeth in my dating profile pictures could be a turn off? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 One of my friends, who is a little prone to oversharing, says that she loves her partner's big lips and the feel of them on her. (Use your imagination) Regarding smiles, when I smile, my top lip nearly disappears and I'm very gummy. I've tried smiling with my mouth closed or with trying to change the way my top lip works. But the resulting smile is never as genuine as my real smile. And I'm sure it's the same for you. And yeah, a closed mouth smile is rarely good. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 5 hours ago, simpycurious said: Actually Max is a dynamic WR. I am currently trying to convince him to sign with the Colts. Lucas Oil Field is a good place to play. Just own it Max. I assure you that NOBODY is as AWARE as you are. We all see our own imperfections in an entirely DIFFERENT WAY than most anyone else ever will. Trying to be have the perfect body, the perfect hair, etc is a losing proposition trust me on that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 22 hours ago, max3732 said: Do you think not showing my teeth in my dating profile pictures could be a turn off? Yeah, could be, although you don't really seem to have trouble getting dates, do you? I would think your in-person mannerisms trying to hide it are probably more of a turn-off, I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 On 4/2/2020 at 9:20 PM, simpycurious said: First, NOBODY is perfect despite what you may think. When you have 10% body fat you want it to 8% when you have three stacks of abs on each side you want 4.....it never ends trust me been there done that.....what's important is that you are HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF and content....be self assured, confident and project that to others (not arrogant) and you will put off very positive vibes He needs to put off a confident air about himself and just accept himself for who he is On 4/6/2020 at 2:14 PM, simpycurious said: Actually Max is a dynamic WR. I am currently trying to convince him to sign with the Colts. Lucas Oil Field is a good place to play. I even tried to help Max to no avail......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 3 hours ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Yeah, could be, although you don't really seem to have trouble getting dates, do you? I would think your in-person mannerisms trying to hide it are probably more of a turn-off, I don't know. I have been able to get a few dates, but this OLD is almost like a full time job. I sent so many messages that get no response that I'd say my response rate is like 1/50. In person I don't try to hide it. Just in pictures. Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 On 4/6/2020 at 7:45 PM, basil67 said: One of my friends, who is a little prone to oversharing, says that she loves her partner's big lips and the feel of them on her. (Use your imagination) Regarding smiles, when I smile, my top lip nearly disappears and I'm very gummy. I've tried smiling with my mouth closed or with trying to change the way my top lip works. But the resulting smile is never as genuine as my real smile. And I'm sure it's the same for you. And yeah, a closed mouth smile is rarely good. I think you're right that trying to change it doesn't work that well. I am really happy that I got the gap in my teeth closed though. One thing I was thinking about was getting cosmetic surgery to reduce the size of my lips, but unlike closing the gap in my teeth it seems like it's going too far. I don't know if my bigger lips affect kissing or not. That's pretty interesting as far as your friends overshare. Hopefully someday I'll be able to get to the point where I could be in the same situation. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 I think it's better to just own who you are. Perfection does not exist in humans anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 24 minutes ago, basil67 said: I think it's better to just own who you are. Perfection does not exist in humans anyway. that I have learned Basil for sure....nothing is perfect no matter what someone else thinks. I hope Max can gain some confidence and better yet be able to display confidence the alarming thing to me, as you read through the thread, is that he seems to be greatly pained Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts