A friend ditched me

[Keeves1]

Hello. I hope everyone is staying safe at home during this time. 

I will call those two people in this thread for Kevin and Zebastian. Before I start I want to make clear that Kevin and Zebastian are long time friends and they have known each other longer than Kevin has known me. I’ve met Kevin as we worked together and later we hung out with Zebastian. 
 

Since we all three are in quarantine we often play Warzone in Call of duty: Modern Warfare. (It’s battle royale similiar to fortnite and pubg) And we have played it everyday since the time got weird because of the virus. The game mode only accept three people. Marco who is Zebastian’s cousin joined later and they all kicked me out of the group because we were 4 players. I got salty because they didn’t even tell me. And since when did Marco appear in the picture? So I saw this as Kevin and Zebastian breaking plans without telling me. 
 

Kevin said sorry and that they will make time for us both but the main reason was because Marco is really good at the game and they win alot. I disagree and told Kevin that they are also winning when they play with me. Only difference is that both Kevin and Zebastian are offensive so they don’t think before they attack and always end up dead. Meanwhile my style is the opposite and I think it’s because they’re tired me leading them. But my tactics is not bad and they win with me because I am a good leader. 
 

question is: even if they broke plans without telling me... are they still my real friends after all? Like could I hang out with them besides gaming?
 

 

[preraph]

Sounds like they're just bad losers. Next time you play with them kick their butts. Meanwhile see if you can find anyone else to play with. Yeah it does seem rude.

[Keeves1]

2 minutes ago, preraph said:

Sounds like they're just bad losers. Next time you play with them kick their butts. Meanwhile see if you can find anyone else to play with. Yeah it does seem rude.

I can’t kick their butts unless I randomly meet them in a game but that’s not likely to happend. It’s really rude but do you think I can still be friends with him? Or just cut him off?

[Keeves1]

Sounds weird just cutting someone off and not be friends with them just because off a game but he’s reason was not good either

[preraph]

It's just a game. Do you guys do anything else together or is that all you do? Just wait and see if they still come around for other reasons or invite you back into the game. I don't think it's all that serious but I see why you're miffed. Don't overreact though.

[Keeves1]

13 minutes ago, preraph said:

It's just a game. Do you guys do anything else together or is that all you do? Just wait and see if they still come around for other reasons or invite you back into the game. I don't think it's all that serious but I see why you're miffed. Don't overreact though.

Well we do go out sometimes and just walk around the city but besides that we go out on a restaurant and then home. Kevin has been staying at Zebastians house for a couple of weeks and I’m still with Maria.

[preraph]

Well, unless there has been some reason for you to have a falling out, don't turn this into one. chill for at least a week or two and see if you're going to be included in the rest of their lives or not. Is there any reason at all to think that they could have gotten mad at you about something? 

[Keeves1]

18 hours ago, preraph said:

Well, unless there has been some reason for you to have a falling out, don't turn this into one. chill for at least a week or two and see if you're going to be included in the rest of their lives or not. Is there any reason at all to think that they could have gotten mad at you about something? 

Mhm.... Kevin mentioned that Marco was really good and that they win alot so the only reason I could come up with is that he won’t play with me because he looks at me as a «beginner» I don’t know any other reasons though. 
 

yeah I’ll wait a week and see if they invite me to play. 
 

I also want to say that Kevin has been staying overnight at Zebastians house a few days. 

[preraph]

Well just wait it out and see what happens. 

[Foxhall]

20 hours ago, Keeves1 said:

Only difference is that both Kevin and Zebastian are offensive so they don’t think before they attack and always end up dead. Meanwhile my style is the opposite and I think it’s because they’re tired me leading them. But my tactics is not bad and they win with me because I am a good leader.

I like this idea, the three minds working together,

I had a situation with friends, ah its 15 years ago now, but we used to gamble together,

it was difficult, the idea was the three minds working together but to get three guys to agree and so on was never easy and there were plenty of fall outs and so on along the way, we would usually forget about any heated stuff in a week or so though,

guys are competitive though and it can be frustrating to feel if your the odd one out at times or if a new entrant comes into the gang and you feel your being pushed away,

looking back, I know I took things too seriously at times and got to worked up about it,

15 years on I see those guys maybe once a year or two years now and we are not close at all nowadays,

Id say to you, enjoy it when you have their company, but dont get too annoyed if they are pushing you out, just laugh it off and find new friends or win your own game,

dont get angry but get even, in a quiet way,

its good to have the friendships and the banter, thats what you remember when you look back,

so always try to keep it fun light and enjoyable, avoid confrontations is a good motto.