No contact for a week, shall I reach out?

[Realitysux]

3 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

You played too many games, he isn't interested anymore.

That does happen too

 Recently I was a victim of a guys game and all my feelings are gone. We are on each others social media and he believes the fact I haven't blocked him means I still like him! He will have his rude awakening sooner or later. 

 

Edited May 7, 2020 by Realitysux

[ExpatInItaly]

I just don't see the point in continuing to keep this guy on your radar at all, OP. 

I guarantee you he isn't thinking about you anywhere near as much as you're thinking about him. 

[stillafool]

9 hours ago, miranda561 said:

Jerking his chain as in? Playing him? 

I dont think hes dating anyone else, i mean it was only a couple of weeks he asked to meet me and in quarantine it would be near impossiblefor him to have met another in person at least. 

He was very forward the last time we spoke and was flirting a lot..And overall seemed quite into it. But yeh i dunno things can change i guess 

This is a man.  Men like female attention and that is probably one reason he kept asking how you feel about him.  You gave him nothing so why wouldn't he move on and talk to other women on line, ,meet someone who gives him the emotional energy he's seeking and start communicating with her.  Some women are very feminine and know how to talk, flirt, stroke egos, be sexy all over text and phone.  If he is working hard I'm sure he appreciates that type of communication with a woman right now.  That is why I think his attention has been shifted to another woman by now.  

[miranda561]

3 hours ago, Realitysux said:

I'm sure this is normal. If I liked a guy and I hadn't heard from him in a few month's, I would assume he moved on and I would assume with someone else. I work in the trades, I work with men all day and I have yet to come across one that can remain single. Men are sex driven and in my experience are looking for regular sex. I don't know him but this mentality could be driving his thoughts to believe it's the same for you. That's just my experience. This forum is full of strong opinions but if you like the guy then give it a shot. If you don't then pass. You seem to be over thinking this a lot. If you do like him, you need to start showing him more interest. Ask him what he wants! 

Youre right men are sex driven. But that's different to genuinely liking someone and being with them. For me personally that takes time and doesn't happen that often. I don't feel the need to jump from person to person so quickly. But if hes like that then so be it. 

I think that is a good question  to ask him what he wants. And to even ask him if he's found someome else or interested in another. The same way he asked me a few weeks back.

 

[miranda561]

2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I just don't see the point in continuing to keep this guy on your radar at all, OP. 

I guarantee you he isn't thinking about you anywhere near as much as you're thinking about him. 

Well ive not given him much of myself or anything so i wouldn't expect him to.

I think i asked him once what he thought of me and he said im nice but a bit of a mystery 

[miranda561]

1 hour ago, stillafool said:

This is a man.  Men like female attention and that is probably one reason he kept asking how you feel about him.  You gave him nothing so why wouldn't he move on and talk to other women on line, ,meet someone who gives him the emotional energy he's seeking and start communicating with her.  Some women are very feminine and know how to talk, flirt, stroke egos, be sexy all over text and phone.  If he is working hard I'm sure he appreciates that type of communication with a woman right now.  That is why I think his attention has been shifted to another woman by now.  

I dont think you're wrong in that what he is seeking. And he could be exploring his options. Just like i always do. But again that's not the same as committing to someome and being with them. He may not have found the "one" just like that. It was only  a couple weeks ago he asked to meet me. So i just see it as that.

If i find out hes no longer interested in engaging which hasnt been the case. Then ill go my own way 

 

[miranda561]

3 hours ago, Realitysux said:

That does happen too

 Recently I was a victim of a guys game and all my feelings are gone. We are on each others social media and he believes the fact I haven't blocked him means I still like him! He will have his rude awakening sooner or later. 

 

People always think im playing games but for me its more that i take my time to open up. 

I have met those kinds of people who enjoy toying with others and have also been on the receiving end of that. But that sure as hell isnt me. 

Ive been in a similar situation to you and its funny how they think our interest will still be there😂. 

[Realitysux]

22 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

People always think im playing games but for me its more that i take my time to open up. 

I have met those kinds of people who enjoy toying with others and have also been on the receiving end of that. But that sure as hell isnt me. 

Ive been in a similar situation to you and its funny how they think our interest will still be there😂. 

