Woggle Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 Whatever floats your boat. I like passion and emotions as well but without the soap opera stuff. If it can be contained to just play arguing then I can see how it would be fun but these couples who break and make up then do it again and again and always seem to be shouting at each other just seems exhausting. That is actually how the relationship with my first wife was at first but then it quickly spiraled into the trainwreck that caused me to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Not just boring but draining. Soon you find yourself doing anything to avoid them. Maybe they're not boring people, but their "relationship" is boring so they intentionally pick a fight to bring some life back to it. My opinion is if your relationship becomes "that" boring, you're in the wrong relationship with the wrong person. I've been in long term relationships, you gotta be creative! Arrange to meet at a club one night, pretend you dont know each other, and have him "pick you up" like he would a stranger. Sleep in separate rooms one night and have him "sneak" into yours. I dunno, it is possible to have an exciting passionate relationship without having arguments and tons of drama. JMO. Edited April 19, 2020 by poppyfields 2 Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Maybe they're not boring people, but their "relationship" is boring so they intentionally pick a fight to bring some life back to it. My opinion is if you're relationship becomes "that" boring, you're in the wrong relationship with the wrong person. I've been in long term relationships, you gotta be creative! Arrange to meet at a club one night, pretend you dont know each other, and have him "pick you up" like he would a stranger. Sleep in separate rooms one night and have him "sneak" into yours one night. I dunno, it is possible to have an exciting passionate relationship without having arguments and tons of drama. JMO. And that "JMO" is very intriguing. I do think that there are much better things to engage in besides ARGUING. I am not sure that I have EVER been so bored that I needed to argue with someone. Just another PLUS for having hobbies I guess. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 Yes it is possible which is why drama is not needed. Drama in relationships is like doing hard drugs or drinking to excess. You might get a temporary buzz but you feel like crap afterwards and it wrecks your life. I would rather take my wife out on the jet ski and go really fast or travel together. After this whole Corona thing is over the first we are doing is going on the jet ski. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, poppyfields said: Maybe they're not boring people, but their "relationship" is boring so they intentionally pick a fight to bring some life back to it. My opinion is if your relationship becomes "that" boring, you're in the wrong relationship with the wrong person. I've been in long term relationships, you gotta be creative! Arrange to meet at a club one night, pretend you dont know each other, and have him "pick you up" like he would a stranger. Sleep in separate rooms one night and have him "sneak" into yours. I dunno, it is possible to have an exciting passionate relationship without having arguments and tons of drama. JMO. Yeah, I've seen couples who seem to love the drama. I'd find it exhausting. No need for drama. There's always ways to spice thing up. I've been together with my wife for 42 years. Friday we had out house power washed. They were right outside our bedroom. We had a little fun while they were right outside. Always can spice things up. 🙂 Edited April 19, 2020 by Piddy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
contel3 Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 On 4/18/2020 at 3:07 AM, Letschill said: A lot of women seem to argue for no reason. Then they seem to like it when a man argues back. But guys who say nothing lose out. Is this normal? I don't know if women argue more than men, I haven't looked up the statistics. However, I would like to point out that ignoring someone who is upset is a pretty bad idea regardless of gender. I usually gets the other person even more worked up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Woggle said: Yes it is possible which is why drama is not needed. Drama in relationships is like doing hard drugs or drinking to excess. You might get a temporary buzz but you feel like crap afterwards and it wrecks your life. I don't even get a temporary buzz. I just get mad and frustrated and sometimes it takes me a couple of days of pretending to be normal while I get over whatever happened. Lucky this only happens once a year or so. Edited April 19, 2020 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 2 hours ago, contel3 said: I don't know if women argue more than men, I haven't looked up the statistics. However, I would like to point out that ignoring someone who is upset is a pretty bad idea regardless of gender. I usually gets the other person even more worked up. If you twist yourself into knots trying to make them happy and it never works then what other option do you have? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted April 19, 2020 Share Posted April 19, 2020 For the make up sex! 😈 2 Link to post Share on other sites
contel3 Posted April 20, 2020 Share Posted April 20, 2020 8 hours ago, Woggle said: If you twist yourself into knots trying to make them happy and it never works then what other option do you have? You could try listening, trying to understand why they are angry. Think about your own opinion of the situation. And then consider if there is a solution you would both be happy with. Sometimes the last step isn't even necesssary and it turns out it was just a missunderstanding. Doing something you later feel resentful about only damages a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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