Janc07 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Hey guys I matched with this guy on tinder a couple of months ago. We never met up before. He is a nurse and told me last week that he is tested positive for covid. I asked if everything was ok and he said he thinks he’ll be alright since he has mild symptoms and will be self-isolating himself from his family. Last night, he left me on read. He has been kind of distant lately. I don’t wanna bother him too much but I also wanna check up on him despite that he left me on read. What should I do? Double text him and ask how he’s doing or wait until he reaches out to me? Link to post Share on other sites
Haerts Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 (edited) When did he start to become distant? Was it before or after testing positive for covid? Also, he's probably been going through a rough time. Probably working very hard and now he has to isolate, so try not to read too much into it for now. I would wait one more day before reaching out again. If he doesn't reply again, then just let him be. He might reach out to you whenever things are better. Edited April 15, 2020 by Haerts 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Erik30 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 It's only been one day/night... maybe he was tired. Just wait for him to text you back Link to post Share on other sites
Author Janc07 Posted April 15, 2020 Author Share Posted April 15, 2020 28 minutes ago, Erik30 said: It's only been one day/night... maybe he was tired. Just wait for him to text you back It’s been 2 nights now Link to post Share on other sites
Erik30 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 3 hours ago, Janc07 said: It’s been 2 nights now I would give it at least a week, since your last message was a question... but I'm someone who never double texts. I look at it like "I know you got my message, so it's up to you to reply or not." If I don't hear from them I assume they're busy or not interested 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 (edited) Did you say it's only been 2 nights , AND he was a nurse dealing with covid , and now he has covid , jezuz give him a break and some time first of all. He's probably had a month from hell and now he has it. Edited April 15, 2020 by chillii 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 What's leaving someone 'on read'?? The first thing that jumped out is this: 9 hours ago, Janc07 said: We never met up before I sincerely think you need to take one gigantic step back, Janc07. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 11 minutes ago, Emilie Jolie said: What's leaving someone 'on read'?? On iPhone (and maybe on Android, I don't know) you can change setting to show when you've read a message. The sender will see "delivered" and then "read." WhatsApp and a few other texting apps also let you see when your message has been read. Terrible idea, imo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 OP, you've never met this guy and now he is sick. If I were him, replying to someone I'd chatted with on a dating site would be pretty low in priorities right now. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilie Jolie Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 11 minutes ago, introverted1 said: On iPhone (and maybe on Android, I don't know) you can change setting to show when you've read a message. The sender will see "delivered" and then "read." WhatsApp and a few other texting apps also let you see when your message has been read. Terrible idea, imo. Ok thanks, I wasn't familiar with the expression 🤦♀️. Yeah, no reason to be so invested in a guy you've not seen IRL, whatever the circumstances. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dangerous Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 I think that many people over-think about texting protocol. As some have already said, it could be a number of reasons why he didn't text back. Personally, I think you can be natural and authentic to yourself. If you want to find out, just text like "Hi, just checking in, you ok?" Then he'll either reply or he won't and you'll know 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DarrenB Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 (edited) With a global pandemic at hand and with him being at the center of a virus recovering facility, I would leave him to his own accord. By no objection should you text him to check up on him, but I think the last thing he needs at the moment is constant communication with someone through a dating app. Edited April 15, 2020 by DarrenB Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted April 15, 2020 Share Posted April 15, 2020 Simply tell him to text you when he’s better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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