Ghosted ? or I over exaggerated

[cantsleep]

I was basically like getting chased with xrated pics videos texts about wanting to do this that lol like too crazy loll this girl was smoking hot super chill to talk with and most important determined to getting what she wanted .I was in a very bad 6yrs relationship that i had tried to break off for years , i was miserable with this chic so It kinda gotta to me after a few months that I too wanted to get with this fantastic chic .

She came over on a Friday night spoiled me with a 250$ bottle of my fav cognac , she had the nices smile i was relly into her so i made the first move then she took over loll we sticked to forplay and it was best time in the sheets from what i could remember of my life no joke here . She stayed till monday night thats 4 days on our first 'date" when she left i couldnt get her off my mind and i guess she felt the same way she called me 30 min later we spoke on the phone for 4h .

next day was tuesday she went to work only to play sick and come back to my place spend the day lol again fantastic time left at night same thing called me talked for 4-5h cool

Next day a lil breakk alot of texting till end of week i got really sick flue or something i could not get out of bed i was alone home dying she came without telling me i never heard her ring i was outta of it , when i got up a mutual buddy calle me up to tell me she came over and called him worried i was not answering for hours she seemed to believe i was with my x .. cute ..called her up she insisted to come back and take care of me and take care of me she did it was the nicest cutest thing a girl done for me in a while ,

that week ens was very chill just chilling in bed mostly monday came she was put on home work assinment for the whole week she made up some story that she was being bothere by her bro at home and she asked if mabe she could work from my place since im a night guy the day i sleep so no one is ding my office , i said sureee why not come . she worked fom here all week friday came she stayes till Sunday again fantastic excepet sunday early morninh as i crawled into bed i got a cold vibe unlike any shes given before was cold i said heck shes sleeping went to bed , that morning she kinda made it a gotta go kinda thing she left at 11 am tool her work things with her and bef9ore she left said this week she would work from home , this was all like outta nowhere she flipped up i didnt give it too much importance i flet we both relly liked each other she constantly told me she was really into me , from when she left it became a struggle to have a conversation wouldn't answer tcxts never called me once i felt something was wrong o asked a few times she said dont worry im a bit mad at life it will pass that was i thik the only text i got from her . After 4`5 days i was startin to hurt feel betrayed lied to disrespected like i told her b straight up what is it no ans , i took a Friends cell a very uglky friend and txt her hey , she immediately responded hey whats up i was shocked i had not heard from her in like 3 days text her many times nothing ,

thats when things went down hill she started insulting me calling me a physco said i was harassing her all i kept asing her was what is going on and why did u even bother chasing me all this time telling me that if i wasn't into u to be straight up and now u cant be straight withe me ?

complete differant girl , Only got meaner to mutual insulting , then i sent 1-2 last messages saying heck she was really cool had i known things would end this way i would of not taken the risk and compleatly loose her as a friend no answers , then more insults ..

finally i got real self medicated one night next day felt over her at least alot better wrote her an apology as i was much older i said that i acted childish exaggerated and that i was sorry for that and understood why and respected that she wished not to speak with me like reallly nice good bye letter and ya nothing .... my mind is turning not understanding what happened to me i feel really hurt

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, cantsleep said:

i got real self medicated one night next day felt over her at least alot better wrote her an apology as i was much older i said that i acted childish exaggerated and that i was sorry for that and understood why and respected that she wished not to speak with me like reallly nice good bye letter and ya nothing .... my mind is turning not understanding what happened to me i feel really hurt

I am confused about the timeline. How long ago did you meet this woman, and when exactly did you get in touch again? How much time had elapsed? 

[cantsleep]

1st time we meet in person was 2 months ago from there lasted about a month , first started taking about 8 monthes ago 

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, cantsleep said:

1st time we meet in person was 2 months ago from there lasted about a month , first started taking about 8 monthes ago 

I don't get how that means you're "much older"?

[cantsleep]

mabe that was not phrased correctly , I was older in age 

[Yosemite]

How old is she and how old are you?

If you're a lot older and got sick...that right there could've been enough for her to question why she's spending her youth on an older guy.

Also, she spent money on you...did you ever spend money on her? She probably wondered why she's buying $250 bottles of cognac for an older man and he's not doing anything for her.

[cantsleep]

shes 21 i am 36 , money is really not relevant in this whole story .. i am a self made millionaire she actually was (ya) an employee of mine that is how we started talking on the phone and the shot time we did spend together was always my treat unless she gave me no option to pay .. tried paying for the first bottle she sent me right back an e transfer of a bigger amount lol  so not really about that , and she to begin with is from a very wealthy family ..It ws something i found cute her like spoiling me thats all it was

Edited April 16, 2020 by cantsleep

[MsJayne]

My guess is that something upset her during that last day she was at your place. Maybe some little thing you said, or something she saw, or maybe even something someone else said to her. But if you really like her,  just outright ask her what upset her that day.  Lots of younger women lack the confidence to speak up when they're peeved about something, when you ask them why they've gone quiet they make some crap up or just say, "Nothing" if you ask what's wrong.  The fact that she's abused you tells me that she's angry and hurt too, something went weird and I think it you need to ask her why she feels she can't tell you what the problem was. 

[cantsleep]

Thank you it  makes alot of sense !