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There was a guy that I liked on my course who is in his 40s. He messaged me a few weeks ago and for some reason he decided to read my message and not respond. It was quite personal to me and I was surprised he did not respond. A few days later he asked a question to the course group about a coursework question. I sent him a personal message as no-one had responded in the group but he ignored my reply as it was left unread for 2 days. I blocked him as I thought he wants nothing to do with me. He kept sending memes to the WhatsApp course group while still ignoring my message about the coursework.

I have had a lucky escape. I blocked him on WhatsApp as I was frustrated and did not want him to think it was ok to message me back weeks later. It took him till yesterday to read a message I had sent him 9 days ago about a coursework question he had asked.

I don't know if he can tell I had blocked him on WhatsApp. We were never Facebook friends but were members of a Facebook community group. I have since found he has blocked me on FB as I cannot find him yet when a friend searched for him he shows up in their search results.

I don't know how I am going to behave when we do finally go back to our course. I never asked to fall out with him. He initiated messaging me and when he didn't like my reply just because I was being open, he ignored me. It’s as though he cannot handle intimacy. I am a good person and don't like fallouts, yet I don’t know why he is punishing me when I have done nothing wrong. I don’t know whether to unblock him but not contact him as coursemates will notice if we are not speaking. I feel as though he is in the wrong. I can't believe what I ever saw in him as he is so cold hearted. I certainly would never contemplate dating him ever again.

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Cookiesandough

Sissifer, I’m pretty sure this is the SAME guy you’ve been talking about in many threads. You should have just blocked him a long time ago. It’s clear there’s nothing there/you weren’t compatible but honestly you would not be this invested if you had abundance... Talk to other guys!!! 

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Just now, Cookiesandough said:

Sissifer, I’m pretty sure this is the SAME guy you’ve been talking about in many threads. You should have just blocked him a long time ago. It’s clear there’s nothing there/you weren’t compatible but honestly you would not be this invested if you had abundance... Talk to other guys!!! 

It is the same guy and I am definitely am keeping him blocked. I am a bit anxious and I don't know what to do when I go back to my course when everything reopens as he will be there in class. I really don't want to be friends with someone who can just cut you off without an explanation and ignore you. I think I am finding it hard that someone can do that as we got on ok before.

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Cookiesandough

Nothing to be anxious about. Just walk in there with head held high, focus on your studies, and ignore him. Seriously, he is a man child. He is a lame and not worth any more of your time. 

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ExpatInItaly
2 hours ago, Angel29 said:

He initiated messaging me and when he didn't like my reply just because I was being open, he ignored me. 

What did you write in this message?

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14 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

What did you write in this message?

All I said was I had a very bad chest infection years ago and wanted to make sure I don’t get anything again and will look after myself. I don’t think he could handle that comment as looking back before the COVID was severe he was saying the most extreme things and how everyone in society was going to die. It’s obvious now he has extreme anxiety. I know most people are concerned but he had extreme fear in his eyes. I can’t be walking on eggshells, especially the crap and moaning he has been doing to me over the months about the course and his life and yet I can’t say anything. Potential narcissist, he can’t look after himself.

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ExpatInItaly
29 minutes ago, Angel29 said:

All I said was I had a very bad chest infection years ago and wanted to make sure I don’t get anything again and will look after myself.

I don't think there was much to respond to here, Angel. 

 

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3 hours ago, Angel29 said:

I don't know if he can tell I had blocked him on WhatsApp

He probably knows or suspects it. Your profile picture disappears from his contacts once you block him. (happens also when you delete a number) 

But if he doesn't care, he won't notice any of it at all... 

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Yes he was quite mean to you,

you were only looking for some emotional intimacy which is not too much to ask,

dont let it put you off talking to other guys and so on, keep trying to meet new people, you deserve loving and companionship.

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