Shanex Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 So just three days ago was this (Real life) friend of ten years birthday, and I nicely crafted him a WhatsApp Message to which he only replied 👍🏻. Is that supposed to mean « Thank you buddy »? For heavens sake even if typing him a happy birthday message didn’t take me more than 20 seconds, I doubt I’m overreacting if I find this super rude. It’s not like we’re mere acquaintances. Every now and then he goes super cold, to which I generally only ignore him then he come back to me wondering: « Why don’t you talk to me uh? » I will leave it at that. I’m really not one to confront him or ask him what’s wrong, and since you all may be wondering I have not done wrong to him lately nor ever. Perhaps the friendship has run its course. I just don’t have more time to waste on a whimsical oddball. Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 Did you send him a sentimental message, or a very personalized one? Or was it just a generic happy birthday? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shanex Posted April 14, 2020 Author Share Posted April 14, 2020 Very personalized quite honestly. His passions are music and playing the guitar, and we often threw parties together so it was basically Happy birthday plus adding that I’m looking forward to see him again after the lockdown etc. Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 Well, I can see why you'd be hurt to just get a thumbs up in reply, but I think it's also possible he got a bunch of messages and didn't put as much thought into his response as he could have. If this was the only issue, I'd say, let it slide. But it sounds like you have other issues with this friend. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 I guess it was his way of acknowledging your HB wish and saying he too is looking forward to seeing you again. Does he usually write long messages? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 14, 2020 Share Posted April 14, 2020 8 hours ago, Shanex said: So just three days ago was this (Real life) friend of ten years birthday, and I nicely crafted him a WhatsApp Message to which he only replied 👍🏻. Is that supposed to mean « Thank you buddy »? For heavens sake even if typing him a happy birthday message didn’t take me more than 20 seconds, I doubt I’m overreacting if I find this super rude. It’s not like we’re mere acquaintances. Every now and then he goes super cold, to which I generally only ignore him then he come back to me wondering: « Why don’t you talk to me uh? » I will leave it at that. I’m really not one to confront him or ask him what’s wrong, and since you all may be wondering I have not done wrong to him lately nor ever. Perhaps the friendship has run its course. I just don’t have more time to waste on a whimsical oddball. It was a bit terse alright! People are weird around their birthdays and other people's birthdays. Anyone should be appreciative when someone remembers their bd because as they get older, no one much will. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shanex Posted April 15, 2020 Author Share Posted April 15, 2020 10 hours ago, stillafool said: I guess it was his way of acknowledging your HB wish and saying he too is looking forward to seeing you again. Does he usually write long messages? Fair point and he’s usually not very long winded. But thank you isn’t too much to ask IMO. Maybe I’m overthinking. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 On 4/14/2020 at 10:19 AM, Shanex said: So just three days ago was this (Real life) friend of ten years birthday, and I nicely crafted him a WhatsApp Message to which he only replied 👍🏻. This kind of thing irritates me too on some level. Seems so callous and ‘whatever’. But I guess when I start thinking logically, there’s lots of reasons why I might respond this way. (Well, I wouldn’t, I would go overboard with the thank you’s, knowing me. 😁) But if I didn’t, and gave the thumbs up only- it may be because I had a lot of happy birthday messages and wanted to acknowledge yours and maybe write something more lengthy back to you later. Or I might just not be wanting to get into a big conversation at the moment. Busy or whatever. Maybe if he doesn’t say anything else, you could follow up with “hey, what’s your f***ing problem?!“ No, no don’t do that. But it’s tempting, ay? 😉 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shanex Posted April 15, 2020 Author Share Posted April 15, 2020 Hey K.K As usual, I appreciate your positivity and thought too. Let’s be serious though, he’s not busy these days and probably not on a Saturday afternoon right during a total lockdown. Also, I would’t want to further overthink all this but he sure has sort of a problem, either with me or in his life at the moment and he’s admittedly not great at communicating... And sure I’m tempted to give him the virtual « middle finger » but probably not a good call haha Anyways; I have no reason to talk to him more for the time being. Haven’t heard of him since anyway. Will be curious to know what he has to say if he reach out to me again soon. Just no « why u not talk to me... » Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 6 minutes ago, Shanex said: And sure I’m tempted to give him the virtual « middle finger » but probably not a good call haha I know babe, but don’t do it lol. You really don’t know why he responded this way. He could be really depressed or having a hard time with something. Just take the high road and say nothing, and keep it in the back of your mind if the opportunity ever arises to smack him in the face with it. 😁 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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