IdealMan1 Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 On 5/4/2020 at 1:03 PM, wtm78 said: Oh no.. please don't get me wrong... Was sharing my values. With her, I was also sharing my values. I used to eat ice cream in the bedroom, she told me not to and I stopped. I wanted a TV in the bedroom, she say she doesn't want electronics in bedroom. I respected that. I was just doing the same thing she did to me, by sharing my values. Would have been nice if I could been shown the same kind of respect. But Like I mentioned before, the house work are just smoke screen to the deeper issues we had. I wasn't able to have a safe space to share my thoughts. While she takes everything I said as criticism and accusations. This conflict in ?? (I don't even know how to describe this issue, empathy???) makes it difficult to get along. I dealt with the same from my wife. I'm extremely organized and me spending years trying to get her on the same page just lead to her saying I'm treating her like a child and now she went and got her own home. It's a losing battle to get her to change. It will always be looked at as controlling even though we men know it as logic. Unfortunately we are not supposed to ask our wives to change, we're only supposed to be asked to change for them Link to post Share on other sites
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