SunandMoon Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 We broke up last month and have been forced to deal with each other ever since. Granted we are on decent terms but we are starting to resent one another. She's already started talking with others online, I still have feelings for her and she feels nothing but physical attraction and had been lying to me by saying "I love you" for a months before the break, apparently. Our lease ends the beginning of May but I may have to ask the landlord if I can stay on a month to month basis, as I do not have the means to move now and the virus has made it far more difficult to rent a place. If worst comes to worst, I may have to move in with my remaining parent as I don't think all this will be over that soon. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 I think you should go ahead and mve in with your remaining parent until you find another place. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 It's not less than a torture. Move out when you can and move in with a friend or your family ok. Living with her while she behave this cold will be very hurtful, just know shes doing what she got to do bcz someday she will meet someone already so that process has began. You'll be ok, just avoid her as much as you can and cut ties forever once you get a place to live. Till then spend this time assuming it's a prison sentence huh Link to post Share on other sites
Author SunandMoon Posted April 6, 2020 Author Share Posted April 6, 2020 Indeed, that probably is the best move given the situation. Though the issue is the parent isn't established themselves, staying with their sister at the moment, so it is merely a waiting game for now. I give her a little more than three years of my life and then she turns around and becomes this cold and distant in an instant...it truly is torture. At least we have two bedrooms, may just permanently move into there for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Supernova11 Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 I dont know all your options in terms of family and friends but you need a plan. You need to look at your situation and find a way out of the house and maybe consider staying with people you haven’t thought of before. You might be surprised who will put you up. OR maybe she has people she could stay with, could you have a maybe painful but honest conversation saying you need to move on now and discuss the options together? Sitting in your house till may, even if the lockdown lifts and you can go out, will be torture. Make your plan. Discuss it here if you need to. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 I think what you do depends on where you live. If you live in New York city, New Orleans, Detroit or several cities in California then you are stuck. If you live in a state with a low rate of infection like Wyoming then get out. Better yet, kick her out. The chances of picking this virus up is low if you just use your common sense so, don't use the virus as an excuse to get out. You know what's holding you back. It's your feelings for her. You don't want to let go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SunandMoon Posted April 12, 2020 Author Share Posted April 12, 2020 Unfortunately I am in an extended stay hotel at the moment, not great for protection from covid, but I am remaining in my room. I left the house in a hurry two nights ago upon discovery that she wants to get back together with her previous ex. The one who controlled what she wore, looked like, and other facets of her life which have lingered and turned into some insecurities. Just couldn't bear the thought of her going back to that.... I am biding my time, probably gonna wait out a 2 week quarantine and then stay with my ex's mother a bit to save money. She is a high risk individual, so trying to be careful about it. In the meantime; my mother is ramping up her move, the issue here is that we don't know how long the virus will linger and mess with money earning in general. I will have to live with her for awhile, but hopefully I can reflect and build more on my life during then. Maybe look more into my start up idea and how to give it an edge in the market. It has been difficult to sit down and do critical thinking to formulate an overall successful or feasible plan. I have been lost at sea with all the emotions a break can do to you. I do know dealing with my anxiety (and or depression) is a key issue to tackle going forward, it's part of what has held me back mentally, I think. So setting up medical insurance in some form or another is a good start. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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