83276083_ Posted April 5, 2020 Share Posted April 5, 2020 (edited) I met this guy on a night out at Uni, we have mutual friends so I vaguely knew who he was and vice versa. We were both with our friends and then we ended up making out. We both had our first kiss and it was a great night. He’s naturally quite a shy guy although he’s part of quite an outgoing, popular group of friends. I got the feeling his friends wouldn’t leave him alone about what happened and I was told by a mutual friend that some of his guy friends had told him not to message me back. We didn’t speak for a few days and then we both ended up at the same place again and the exact same thing happened all over. He was with his friends and I was with mine, he approached me and we went off together and had another great night. Again, we walked back together but nothing happened after that. We didn’t talk for a few days and then at someone’s party we started chatting, sat and talked for a while on our own and then ended up going back to his and making out again but nothing serious. I spent the night at his and left early in the morning. The next day I was going home. I messaged him to let him know I was leaving and didn’t hear anything back. A few minutes later I’ve left and I get a message asking me if I'd left yet. I told him I'd gone by that point. He messages back telling me he didn't see the message the wifi was bad where he was with his friends. I tell him its fine and wish him a good holiday. I didn’t get a reply back and I haven’t heard from him for weeks. I can't tell if it was a genuine excuse, if he was too embarrassed infant on his friends or if he wasn't interested anymore but just didn't want to say it explicitly. I’ve just assumed he’s not interested anymore and I know I should probably just move on but part of me wonders if he’s just too shy to initiate further contact. Mutual friends thought we were cute together and told me how shy and rubbish at messaging he can be. He doesn't really use that much social media and when I told him I wasn't sure if he felt the same way the second time we met because he didn't message he told me he never really does that kind of thing and shoved it off as being bad at messaging. Thing is, I feel like if he really wanted to talk he’d have messaged me back and I don't want just be there when it's convenient for him. In the current situation it’s unlikely we’ll see each other for months until we both go back to Uni and I just don’t know how to feel about the situation. I feel a bit desperate messaging him but I felt like we really got on and I just want to know how he really feels. It's both our first relationships and I feel like we're both really inexperienced in knowing what to do in this kind of situation. It's the uncertainty that's making me uneasy. I don't want to miss an opportunity by not contacting him but he could easily just not care at all and clearly isn't contacting because he's not interested. What should I do? Edited April 5, 2020 by 83276083_ Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 5, 2020 Share Posted April 5, 2020 Don't burn this out by doing nothing but just messaging during the time away from uni. Most guys don't like just having to think of things to text to keep someone pacified. Just wait until you're back in uni and then things will be fresh again and go better. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2020 Share Posted April 5, 2020 IMO just because he's shy doesn't mean he is only out for a romantic relaitonship....maybe he just wanted some action and isn't going to put much effort into it. Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 It doesn't seem like he's putting in any effort, only wanting to make out when it's convenient. He's not really interested. Link to post Share on other sites
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