Springsummer Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) Tired of texting someone for months. but people go out to meet with stranger nowadays? He is not suggesting. but it's crazy to just keep texting. I might have to suggest it. what do you think? just keep texting for more months until this social distancing is over? Edited April 9, 2020 by Springsummer Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 who is "someone"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 9, 2020 Author Share Posted April 9, 2020 1 minute ago, alphamale said: who is "someone"? someone I have never met but interested. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 Try calling, Facetiming or Skyping instead until this blows over. Texting gets old after awhile. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 Yes, texting long term does seem pointless. But going out to meet people is unsafe. What about video calling? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Springsummer said: what do you think? just keep texting for more months until this social distancing is over? Yes! Or email, FT, zoom, unless you want to risk becoming infected and possibly dying. Just read the numbers. Plus in my city (and others), if you're caught outside by the police not adhering to social distancing order, you'll get fined $1000 and/or six months in jail. Edited April 9, 2020 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 When I meet someone online, I don't talk to them for more than a few days before suggesting meeting up. Of course nowadays you can't exactly do this, so yes, wait until the social distancing is over then ask him to go out. How often do you text? How come you haven't met up before then and how do you sustain keeping the texting going for so long and staying interesting? Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery4u Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 Why has it been months? The social distancing has only been around one month. Shouldn't be going more than a few weeks of texting before meeting, if logistics allow. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 Is this the same guy who asked you for coffee long ago but you declined. Anyway, I think it’s time to take your rship to the next level and actually call each other and talk on the phone 2 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 11 hours ago, poppyfields said: Yes! Or email, FT, zoom, unless you want to risk becoming infected and possibly dying. Just read the numbers. Plus in my city (and others), if you're caught outside by the police not adhering to social distancing order, you'll get fined $1000 and/or six months in jail. I agree that at some point you have stop with all the tech stuff/social media stuff and make it REAL. Poppy, has anyone really GOTTEN A FINE? That is crazy Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 13 hours ago, Springsummer said: Tired of texting someone for months. but people go out to meet with stranger nowadays? He is not suggesting. but it's crazy to just keep texting. I might have to suggest it. what do you think? just keep texting for more months until this social distancing is over? Well it's a matter of whether you'd rather have a date or the COVID-19 virus. The choice is up to you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 13 hours ago, Springsummer said: just keep texting for more months until this social distancing is over? Yes! To do anything else risks everybody's health. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, simpycurious said: Poppy, has anyone really GOTTEN A FINE? That is crazy Yes simp, and yeah it's been crazy. Folks still congregating outside in groups, drinking, partying. All the parks and beaches are closed, but they still find a way. Every day in the local news, I read about cops issuing these fines. When they go to court, given the financial undercurrent due to people being out of work, I expect judges won't require them to pay, at least not right now, but our city and CA as a whole takes this crisis very seriously. The numbers are increasing at an alarming rate, next to NYC, CA has been the hardest hit by this monster virus, and people are dying! In NYC alone, there have been over 5000+ deaths, not numbers, but deaths and increasing every day. CA is not far behind, and we are not expected to reach the peak until mid May. Apologies for going on about it, but when I hear or read about people arranging first meets with virtual strangers they've been chatting with on line, it greatly troubles me. This is a killer folks, and no one is immune to that risk. Edited April 9, 2020 by poppyfields 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 9, 2020 Author Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) 15 hours ago, Mystery4u said: Why has it been months? The social distancing has only been around one month. Shouldn't be going more than a few weeks of texting before meeting, if logistics allow. He asked in a couple of weeks after we started chatting. I answered and then he asked again, then I realized he didn't even read my text! then I ignored him and went on vacation. Started chatting again for weeks and he asked to meet for COFFEE in the LAST minute. I suggested another day, he didn't reply. Ignored. Contacted again with GIF...He disappeared for a week. I ignored him for weeks. Gif again...chatted a bit, and now this social distancing thing. Edited April 9, 2020 by Springsummer Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 9, 2020 Author Share Posted April 9, 2020 3 hours ago, stillafool said: Well it's a matter of whether you'd rather have a date or the COVID-19 virus. The choice is up to you. Yes. but I am worry what happens if we continue texting for months and then we meet in person, he turns out to be someone not I imagined or I turn out to be not someone he imagined? