Angel29 Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 A few weeks ago a coursemate messaged me, I replied and he read my message and didn't reply - I brushed it off. A few days later he asked for help in our college WhatsApp group. I replied and he decided to purposely leave my message unread for 8 days. I blocked him after 3 days of not reading my message as he made it clear he wanted nothing to do with me as he ignored my private message but was posting jokes in the college group and going on other social media. I know people will say it is childish blocking someone but I felt so hurt as we got on quite well before all of this and I had not done anything wrong. I know this all started the time he was having panic attacks over corona virus so I don't know if that had anything to do with it. I have noticed since I blocked him he has been posting jokes daily in the college WhatsApp group which he did not do before, he knows I can see these messages. I don't know if he is trying to get my attention. I really don't like fall outs. I don't know if I should leave him blocked until we return to college but who knows when that will be or unblock him but just don't contact him. It is eating away at me. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 Why would you unblock him? He's treated you badly. Leave him blocked. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 He's posting jokes for everyone and anyone. He probably is not thinking about you when doing it. If he's posting jokes he's certainly not grieving but trying to have fun. Never block then unblock. It makes you like you're playing games for attention. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 I don't see anything childish about blocking someone who is a time-waster that you don't want to speak to again. However, if you are blocking and unblocking him just to get his attention.. well, yeah that's a bit immature. It's understandable though. Rejection stings, especially when it feels like you have been set up for it, but you have handled it the best way you could. If he decides to send you a random question again, he will know you blocked him and aren't interested in talking to him anymore. If he reflects on the reason, he may realize that it was the result of his behavior, which may prompt him to change his ways. From what you have described though, it's more likely that he won't care. You really don't know if any of his current behavior has anything to do with you. I know it feels that way, but truthfully he may not give it that much thought. Some people are just like that. It's all about them. In my experience, those are the types you need to try to avoid. Try not to think about it too much, and avoid reading his posts wherever possible. He really isn't worth the energy. Link to post Share on other sites
Cornholio12 Posted April 6, 2020 Share Posted April 6, 2020 That sucks, but just leave him be. If you unblock him now, it will be more of the same later. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted April 25, 2020 Share Posted April 25, 2020 This is identical to your previous post. The guy is a douche and doesn't have much of a liking for you. I hope that you have now let it go and moved on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted June 16, 2020 Author Share Posted June 16, 2020 So I finally saw this guy yesterday after 3 months as I had to go the college and submit my coursework. The class had been there all day but I went in the afternoon and he was there. He initiated conversation with me and said hello and asked how I was. I was polite and said the same. I felt like he had been watching me, as soon as I started packing my belongings so did he. I realised then he must have finished his work a while back as he did not hand his folder to the tutor. He watched me give the tutor a thank you card and said he should have done the same. I left and then a minute later when I was in my car he came out and walked to his car. I get the feeling he may have wanted to speak to me, possibly to clear the air. I would never date him after the way he ignored me. I am baffled he even spoke to me as he had made it clear through ignoring my messages he wanted nothing to do with me. I feel a bit hurt still as most men I have met are usually not so unkind like he was. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted June 17, 2020 Share Posted June 17, 2020 It sounds like you are analyzing every little move he makes. Why? What's the point of this? This guy doesn't care much about you, so don't spend so much of your energy worrying about him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 It's a new custom - people ignore you online to show you that they don't want to have anything in common with you, but face to face are nice... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted July 19, 2020 Author Share Posted July 19, 2020 I did unblock him. A few days ago out of the blue he asked if I wanted to catch up and go for a walk. I’m a bit cautious as now lockdown has lifted I wonder what his motives are and if he will apologise. He isn’t a bad person so I don’t know why he behaved the way he did. Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 Keep in mind that no one owes you a response. You don't have a relationship with this man, he owes you nothing. As you grow older you will realize that a lot of people will "leave you on read". It doesn't mean anything other than he didn't reply. Don't make scenarios up in your head when you have no idea why. Could be as simple as he had nothing else to say. He is allowed to post on social media regardless of whether he replies or not. People these days are too quick to cyber stalk and analyze peoples posting habits and assume its all about them. He doesn't have to apologize for not replying to your message. No one owes anyone a reply, is it courteous? Yes, but it's just the digital age. You have to learn to not get offended by this. