wtm78 Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 (edited) Too many things happened last few years. I hardly have strength to get up, to do anything. I lost confidence, desire, passion and hope. In a dark place. I want to cry but I no tears is flowing. It's been some time. Am I in depression? Edited April 7, 2020 by wtm78 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 Quite likely. It's time to speak with your doctor. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 51 minutes ago, basil67 said: Quite likely. It's time to speak with your doctor. ^^this 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 Maybe, or still grieving. I'm not allowed to post any commercial links but the website Very Well Mind has some recommendations for online counsellors. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author wtm78 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 i just text my wife (whom have separated 10 months). i told her i have given her my best last 3 years of our marriage. i waited for her to settle our issues, but she just cries, shutdown, run to her parents home, flies for work, and not settle our issues. her conflict avoidance style is very damaging to me. i told her last 10 months i gave her time and space. maybe she has found her peace and happiness, maybe she is still hurting. i dont know.. but i have never felt more alone and rejected. especially during this lockdown.. i told her since she has no intention of resolving any issue, i am willing to release her from her vows. and maybe we should wrap things up soon and finalize the divorce. it took me a lot of courage to send that text. because i know that after sending this. the end is real. i feel so raw and vulnerable now... :""( Link to post Share on other sites
Author wtm78 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 why did you merge this two? they 2 different topics Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 Are you in depression is a general Q. The second merged thread about your STBXW is the specific reasons why you feel depressed. With all of the upheaval going on in your life plus the present state of the world what you are feeling is natural . Take advantage of some of the on line mood elevators & hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 You need to make major changes in your life. Instead you are being indecisive and just getting further and further in the quicksand. Change is good. Pull yourself out of this because it isn't working. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wtm78 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 On 4/7/2020 at 4:26 PM, wtm78 said: Too many things happened last few years. I hardly have strength to get up, to do anything. I lost confidence, desire, passion and hope. In a dark place. I want to cry but I no tears is flowing. It's been some time. Am I in depression? There are more than just the marriage failure that is happening in the last 2 years. My business failed, I'm running out of savings faster than previously planned. Stress with mortgage. Dad a stroke patient. One grandma passed away, the other severely depressed. And a wife who is separated, unwilling to talk about what went wrong, and is asking me how am I randomly and if I need help. During this time realise that I have many friends in my contact list, but in times like this, none I can approach. Basically I have lost everything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 Do something new, anything. Change course. There are some opportunities during this mess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wtm78 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 6 hours ago, wtm78 said: i just text my wife (whom have separated 10 months). i told her i have given her my best last 3 years of our marriage. i waited for her to settle our issues, but she just cries, shutdown, run to her parents home, flies for work, and not settle our issues. her conflict avoidance style is very damaging to me. i told her last 10 months i gave her time and space. maybe she has found her peace and happiness, maybe she is still hurting. i dont know.. but i have never felt more alone and rejected. especially during this lockdown.. i told her since she has no intention of resolving any issue, i am willing to release her from her vows. and maybe we should wrap things up soon and finalize the divorce. it took me a lot of courage to send that text. because i know that after sending this. the end is real. i feel so raw and vulnerable now... :""( This is a subset of the above. It should not be in the same thread 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 (edited) You need to get past the wife part. I'm glad you suggested time to finalize it and get that pat you. That seems to be the main thing you're stressing about. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. That's rough. Does he live nearby? Edited April 8, 2020 by preraph Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 8, 2020 Share Posted April 8, 2020 You could do some online counseling, as has been suggested, but I realize money is also an issue. Are you going to still be employed after this virus is over? If not, there are some opportunities to pick up work right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wtm78 Posted April 8, 2020 Author Share Posted April 8, 2020 no dad stays a distance, the place we bought is near wife family. there was a consideration previous, if setting up a family who can help. i have been trying to get a job, but i have been so depressed i could not face people. i just to be someone with confidence, sure of myself and what i can do. now, i have none of that, i am not able to get out of that for many months... in fact in self isolation before the lockdown. i know its bad, i mean i had times i feel depressed before, but not prolong isolation like this before.. i really want to get out of this but i cant and i had tried many ways.. Link to post Share on other sites
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