It is funny 

[Versacehottie]

You surely seem to be living in your head rather than real life.  You are basing a lot of what your thoughts of this guy over a sentence or two he said to you weeks or months ago and are forgetting the MOST basic of all: that you haven't been on a single date over a period of 6 months, never met.  So it doesn't work like that hanging onto these 1-2 sentences and imagining a ton of things of depth.

As far as the feasibility of him dating others/having the potential to date others, all the guys I know can easily conjure up a girl they are talking to or hooking up with.  It's easy to string girls along, reconnect or have someone on the back burner that you pull up when the need arises.  And they do.  Why do you think he answers your texts?

[miranda561]

12 minutes ago, Versacehottie said:

You surely seem to be living in your head rather than real life.  You are basing a lot of what your thoughts of this guy over a sentence or two he said to you weeks or months ago and are forgetting the MOST basic of all: that you haven't been on a single date over a period of 6 months, never met.  So it doesn't work like that hanging onto these 1-2 sentences and imagining a ton of things of depth.

As far as the feasibility of him dating others/having the potential to date others, all the guys I know can easily conjure up a girl they are talking to or hooking up with.  It's easy to string girls along, reconnect or have someone on the back burner that you pull up when the need arises.  And they do.  Why do you think he answers your texts?

Not on one sentence or two no. A whole three hours worth of conversatiom i had with him. That's  a long time. And obviously i cant relay everything on here. Would take up too much room n space.

He had serious intentions which is why i came back to him. He is the type if he isnt interested or sees potential at all then he will completely ignore/block the person. Which he told me himself. 

But anyway im not going to carry on disputing with you.

[hippychick3]

2 hours ago, miranda561 said:

I dont think you're wrong in that what he is seeking. And he could be exploring his options. Just like i always do. But again that's not the same as committing to someome and being with them. He may not have found the "one" just like that. It was only  a couple weeks ago he asked to meet me. So i just see it as that.

If i find out hes no longer interested in engaging which hasnt been the case. Then ill go my own way 

 

Answering "are you bored lol" to a text YOU sent him doesn't show he is interested in engaging with you. He doesn't initiate any communication with you because he is not interested in you. He only hasn't blocked you yet because you're not that important enough to bother.

If he could read these posts and realized how obsessed you are with him, he'd surely block you though. 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, miranda561 said:

Not on one sentence or two no. A whole three hours worth of conversatiom i had with him. That's  a long time. And obviously i cant relay everything on here. Would take up too much room n space.

You may not be the only woman he is having 3 hour conversations with and as a matter of fact that could be why you haven't heard from him.  He's on 3 hour convo's with others.

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, miranda561 said:

People always think im playing games but for me its more that i take my time to open up. 

You're not taking your time - you're avoiding it completely. 

You've made zero progress with this since your first post in this thread. You talk about it and go around in circles but you don't actually act on anything. I'm not sure we can really give you helpful advice because you don't seem to do anything with it other than talk about it some more. 

I don't know what it is about this guy that intimidates you so much or what you're hiding from him, but it's obviously not a match if you still don't feel you can give him more than random texts or calls once in  a blue moon in the several months since you first made contact. 

Edited May 7, 2020 by ExpatInItaly

[miranda561]

4 minutes ago, stillafool said:

You may not be the only woman he is having 3 hour conversations with and as a matter of fact that could be why you haven't heard from him.  He's on 3 hour convo's with others.

I don't know any one who wpuld spend that long on the phone with multiple people or with people who they have no interest  in. NONE. I myself wouldn't do it either 

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, miranda561 said:

I don't know any one who wpuld spend that long on the phone with multiple people or with people who they have no interest  in. NONE. I myself wouldn't do it either 

Who said he wouldn't have any interest in them?  Do you think you are the only interesting woman online?

[miranda561]

4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

You're not taking your time - you're avoiding it completely. 

You've made zero progress with this since your first post in this thread. You talk about it and go around in circles but you don't actually act on anything. I'm not sure we can really give you helpful advice because you don't seem to do anything with it other than talk about it some more. 

I don't know what it is about this guy that intimidates you so much but it's obviously not a match if you still don't feel you can give him more than random texts or calls once in  a blue moon in the several months since you first made contact. 

Its not that im intimidated. Its just a pride thing. 

Im just a lot more careful in what  i say and do with a person i have interest in. But which ends up coming across as if i have little interest. Hence all his questions "do you like me?".."do you want me?" "Am i your type?" Etc etc

 

[ExpatInItaly]

9 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

I don't know any one who wpuld spend that long on the phone with multiple people or with people who they have no interest  in. NONE. I myself wouldn't do it either 

What makes you think he has no interest in another woman? 