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted April 9, 2020 Author Share Posted April 9, 2020 16 hours ago, basil67 said: Yes, texting long term does seem pointless. But going out to meet people is unsafe. What about video calling? He doesn't chat much, mostly like to send gif. um...He doesn't suggest video calling. I am too self conscious of my appearance to suggest it. Maybe he is the same. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 If you are too conscious of your appearance what are you going to do if you meet in person? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) JMO, but I think people should forget about meeting new people right now, it's just too risky and dangerous. Literally nothing is open for business anyway, even coffee shops are closed around here, except for Starbucks inside the supermarket. What would you do, walk around town standing six feet away from each other, so as to adhere to the social distancing mandate? You don't know where he's been and asymptomatic people are the ones doing most of the spreading of this extremely contagious virus that is killing people in drastic numbers. Why chance it? If you don't want to text or chat on line, get to know each other that way, then perhaps you should tell him to stay healthy and safe and you can reconnect when this crisis is over. I have a boyfriend but that is what I would do. My health is what's most important, to me. Edited April 9, 2020 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, poppyfields said: Yes simp, and yeah it's been crazy. Folks still congregating outside in groups, drinking, partying. All the parks and beaches are closed, but they still find a way. Every day in the local news, I read about cops issuing these fines. When they go to court, given the financial undercurrent due to people being out of work, I expect judges won't require them to pay, at least not right now, but our city and CA as a whole takes this crisis very seriously. The numbers are increasing at an alarming rate, next to NYC, CA has been the hardest hit by this monster virus, and people are dying! In NYC alone, there have been over 5000+ deaths, not numbers, but deaths and increasing every day. CA is not far behind, and we are not expected to reach the peak until mid May. Apologies for going on about it, but when I hear or read about people arranging first meets with virtual strangers they've been chatting with on line, it greatly troubles me. This is a killer folks, and no one is immune to that risk. Yep, nobody is immune that is a certainty. I made a post in another thread about the OSU Football Coach wanting his players back May 1st and said they were young and generally healthy so they could fight it off. I totally understand that world all too well and it doesn't surprise me one bit to have that line of thinking but it really sounds like a CRAZY statement to make when playing with someone's life. I think it's much like that meeting someone NEW and someone you really don't know (pertaining to the Covid-19). Poppy, I don't see much of that here other than beaches being restricted. It looks like everyone with a boat is on the water and the lakes look like July 4th. The private golf clubs are packed literally ALL DAY. I particularly hate that cause it takes so long to play. I suppose each area is being impacted differently Edited April 9, 2020 by simpycurious 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 simp, I'm curious to know where you live, are you in the US? If so, what state? I agree every area is impacted differently, but I thought I read recently that every state in the US was going to implement strict social distancing and shelter at home orders. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 5 hours ago, Springsummer said: He doesn't chat much, mostly like to send gif. um...He doesn't suggest video calling. I am too self conscious of my appearance to suggest it. Maybe he is the same. Sending gifs is even more pointless than texting! You strike me as an intelligent woman - is this enough for you? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 5 hours ago, poppyfields said: What would you do, walk around town standing six feet away from each other, so as to adhere to the social distancing mandate? It's exactly what me and my new “friend” did. I know him from work so we’ve already shared germs there. But even so we maintained a safe distance, as tortuous as that was for me. But it’s definitely doable. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) 5 hours ago, poppyfields said: simp, I'm curious to know where you live, are you in the US? If so, what state? I agree every area is impacted differently, but I thought I read recently that every state in the US was going to implement strict social distancing and shelter at home orders. I'm going to retract this ^^. Apparently there are five states (in the US) who are not under lockdown, as their numbers are low. I hope it remains that way! SC, wherever you are, stay safe. Same for everyone! Scary times. Edited April 9, 2020 by poppyfields Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 I'm not even meeting with people I do know right now. Especially when it's so easy to talk on a phone or online. Even my son elbow-bumps me now 😀 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 1 hour ago, poppyfields said: I'm going to retract this ^^. Apparently there are five states (in the US) who are not under lockdown, as their numbers are low. I hope it remains that way! SC, wherever you are, stay safe. Same for everyone! Scary times. Thanks Poppy....I am in the U.S. No idea why the 5 states don't have a shelter in place. We have restrictions here but they seem to be LOOSE. I am telling you that when it's 75 to 80 degrees and blue skies people are going to GO and do something fun. I did today and it was FUN. I hope you are safe as well Poppy. I was told earlier today that the thinking is that the social distancing will go all through the summer. I know a particular group that will not be HAPPY come the Fall if things don't change. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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