Angel29 Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 There is a guy I met 3 years and I thought he could have been a potential suitor. Recently I have started to become aware of things that I do not like about him. Before the lockdown he would spend hours a day on Facebook. He has nearly 2000 liked pages and he 'likes' virtually any post or photos that his friends post. He posts and shares lots of photos/articles as it is quite clear he is seeking validation. He tried to make me feel 'special' but I have since noticed he was posting the same old chat up lines on another woman's profile picture. In the past he accidentally sent me a picture of a woman in a bikini posing against a car and apologised and sent another 'joke' meme but I overlooked them. Recently he has been sending me 'joke' videos and memes but he has sent too many rude ones. Some of these videos are home made porn or pictures of naked women's breasts. I am really put off this guy and understand now why he is in his 40s and never had a relationship. I feel in his head he has built up an image of me and is obsessed with me just because I have replied to his messages. I have only seen him about 8 times in 3 years but he keeps on persisting. I find it weird as we are strangers and he has no idea what I am really like just basing it from social media. In person he is socially awkward. I know men are 'visual' but I think this guy crosses the line and is objectifying women. Recently he put some videos on his social media that he had recorded about the lockdown which I think he did just to get validation likes. I noticed on the video his flat was a complete mess yet he has time to spend hours on social media and look at naked women's bodies. I am quite angry now, how can I get rid of this guy who is a complete mess out of my life? I want a gentleman who is focused on his goals, not women's bodies. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 Delete him from your social media, Angel. This isn't hard to solve. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 You are obsessed with this guy. Not healthy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 (edited) "I am really put off this guy and understand now why he is in his 40s and never had a relationship." ANYTHING like this is s RED FLAG for me and I will simply not touch it.... Edited April 13, 2020 by Gr8fuln2020 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 13, 2020 Share Posted April 13, 2020 This sounds very familiar, like we told you to block him a long time ago, but could just be someone with the same problem. I mean, this is a no-brainer. Just totally block him from your phone, your text, your email, and your facebook, insta, whatever else you use. Totally just block him! Do not even talk to him about it. Just do it. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 4 hours ago, Angel29 said: I am quite angry now, how can I get rid of this guy who is a complete mess out of my life? I want a gentleman who is focused on his goals, not women's bodies. We told you how to get rid of him a long time ago but you won't let him go. Again, just block him from contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Cornholio12 Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 Block him on anything and everything you can think of. Should he successfully manage to rub two brain cells together, he'll get a clue and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 6, 2020 Share Posted May 6, 2020 I don't know the history here...but if some guy I'd never even met was sending me pics of women's boobs I'd be heading for the exit. I mean especially as a repeat thing...it just seems so weird. OTOH, if you want to have some fun you could start sending him d*ck pics. Lots of them. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 6, 2020 Share Posted May 6, 2020 On 4/13/2020 at 9:32 PM, Angel29 said: I feel in his head he has built up an image of me and is obsessed with me... What gives you that idea? He is an attention "whore" on SM, he "likes" everyone and anything, and is sending you sexy pics/videos of other women..and you know he tries to chat other women up What on earth makes you think YOU are special to him? Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 6, 2020 Share Posted May 6, 2020 This guy sounds like he has no social skills, for some reason I'm getting the feeling that he might be on the autism spectrum and maybe he doesn't even have any concept that some of the stuff he sends out would offend the other person. It makes no sense to waste your energy being "angry" about this, just stop communicating with the guy. Pretty simple. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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