Ellener Posted July 3, 2020 Share Posted July 3, 2020 My life has gone very quiet- I do in a way miss being a mother and required in the universe! Go clothes shopping, enjoy every opportunity. Find your sanity...like that. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted July 4, 2020 Author Share Posted July 4, 2020 Yeah l could imagine and it's pretty common you know too. Even when l say l thought l was free myself there'd been a lot of mixed feelings and already missing her growing up and fun and even just our routine we'd had this last few yrs too before she got her license , it was a sad time for me before the freedom feeling. Anyway l didn't bother but thought l might come back and mention it just for anyone passing through with problems themselves and maybe thinking well , that was easy. Ummm, nope , sorry. We had a big fight a wk before , that was a really big deal for us and l know it made us think about the situation. lt was pretty upsetting actually for us both because we never fight ever but it made us both think and me that l couldn't go on with the stressing and stuff. Says me now , well l'm trying haha. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted August 19, 2020 Author Share Posted August 19, 2020 (edited) Well l don't bloody know . lt's still a whole bag full of mixed rocks. She's got a new bf , they move fast these days don't they. He seems very genuine and caring with her and he's by no means lazy he's done a lot of things around our house and always makes sure h pays any dues round here when they're here. Buttttt, he doesn't have a steady full time job atm or a trade or any real quals, or is he sure about what he wants to do with the rest of his life . He's no freeloader though l can say that much , and he has nice stiff and a very expensive motor bike so he can get his sjhyt together none the less. At least that's a start. My daughter , God l just dunno . She's mostly her old classy and dignified self around him so that's a really nice to see again thing, but she's also back with this dead beat loser friend that doesn't work doesn't study , dosn't drive, nothin, she just sits around eats and lives on unemployment benefits and when she's around her l don't even recognize her. She just acts like some partying dumb ass teenager brains out the window , head all over the place. The other thing is they're all still getting free rona money now , most of the uni's are in chaos and jobs are all on hold , which is what she really needs , everything is , and it might be till christmas they're saying , no one knows. So , unless she really wanted to which she doesn't anyway well, there's nothing to help her get her head back on track, they sleep all day stay up n party and just do what they want. But l'm fkd if l know why she allows herself to just act so bimbo around this friend , as useless as this friend is she doesn't act like that herself she's actually quite sensible to talk too, even though l can't stand the b@tch. 19 and 1/2 . parents can't do all that much about anything from here unlss they're willing and the cards will just need to fall where they may for now. One other portion of it all l also have trouble figuring out is well- this is a once in a life time situation, they're getting free money she just finished 13yrs of schooling and went out top of her class , is it really that bad that she throws all the bs out the window for awhile right now. And there really isn't much they can do right now anyway . She could take on some pointless nothing do at home course but right now she has zero interest anyway. Edited August 19, 2020 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 19, 2020 Share Posted August 19, 2020 I'm not sure this is all about the daughter. It almost sounds like you would prefer she take a job in a local supermarket (aka - what's readily available right now) vs. continuing to get the (greater amount of) Corona money from the government... and eventually put her on the conveyor belt toward supermarket lottery booth, and later supermarket management... rather than continuing to collect (more/similar funds) from the government, and await the time when the bank president positions that you want her to one day occupy, will become available and those banks will begin summoning her for interviews. (all of that despite the way you looked down upon the supermarket worker in the original post) Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted August 19, 2020 Share Posted August 19, 2020 She's 19. When I was that age....wow I was a mess. Partied like crazy, bad friends etc. At 23 I realized what I really wanted in life and that is what set me straight. Have you sat her down and asked her what she envisions her life being like in 5, 10, 20 years? What her hopes and dreams are? If she doesn't know, ask her to take some time to figure it out. Then you know where to start towards that path. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 19, 2020 Share Posted August 19, 2020 She is probably telling him "my dad just doesn't get it" as you write. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted August 19, 2020 Author Share Posted August 19, 2020 (edited) Not at all sg , if you got yourself unstuck on what l tried to say first up and saw other stuff through the thread you might understand what l mean. My gf's worked in a sm, l did a lot of all kinds of jobs early in before l started my business. Your not getting who she is or what l'm sayin. It's very simple, she's a brilliant artist and has a very high IQ , of course it'd just be a shame if gifts like that were wasted . EX feels the same, maybe we're worrying too much , l dunno . Thanks rabbit , and yeah l've heard that one a few times and l was pretty all over the place too . By 23 l'd started 3 careers done all sorts of crap arse jobs and went off 2yrs backpacking . Then at l stumbled over a business op and next second suddenly l owned my own business, so yeah l know how it can be and your probably right. But anyway yeah , we talk a lot about things she wants to do and stuff, we talk about all kinds of things. Edited August 20, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Rude and argumentative 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted August 19, 2020 Author Share Posted August 19, 2020 4 hours ago, JRabbit said: She's 19. When I was that age....wow I was a mess. Partied like crazy, bad friends etc. At 23 I realized what I really wanted in life and that is what set me straight. Have you sat her down and asked her what she envisions her life being like in 5, 10, 20 years? What her hopes and dreams are? If she doesn't know, ask her to take some time to figure it out. Then you know where to start towards that path. Funny for you it was at 23 too , that seems to be a real turning point in age same as it was for me and l've also heard a lot of other people talking about things happening at 23. Anyway , she does know her field, roughly , def' something in the arts, l was doing art in night school at 19 myself actually. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted August 26, 2020 Author Share Posted August 26, 2020 Just to wrap this thread up . We've had some really nice time at home in this last wk or so which hasn't happened much for quite awhile lately, busy life my girl haha . Well l have too actually but bc l work from home being home isn't an issue for me butttttt anyway. And you know what , l'm bloody proud as could be of her. There's been a lot of new n old changes and plans goin on in that head of hers lately , she's always had such brilliant grasps and ideals but they've all been thrown out and stomped all over this yr swapped for partying and booze wellllll, thankfully they're still around after all and back with new zest. This guy she's been seeing seems to be good for her too and she's really finding her center again and coming back to earth . No doubt there'll be more yrs of ups and downs , troubles and partying butttt, l think she's gonna be just fine. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted August 26, 2020 Share Posted August 26, 2020 Great to hear things are turning around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted August 26, 2020 Share Posted August 26, 2020 @chillii. Yes, good to hear! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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