Girlfriend issues

[Slim2221]

Been in relationship with my girlfriend for 6 months right now, with in the 6 months of dating, i've invest way more than she is willing to invest in me... Firstly she's thai from Thailand.. Few days ago she told me if i'm gon marry her, i gotta come up with 1million baht(Thailand currency ) and a big house crib in thailand, moreover i a'int got plans of living in thailand . When i asked her reasons for all this, she said i'm the only daughter of my parents.. Few weeks back, she said i gotta be honest with you, i don't really like black  I prefer white. bulls*** talk, so i reply why ya with me if you prefer white, she replied back, i choose you because you're nice, caring and you look after me real good.  Last night we got into fight.. I'm so confuse i need advice on what to do..   I really wanna walk out tho i really love her so much and i don't wanna get more hurt..

[healing light]

Hey Slim,

Unfortunately, it sounds like you guys are incompatible. You don't agree on basic visions you have for the future. There may be cultural or familial incompatibilities with living in Thailand and supporting her when you don't even want to move to the country. It sounds like part of her appeal for you is feeling that you will provide her with the lifestyle that she wants. It's horrible to hear the person you love would rather you be a different race; that's not something you can control. What will happen if she meets a white guy willing to move to Thailand? Why someone who is white? For the perception of "status?" It's a red flag that she may just be looking for the lifestyle rather than the person.

Honestly, I would let this one go. It doesn't sound like your needs are being met or that you guys are compatible, especially if it feels lopsided to you this early on. This is the honeymoon phase...

[Fletch Lives]

It sounds like she's high maintenance and not that into you. 

The more they love you the less problems you have and the more fun they are.

[amaysngrace]

Yea sure you love her but you need to love yourself more.

Don’t give your love to someone who doesn’t respect you.  Have higher standards than that for yourself.

[NomiMalone]

You’re nothing more than a meal ticket, OP, and worse, one she settled for because she couldn’t find a willing white guy. Do you really want to be that person? 

[FMW]

I agree with the others.  Let her go, now.  Don't waste another moment with her. The hurt you feel now will be nothing compared to what you'll feel if you stay with her.  

[d0nnivain]

She does want love or a significant other. She wants $$$$$  She's a nasty gold digger.  If you don't want to get hurt & get taken to the cleaners financially, dump her immediately.  

[preraph]

Dude, she's nothing but a golddigger.  You have to dump her.  You can't possibly like someone like that, much less love them.  Find someone who isn't living in a dream world. She's never going to find that and it's just BS.  She's a prostitute looking for a sugar daddy.

[kendahke]

9 hours ago, Slim2221 said:

I'm so confuse i need advice on what to do.. 

she's looking for a money ticket.  She'll be with you just as long as it takes her to find a white guy and she'll dump you to go be with him.

I get love and all, but you can't love someone who doesn't accept what you are and has got her eyes peeled for the next walking ATM machine.  You can do way better than that.

Cut your losses and get you someone who doesn't throw racial BS in your face like she does.

Edited April 9, 2020 by kendahke

[elaine567]

9 hours ago, Slim2221 said:

. Few days ago she told me if i'm gon marry her, i gotta come up with 1million baht(Thailand currency ) and a big house crib in thailand, moreover i a'int got plans of living in thailand . When i asked her reasons for all this, she said i'm the only daughter of my parents..

Many people will ignore stuff like this, but she is telling you her plans and if you don't want that then you need to walk away.
These cultural type demands can seem a bit strange or weird to us in the West where we tend to not follow customs to the letter and we get to choose what we want.
But in other cultures, some have little choice.
She probably feels she needs to attract a rich man to take home to her family.
He will then help to support her and her parents. 

[smackie9]

Not much more to say here but that she's using you and you should kick her butt to the curb.

[Kballer]

Ouch.. The fact that she is not even trying to mask that she is with you ONLY because she needs you to pay off her family...  I don't think I could look at myself in the mirror after that.. Think about what she is saying to you..... You mean NOTHING to her... Her ONLY interest in you is monetary... Better that you figured this out NOW, than after you married her, or gave her family money...............       She basically told you that she would have NEVER had anything to do with you except that she was hoping you would buy her parents off.... Now... It's time to pay the piper and if you don't like that, or want that, or feel comfortable with that... the truth is coming out... she does not even LIKE you... Much less LOVE you.. You're a "chump" in her eyes, and the eyes of her family.. Sorry dude... You gotta have some pride and walk away. You deserve to be with someone who truly loves you.. Each of us deserves that. She is not willing, or able, to offer you true love-because of your skin color--that's f***ING STUPID. If you can't see that... Then maybe you should just pay the bribe, and live a life unfulfilled with a woman incapable of loving you... Though I don't recommend that..