And I don't mean to be unkind, but I don't think you can really use you own conduct as reflective of how most people communicate. Most don't dodge meeting a guy this long either. 

Edited May 7, 2020 by ExpatInItaly

[miranda561]

6 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Who said he wouldn't have any interest in them?  Do you think you are the only interesting woman online?

Ive been told by other guys on that app, im the only sane/cool  one on there. And there are a lot of weirdos. That is their experience.

Im not saying he wont find others interesting but he specifically said he finds me interesting. So im just going with that. 

[stillafool]

24 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

Ive been told by other guys on that app, im the only sane/cool  one on there. And there are a lot of weirdos. That is their experience.

Im not saying he wont find others interesting but he specifically said he finds me interesting. So im just going with that. 

I don't doubt he finds you interesting,  but you aren't the only interesting woman out there.  Plus there are more apps than the one you are on so basically for anyone who is looking online the field is wide open.  Millions of people.

[miranda561]

1 hour ago, stillafool said:

I don't doubt he finds you interesting,  but you aren't the only interesting woman out there.  Plus there are more apps than the one you are on so basically for anyone who is looking online the field is wide open.  Millions of people.

I understand  that. 

[Versacehottie]

3 hours ago, miranda561 said:

Not on one sentence or two no. A whole three hours worth of conversatiom i had with him. That's  a long time. And obviously i cant relay everything on here. Would take up too much room n space.

He had serious intentions which is why i came back to him. He is the type if he isnt interested or sees potential at all then he will completely ignore/block the person. Which he told me himself. 

But anyway im not going to carry on disputing with you.

lol, sweetie, not disputing with you.  It's an explanation. If you don't want advice from people who have a different perspective, that's on you. You obviously don't have all the answers otherwise you wouldn't be here asking--and better yet this guy would have been in touch, possibly even dating you off your previous conversation, emoji.

3 hours is a time frame.  You mentioned the 1-2 sentences you extracted from this conversation or perhaps it was another previous one as the reason he's serious about you or only into you.  That in itself is funny.  Most online or app dating amounts to nothing & turns into nothing.  The ones that do, they usually meet up and go from there rather quickly. That you are giving this much emphasis to an online guy that you never met, connected with 6 months ago and still haven't met and taking his words as gospel show how naive you are being. Idk, it's like you are out of touch.  But if you want to believe that he is totally into you and going to be yours, go for it. Good luck 

[miranda561]

2 hours ago, Versacehottie said:

lol, sweetie, not disputing with you.  It's an explanation. If you don't want advice from people who have a different perspective, that's on you. You obviously don't have all the answers otherwise you wouldn't be here asking--and better yet this guy would have been in touch, possibly even dating you off your previous conversation, emoji.

3 hours is a time frame.  You mentioned the 1-2 sentences you extracted from this conversation or perhaps it was another previous one as the reason he's serious about you or only into you.  That in itself is funny.  Most online or app dating amounts to nothing & turns into nothing.  The ones that do, they usually meet up and go from there rather quickly. That you are giving this much emphasis to an online guy that you never met, connected with 6 months ago and still haven't met and taking his words as gospel show how naive you are being. Idk, it's like you are out of touch.  But if you want to believe that he is totally into you and going to be yours, go for it. Good luck 

Obviously its not one or two sentences, its over a long period of time and what hes said only 1/5 of what has been mentioned on here.

Im not saying we are going to go ride off into the sunset necessarily. But at least acknowledge that there could be potential here since he asked to meet.

 

Edited May 7, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[ExpatInItaly]

8 hours ago, miranda561 said:

 But at least acknowledge that there could be potential here since he asked to meet.

There's no potential because you're too shy to actually meet him. 

 

 

[miranda561]

I cant exactly meet him now can i. We're  going to be in lockdown here for the next few months 

Im not shy. Due to the on and off contact it just never ended up happening. But at least he's asked now i guess 

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, miranda561 said:

I cant exactly meet him now can i. We're  going to be in lockdown here for the next few months 

Im not shy. Due to the on and off contact it just never ended up happening. But at least he's asked now i guess 

I'm going to bow out of the thread. 

I don't really think going in circles is helpful for you.