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 All of this is ridiculous. Nobody owes you a response on social media. Somebody not responding is just part of life. No need to get your knickers in a twist. It is possible to ignore somebody without clicking a block button. I reserve blocking for somebody who has been aggressive / inappropriate or somebody who has been removed from my life through a break up or the end of a friendship. To play all these games over somebody not replying to a message is unnecessary drama. The idea that you blocked this guy, have now unblocked him & are considering hanging out with him says you need to learn how to draw better boundaries, how to keep your own counsel and overall develop a thicker skin Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 I just didn’t like the fact he had ignored my 2 messages. I have since developed a thicker skin and not to take things personally. He could have been going through something in his life as I know he had elderly relatives to look after at the start of the pandemic. I am glad he said let’s meet for a chat and walk as I prefer in person interactions and the exercise will be good. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 Of course you didn't like it when he ignored you. Nobody likes to be ignored but with social media that is par for the course. You are meeting him so meet him. enjoy your walk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 18 hours ago, Angel29 said: I just didn’t like the fact he had ignored my 2 messages. I have since developed a thicker skin and not to take things personally. He could have been going through something in his life as I know he had elderly relatives to look after at the start of the pandemic. I am glad he said let’s meet for a chat and walk as I prefer in person interactions and the exercise will be good. Or he just didn't want to reply. People have lives and not everyone is obsessed with social media and analyzing responses. You shouldn't be upset over a non reply to a nothing conversation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 18 hours ago, Angel29 said: I just didn’t like the fact he had ignored my 2 messages. I have since developed a thicker skin and not to take things personally. He could have been going through something in his life as I know he had elderly relatives to look after at the start of the pandemic. I am glad he said let’s meet for a chat and walk as I prefer in person interactions and the exercise will be good. Why are you even going on a walk with this guy after being so upset about being ignored by him before? Why give him another chance to ignore you again after the walk? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted July 22, 2020 Author Share Posted July 22, 2020 9 minutes ago, stillafool said: Why are you even going on a walk with this guy after being so upset about being ignored by him before? Why give him another chance to ignore you again after the walk? I want to find out why he did it and see how he responds through his body language. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 So you are showing up on this walk spoiling for a fight? It was months ago. It was a nonevent to him. meeting him & bringing this up to ambush him with your continued upset about such a trivial thing will just aggravate the whole situation & ruin your day even further. Let it go. If you can't, at the very least don't everybody's time dredging up this BS from so many months ago. Life is too short to nurse silly grudges. Link to post Share on other sites
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 Personally, i'm the type of guy, I really don't care about the way anybody feels about an unread message or text that they sent me or I have sent them... If the message was really important, it shouldn't be relayed through a text in the first place, like when did we develop timelines on answering texts? I've had a woman approach me before over this exact thing and all I could muster up was "I don't care"... Like, when people put priority information into a non-priority format, what the hell do you expect is going to happen? So, with no context, with no explanation, you just believe this guy hates you now? I am so lost. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 48 minutes ago, Angel29 said: I want to find out why he did it and see how he responds through his body language. Why do you still care? Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 59 minutes ago, Angel29 said: I want to find out why he did it and see how he responds through his body language. I highly suggest against this. I don't think you have grasped what has been said in this thread. The man did not owe you a reply. You were talking about school work. This comes across a bit psycho and needy. Just because someone doesn't reply doesn't mean there was any ill will about it. Let it go. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted July 22, 2020 Author Share Posted July 22, 2020 I’m not trying to start an argument at all and want to put it behind me. I’m just curious why he wants to meet up as we have all finished the course now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted July 22, 2020 Author Share Posted July 22, 2020 2 hours ago, CAPSLOCK BANDIT said: If the message was really important, it shouldn't be relayed through a text in the first place This I totally agree with. I think this is why I still felt slightly hung up on it. In future I won’t be sending anything personal in a text and only doing it verbally in person. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 1 hour ago, Angel29 said: I’m not trying to start an argument at all and want to put it behind me. I’m just curious why he wants to meet up as we have all finished the course now. Did you ask him this or just say okay? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted July 22, 2020 Author Share Posted July 22, 2020 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Did you ask him this or just say okay? I just said ok. I think it is probably best to let things happen naturally. I’m not on about romantically but I’m sure once I meet him I will know what his intentions are. He must want to maintain some form of friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
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